u/iaintgonnacallyou

Hypothetically.

Let’s say your girlfriend invites you on the annual family camping trip. Yall got together shortly after the last one. She’s previously mentioned (when you first started dating) that her ex “friend with benefits” would accompany her on this trip but that they were no longer a thing. Let’s say when yall started dating, she said she doesn’t like to stay friends with ex’s.
As months go by, planning for the trip begins. You mention not being comfortable with her ex fling coming. She says it’s unlikely she will, as she’s dating girlfriend’s cousin now.

Few more months pass. Trip is almost here, yall are discussing it while spending the day together at the lake. Your girlfriend is looking through photos from the previous trips and asks if it’s weird that she hasn’t deleted photos of/with her ex’s. Your girlfriend brings up the ex fling and *facetimes* her, introduces you to her, asks if she’s coming on the camping trip, then updates her about her life.

Hypothetically, of course. Would you go the fuck off?

Let’s say your girlfriend invites you on the annual family camping trip. Yall got together shortly after the last one. She’s previously mentioned (when you first started dating) that her ex “friend with benefits” would accompany her on this trip but that they were no longer a thing. Let’s say when yall started dating, she said she doesn’t like to stay friends with ex’s.
As months go by, planning for the trip begins. You mention not being comfortable with her ex fling coming. She says it’s unlikely she will, as she’s dating girlfriend’s cousin now.

Few more months pass. Trip is almost here, yall are discussing it while spending the day together at the lake. Your girlfriend is looking through photos from the previous trips and asks if it’s weird that she hasn’t deleted photos of/with her ex’s. Your girlfriend brings up the ex fling and *facetimes* her, introduces you to her, asks if she’s coming on the camping trip, then updates her about her life.

Hypothetically, of course. Would you crash the fuck out?

Everytime my girl and I get into it, she calls her mom. We have alot of small spats, most of it is misunderstandings but every single disagreement or argument or miscommunication we have, she calls her mom about it.

I’m no contact with my own mother so at first, I was like maybe they’re just that close and it’s uncomfortable for me? Me and this girl have been together for a year and they’re **not** just that close. It’s lowkey codependent as hell. Thereve been fights she called her mom about where her mom told her to leave me. When we were on vacation, had an argument and she called her mom, her mom told her to leave and let me figure out my own way home. Her mom has never acted different toward me based on what my girlfriend tells her though.

When I say fights, I mean disagreements. Someone catches an attitude and we argue. It’s never gotten physically or verbally abusive, we don’t even raise our voices at each other during serious conversation.

Regardless, it’s not okay with me. I don’t like people in my business and unless it’s unsafe, I don’t see why she needs to bring her mom into our shit. I understand needing to vent but every single disagreement is being reported to her mom and they’re essentially just talking shit the entire time. My closest and only friend lives across the country so I vent to her or ask advice, or journal, or do self therapy, or just get over it because I’ve accepted being this close with someone all the time means there’s gonna be some friction and not every disagreement is that deep.

I’ve told her this before and she admitted that her mom gets very defensive about her (naturally, I’m a mom too), and that she needs some friends of her own but GIIIIRLLUHHH!!! She’s on the phone with her right now venting about a miscommunication we had. Am I the asshole here?

We’re out here breaking norms and stereotypes while raising accepting children. Shout out to us!

I’m wondering what rules you all may have set around weed. I’m setting some of my own after coming to a realization that quitting entirely may not be for me but that I need to set rules for myself. So far, I’m happy with them and my partner has helped keep me accountable.