u/helo-_-

i'm 22 and i work at a clothing store. i have a coworkers that's maybe 40 who works there part time just for the discount. he makes ~$120k at his full time job. he claims that he's in a happy relationship with his girlfriend even starting to go to church together and visiting each others family grave sites and i've seen her before when they came in shopping.

my whole time working there i never got a flirty vibe from him. he acknowledged that im attractive but not like he was attracted to me. he started to take a liking to me i thought in a friendly way acting like im his best work friend. all of a sudden a week or two ago he asked me when was the last time i went on a date, i said it had been a minute, he was like "whattt that's hard to believe because you're such a nice girl. do men not approach you?". i kind of blew it off.

he then randomly told me this long story about how when he was about 30 he was sleeping with an older married rich woman who furnished his apartment,etc. he was even getting a bit in detail about the sexual parts. he eventually cut her off because she started to get controlling and want to go on trips with him and he didn't want them to get caught. i was just like "dang i would've just taken advantage of the situation. that's fun that you got that experience back in the day with her". i think he may have taken that as an invitation and that i might be okay supporting his "affair" with me if he's tricking on me which is not necessarily true because i'm not sleeping with nobody lmao.

i discovered we both like jewelry because he had on a bracelet that i want a version of (a jeweler made cartier juste un clou). he let me try it on then a couple days later he was like "you know i was almost thinking about getting you one" which i blew off because that's a big jump and also where is it then lol. recently i've been on the hunt for particular diamond earrings so ive been shopping around w jewelers and i mentioned it to him. he started talking to his cousin who's a jeweler to see if he can make them for me. i was obviously planning on buying them myself and was expecting him to send me his cousins number so i can speak with him. but he's been leading the whole thing only relaying the status to me so it's like are you gonna buy them for me?? 🤔

this whole time i couldn't be 100% sure if he was actually trying to flirt or if it was giving " i like you in a way because i have kids your age " but what confirmed it was yesterday. he came up to me and said "sometimes i look at you and in my mind i have to tell myself no" im like "😀 what you mean ". he said "well because i think you're a good looking lady". i was just like "haha you play too much". 🤨

i'm not really that interested in doing anything strange with him because i wouldn't want him to tell my manager and cost me my job. it's just retail but still. and i think my manager recruited me because he's attracted to me so i could def see him letting me go if he saw me doing something with another guy. also i don't know if this guy has enough money to go around for his girlfriend, kids (including a baby that's like 9 months old), AND me. he's not my ideal target. but if he's tryna get me some earrings i'll take it, save me a couple thousand.

i work at a clothing store and our supervisor is so rude to me everyday for like the last month. i don't think she's doing it to anyone else. every little interaction with me even as simple as me saying im going on my scheduled break it's "well why wouldn't you be it was time for you to go 2 minutes ago". i rarely have an interaction with her that's plain and normal.

examples:
she'll ask me to confirm something obvious on the walkie like she was going to grab a short sleeve shirt for me and went back and forth on the walkie like "you mean a short sleeve t shirt? oh you didn't say short sleeve. so you really want short sleeve? i thought you wanted long sleeve. i guess ill bring short sleeve then".

she has helped customers even sometimes customers that i already started helping then accused me of not helping anyone forcing her to have to. then complains about my numbers being low as if she didn't steal my sale. i actively help anyone i can because i want my numbers to improve.

ill admit im perpetually a few minutes late. never call off. but even when im on time she acts surprised when i come in. she once got angry with me because i came in and was working and she allegedly didn't know i was there because i didn't walk up to her and say "im here" but i was on the schedule so couldn't that be assumed?

has stood behind me in the middle of helping customers build outfits etc to try to get me to leave to go on my 15 minute breaks. the general rule is you have a time for your break but if you have a customer, you would wait for them to leave. with me, if i have a customer she pesters me constantly asking if they have left yet. even asking me specifically where my customer was so she could see him to prove to her than i'm actually helping someone. like she thinks im lying saying im helping someone to avoid going on a paid break ...

yesterday i wanted to buy a jacket so i waited until i clocked out then asked for her to check me out. she said she's so busy with closing procedures that it would push her back to check me out im like "no problem i can buy it tomorrow". she then proceeded to check me out but complained the whole time. i was supposed to leave at 9. she's scheduled until 10 to help close. clocked out at maybe 9:03. around 9:05 she was yelling from the front of the store to get me to hurry up and leave the store but i was grabbing my things. by the time i got out there and asked her to check me out it was maybe 9:06-9:08. she was complaining that i have to be ready at the door for her to walk me out the gate since she has the key because it's too hard for her to walk me to the gate this late when she has to count the registers. the gate in question is like 10 steps away from the register.

so today i had downtime and i saw shirts were messy so i was fixing them. she came up and said "actually the shorts over there are even worse so could you straighten those up instead". i said "mmhmm" she said angrily "no it's not 'mmhmm' you need to do it now because we have a corporate visit soon". this seems like no misunderstanding, just plain rude i spoke to the general manager today. he wants to have a meeting with me and her tomorrow to mediate. i'm sensitive and can cry easily so i might need a shot going into this lmao. any advice?

i'm 22f and never been to a mental health professional, not diagnosed. i've been perpetually late to school and now work since elementary school. when i was in school, my teachers would just tell me "you have to start waking up earlier". but i think once i started working afternoon shifts, i realized i could be awake 5+ hours before i have to be somewhere and im still always late. the few times im early or on time, it's because i accidentally thought i was supposed to be somewhere earlier than i was or i was trying to be there like 20 minutes early and ended up on time. im realizing that this could possibly be caused by anxiety. i watched a segment on my local news that talked about reasons why someone could be perpetually late and they mentioned mental reasons like adhd or anxiety and it clicked for me. in my head it takes me an hour or two to get ready. so even if im home awake for 3+ hours, i sit and procrastinate getting ready until i have only one hour left before i have to go because im anxious about even going. is there help i could get for this?