u/CovvelShmovvelton

I think whenever I start to get frustrated with other people or situations, it's because my very specific plans and vision didn't turn out the way I hoped. That's asperger's related because we tend to have very rigid minds and also rely heavily on plans going accordingly. If it doesn't work out, it seems like our brains short circuit because of the tendency to think about and process things in concrete, black-or-white ways. So now I understand myself a little better. People get frustrated with me because they don't know what's wrong. I (and others) just lose my temper more easily and have a harder time focusing when the rigid or specific idea or plans don't work out.

In those situations, it would probably be good for me to try being more patient and understanding that I can be flexable and adapt. Everything doesn't have to go exactly according to plan. After all, it's impossible for things to always go according to plan anyway!

Please offer any advice or tips you have for this struggle

I don't wanna lose her 😭 I'm legit scared ...

I wanna see if my reasons are the same as yours.
To me personally, I prefer the term "Asperger's" because it's what I was originally diagnosed with as a child when the term was still used in psychiatry.
I also feel like Asperger's is a little bit different from autism in general. Yes it falls on the spectrum, but those with Asperger's specifically are usually more high functioning and can have advanced natural skills like pattern recognition. I'm not saying Asperger's is superior or anything. I just think that even though Asperger's Syndrome can fit onto the autism spectrum, it usually has distinctive differences.

What are your experiences with it? Mine is a constant fear of choking suffocating or drowning in anything from drinks to food. To the point where I can hardly eat a meal in peace or even fall asleep without fearing choking on my spit. I'm constantly aware of every tiny sensation in my throat. Does anybody have any issue like that? I literally have to sedate myself to be able to fall asleep without constantly coughing or snorting in case there is something stuck in my windpipe. It's the worst. I can't hear myself think without a little voice being like "do I have to make myself cough do I have to make myself cough do I have to make myself cough ???" And that's not even all the obsessions and compulsions I have.

Kind of just venting and wanted to hear other's experiences. You can offer reassurance if you want but I'm not necessarily asking for it