u/iloveyou1234565321

I am trying to understand why someone might stay, even though there has been big betrayal.

I have heard that some woman will boast about sleeping with married men. I am interested in your experiences.

The more detailed the better. I am wanting to better understand porn addiction.

Me and my husband have been married for 4 years. He is a porn addict. He doesn’t know I know, because I was very suspicious and looked on his phone and found it. Now I know, but I don’t want to tell him I snooped on his phone. I know, I know, I need to be better. Anyways.
He is a great dad and I am pretty happy in our relationship. Other than we don’t have as much sex as I was want. Obviously because his hand is soo much better. Which I get, porn is very stimulating and peak. He also really struggles to finish when we do and stay hard (ED). I really have compassion for his addiction.
What is bothering me today is. I feel like sex isn’t special to him. Are porn addicts always imagining someone else? Do you still enjoy sex with your wife? Do you feel less connected because of porn? Do you still love your wife even though you struggle with porn addiction?
What do you wish your wife knew about your addiction?

Disclaimer: We have been married for four years and I think I have said no to sex probably four times. I am also an okay looking, clean, normal woman who is up for sex day or night.
He doesn’t know I know. He deals with erectile dysfunction because of it. It negatively affects our sex life because he doesn’t want real life sex as much as me.
Please help.