u/hundredsmustdie

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I am currently unemployed and I have struggled to find work for two years. I've been living away from my parents but last year my dad was diagnosed with cancer and in February we discovered that it is terminal. My dad had signed a DNR and we were expecting only to have a couple of months with him so I ended up staying with family down south. I applied for sick notes so I wouldn't have to search for work whilst I was staying with him as I was having panic attacks pretty regularly. I have always struggled with my mental health and I am currently on PIP as I have autism and phobic anxiety. I have a capability to work assessment in person this week and I am freaking out about it. I have self harmed on my leg from stress as I don't want to say the wrong thing and have my universal credit taken away. I have less than two months left on the lease of my current place as my roommate's intend to move out so I will likely have to move back in with my family anyway and I'm not sure I will find work where I am in those two months. I'm not sure whether or not to explain my situation to the assessor on Thursday or if that will make my situation worse. I only need to be on universal credit for two more months if I am unable to find work in the time required. Do I say this to them? I have been good for applying for jobs up til February I have attended training sessions required of me by the job centre and participated in the Restart scheme although I did not find work in this time.

I am currently unemployed and I have struggled to find work for two years. I've been living away from my parents but last year my dad was diagnosed with cancer and in February we discovered that it is terminal. My dad had signed a DNR and we were expecting only to have a couple of months with him so I ended up staying with family down south. I applied for sick notes so I wouldn't have to search for work whilst I was staying with him as I was having panic attacks pretty regularly. I have always struggled with my mental health and I am currently on PIP as I have autism and phobic anxiety. I have a capability to work assessment in person this week and I am freaking out about it. I have self harmed on my leg from stress as I don't want to say the wrong thing and have my universal credit taken away. I have less than two months left on the lease of my current place as my roommate's intend to move out so I will likely have to move back in with my family anyway and I'm not sure I will find work where I am in those two months. I'm not sure whether or not to explain my situation to the assessor on Thursday or if that will make my situation worse.

I'm not sure if the PSPO is still in effect. I don't think it was necessarily a good policy as it just seemed to push homeless people out of the city centre into the surrounding area. I've been reading about the Archers Project and they say it's okay to give people money if you think it's what they need in the moment but I also worry about giving money out as I'm not in the best financial situation myself currently and I don't know if I'm comfortable giving money to someone for them to spend on drugs. It seems like overdoses are pretty common but I also don't want them to suffer from withdrawal symptoms which could also kill them it seems like whatever you do in that situation you're hurting them.

I've been harassed and grabbed a couple of times which hasn't been great and I'm trying to not lose sympathy for people in a desperate situation but I'm unsure of what I can do to help change it?

We only lived together just under a year. She decided to do her masters and has moved out to Cornwall and we keep in loose touch and we're still friendly with one another. She's said that once she is in a steadier housing situation I can come see her and stay as long as I want. I was depressed for most of the time she lived with us. I had a massive episode a week after she moved in and self harmed on my chest and arms. She was really supportive and understanding but I feel insanely guilty about that being her introduction to living with me. I was unemployed for much of the time we had together and my dad got diagnosed with cancer early on so in terms of mood I wasn't really any good to be around. We would do movie nights and stuff and I think we had fun hanging out together but overall I don't think her time in the house was very good. She said she had planned to move out for a while but I keep having intrusive thoughts about when my birthday happened and I was in a really bad way and i hadn't showered or brushed my teeth or anything because i didn't have the energy to get up out of the living room and I must have just, stunk of BO and penis and butt smells the whole day and she didn't comment on it at all but I keep playing it back in my head because a few days later she said she was thinking about doing her masters after not really talking to me for a couple days and I don't know if that was just the last straw for her. We still talk and are friendly but I just feel really awful for how I was around her like just, miserable at best and gross at worst.