u/hoahoahoajawn

Hello fellow ppl!

This may be long, I’ll put a tldr at the end.

So I’ve dabbled in the kink fetish bdsm scene etc when I was younger, reckless, and in a diff state and city. I didn’t do it as safe or smart as I should have if I’m being honest and got extremely lucky with some of the encounters I had considering how little I knew. That being said I really stopped exploring that side of me a while before I got with my partner, not because of him, a lot of things happened and I just ‘cooled down’ and with him we’ve been p vanilla (by my standards). Anyways, ive been exploring and expanding my gender and sexuality once again and honestly feel the desire again. I know some areas I want to really delve into but i want to do it safely for his and my own sake. I also want to help my partner explore anything he may be wondering about as well.

I know he’s open to it but is less experienced than I am, so while we can learn together I don’t want either of us to be lost and ‘hurt’(accidentally i mean) eachother in any way. I feel wholly sure of our consent and boundaries, but bringing up what I want to try, how to try it, is what I’m struggling with. I have questions , a lot of them. We both have our own traumas and triggers that I want to be certain we navigate with care and know proper aftercare etc too.

So the bottom line is I’d love recommended subreddits that are safe informative queer kink communities… surely there must be some? I would really just like a place I could ask questions, have and read discussions, that I can share with my partner.

TLDR;
Desiring to explore the kink side of things with my partner, safely, and am seeking knowledgeable/discussion/dialogue spaces(subreddits preferably) that are queer and kink centered. Trauma informed queer kink spaces plssss

Thank you!

Give me suave, shady, shadowy, hunting, haunting, anything that evokes the essence of a cat (I’ll accept silly too like the living tombstone cats lmao) really any genre but preferable dark and shadowy

TYIA!

I see too many (and have been part of them myself) posts and stories of having awful experiences, avoiding the dentist outright due to anxiety and or finances, and questioning every thing a dentist says. However today I want to write something else

Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you do. I was one of the many who wasn’t raised with dental hygiene being taught, dental care wasn’t a thing unless it was an emergency, I was always taught it was scary and anxious. I didn’t know different. But this year I had a cascade of dental issues one after the other, thank god I quit smoking almost 3 years ago. But that is to say my health was in a scary place, I look at pics of even my gums from February and it terrifies me. I’m 32, this all likely could’ve been avoided.

But I finally found a dentist that heard me, communicated, walked me through what I really needed, a wake up call but a kind one. Im still stressed going but I don’t cancel my appointments anymore, I’m no longer sick from my teeth, I’m not in constant pain or discomfort. I’m not embarrassed to go in. I’ve seen my dentist and their staff almost 1-2 a month this year and yes while the cost sucks(mine are very transparent and have payment plans), I am so unbelievably happy to have my dental health returning.

I could see my dentist was having a hard day today, he told me about a traumatic pull (he says probably the worse of ‘26) and hadn’t been sleeping well. I told him the extraction he did on me was the best heal I’ve ever had and I was in so much pain when I had gone in. Needless to say I can see the toll it takes, and that yall really care about your patients. Of course there will be ones who don’t or are numb to it all, but this isn’t about that. You guys are undisputed champs.

That is to say tmi as well but my mothers heart and mental conditions were made worse due to the severity of her teeth health ( a big reason I’ve started taking this seriously) and truly I wish everyone knew how important teeth were as it’s far beyond just eating our favorite snack or a pretty smile.

Thank you thank you, and yes I’ve left my dentist good reviews, I am one tooth away from a completed treatment plan and I couldn’t be happier.

THANK YOU and treat yourself kindly doctors!!! You’re saving lives

To the clients in here; there is absolutely a dentist somewhere that will be the best one for you, please please don’t put off your dental care, they are not our enemies, they are unsung heroes with little sharp tools lol

I never knew I could love a dentist/dental office like I do. 🙏🏼😭tyty

I’ve searched the group and found some recs for other musicals but specifically I’m looking for a singer/songs that have the sort of very deep theatric and dark singing like in Thunder Bringer! I know (and follow) Luke Holts music but he definitely has a gentler sound for his original work vs Zeus (understandable lol)

I find that deep powerful voice intoxicating (who doesn’t) and I’d love to find more singers/songs w that kind of powerful feeling!

TYIA!

ETA; not the biggest fan of pirate music but I know they got a lot of those baritones lol

My family has really been trying to look at what and where we can realistically afford and have seen several beautiful houses under foreclosure but have zero idea how you go about it or if it’s worth the hassle if it’s a drawn out process. Like I had a friend buy an auctioned off house and the state it was in was so horrible he was constantly trying to make sure the house didn’t cave in (they bought it cus they could afford it, not afford to entirely renovate it)

I don’t understand how anyone can afford starter homes (or worse) at half a million dollars. I’m starting to feel gaslit lmfao

Me my partner and my sibling are all looking to move in together and go in on a house somewhere between Trenton and Philly/Camden. I’ve been eyeing Burlington but generally that area. I am visibly queer, we are all POC. Are there any areas to be cautious of? Are there any areas that are remotely affordable?

Most of the affordable houses I’ve seen are in Salem in South Jersey but that’s a bit too south. Me and my sibling working in Philly, my partner in Trenton so we’re really trying to find a place that we can all commute reasonable to and fro. I don’t really understand NJ taxes either and how certain counties it can be extremely high? How do I find that info…?