u/izon3_01

Hi y'all. Sorry if this is long.

I'm looking for christian advice. I currently feel sad and terrible about my relationship with my LD bf. We met on a language exchange app. He's from Japan and im from the US. We started talking everyday since mid april, then switched to talking on instagram. Eventually we shared pics and started calling often. our feelings grew. It was natural. We decided to become official around end of May.

The thing is that hes not christian. He grew up in a dysfunctional family. he grew up in the church in the Phillipines but turned away at 16 because he didnt feel that God was listening to his prayers. He says he was genuine with his prayers. He didnt ask for things but that God would heal his parents' relationship but it only got worse. His dad left when he was 13. Now theyre seperated. His dad lives in the Phillipines with his older sister and he lives eith his mom in Japan. He says his dad is Christian but his mom isnt. She has lots of hatred towards his dad. And his mom is quite mentally unstable because she had also mentally abused my bf and threaten to kill him and herself many times during fights growing up.

So basiclaly his heart grew cold towards God. But he still holds some of the biblical values but not all. Such as he believes in waiting for marriage. We agree on lots of thing but I realized ive been disregarding other things about him which I think was my mistake. He knows im christian and he says he doesnt have any issue with that but he just doesnt agree with lots of things the bible says. I try to share the Gospel if the conversation is related to it. I pray for him daily that his heart will one day soften and open his heart to jesus.

But the things ive been trying to ignore but i know i cant is that he smokes, he cusses, hes gained so much weight. Because I work in Healthcare field I told him about the effects of smoking. That I would love to help him. He says eventually he wants to quit but he just enjoys it too much. He also said he signed up to go swimming to lose weight because thats one of his goals. Hes tired of being fat. I praised him for that.

Now, because of his willingness to lose weight, I thought ok maybe he will eventually do the same with smoking.

But I have a feeling he may not quit. He said he enjoys it. Even if I have presented him the facts about the detriment effects of smoking. Hes probably not going to stop. I love him and care about him but im completely heartbroken about this. I heard its very difficult to stop smoking. Many can stop but eventually go back on it.

He said he definitely wants to marry me without a doubt. He would like to go to church with me someday. He wants to build a family with me. He wished he could travel to see me but he financially cant because his job doesnt pay well. I told him once i finish college ill save money to visit him. It would take two years because I need another year to finish school and then another year to be financially stable and save. I still live with my parents btw.

He didnt go to university but he eventually wants to get an english degree. We are both willing to wait to meet in person. In the meantime we FaceTime 4 times a week.

I know that I cant unequally yoked according to the bible. That was my mistake. I know my bf truly loves me. Hes very sweet and caring, his heart is delicate and he is scared he'll lose me. Tbh hes crazy in love with me. More than I am with him. He truly does not care if im ugly or fat. He loves me the way I am. Even if I went bald he says he doesnt care. I feel I can truly be myself with him. And this breaks my heart

Ive prayed to God that if this relationship is not his will, then to remove his feelings for me. Id rather him lose feelings than me tell him I dont feel the same anymore and break his heart.

Im devastated. I was planning to maybe wait until the end of the year and see how it goes when I go back to college in August. I told him I wont be able to talk as much throughout the semester beause I need to prioritize school and he understands. He wants me to focus and do my best.

I dont want to break up so soon when we just started dating. And I want to see if he'll still feel the same while im in school or hell lose feelings. Because, again, I rather him lose feelings for me. I dont want to hurt his sweet heart if I tell him. I dont want to breakup at the height of our relationship which is where were at right now. Because our feelings are strong at the moment it would be too painful. Especially for him. And breaking up before college or during collegel would affect me and my studies since I have less than a month before I go back.

I continue to pray for him and our relationship. If this isnt what God wants then, I hope he loses feelings while im in school and that at the end of the year we breakup.

I would greatly appreciate any advice. Need someone else's perspective and thoughts.

I live in twin creeks by ridgeview dr and Alma rd. Where can I watch fireworks near the area with a good view? I know celebration park already had their firework event last weekend but is there any other one?? Dont wanna have to drive to another city just to watch. I dont mind mckinney if theres one not too far from 121.

Besides town lake park, are there any other areas that will have fireworks? Or any areas I can watch them from afar with a clear view? I live near the border of mckinney and allen ( near the HUB at 121 and Alma dr.). Dont wanna drive all the way to town lake park.

Hi everyone~

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So my bf and I met on instagram in april. He lives in korea and I live in the US. Were both 26 yrs old.

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We both started dating about 3 weeks after talking and weve talked everyday basically. Voice calls, FaceTime, texts, all.

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We talked about meeting once I get a job after graduating from hygiene school. Of course not immediately because I need to save money first.

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But I did tell him my family and I had planned making a trip to europe after I graduate in spring of 2027 so I plan probably around fall of 2028 to make the trip to korea for the 1st time to see him.

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We've havent met in person yet. He lives with his parents, and doesnt have a stable job tbh. Hes barely making ends meet. This month he was only schedueld to work one shift. He cant make a trip to the US with his current pay. He works this job because its related to the military which he loves and been working there for a while now. Hes in a worse financial situation than I am and im a full time student that works only Saturdays (I live with my parents too) But hes planning on working on an english degree later on.

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I do think about our future. We've discussed marrying and having a family. We both are determined to be together one day and be faithful to one another no matter how difficult it is at the moment with the time differences and our schedules.

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But im worried about my career and how it will work in our relationship. Im pursuing a degree to become a dental hygienist.

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I would love to live in korea but then I dont want to leave my career that I worked so hard for and my parents sacrificed to support me, they took a part of helping me financially. I dont think theres much options for me to work as a hygienist in korea. And then the language barrier would be an issue too. And I have no idea about the dental workplace and culture there. Im worried.

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I mean he could move to the US but he has no degree and I dont know if his english degree would do much in the US. I havent done research on that. And the economy isnt getting better. Everything's so expensive and jobs arent paying enough. He says its also bad in korea.

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Has anyone had a similar situation?? What did you do? Any advice?

I have a co worker who says he doesnt believe in prayer anynore because God never helped him when he needed it.

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He says he did love God, prayed with genuine faith and he kept praying throughout his life. He didnt expect all his porvlems to be solved but he atleast expected a little help from God. But he says he got nothing.

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His parents would fight a lot and he prayed when he was a kid for God to make them stop fighting. Then it got worse. And he prayed that he could get better grades in school, so he studied hard and when he got his grades and exam scores, it was the opposite.

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So he gave up. He stopped believing at 18.

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So how can I as a believer give him biblical advice and comfort? Because now hes planning to move out because him mom will go crazy and throw stuff at him and threaten to kill him. Even as a kid, he says she would threaten hmwith a knife to kill him and herself.

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His dad and two sisters live outside the country. Apparently his dad is Christian. Amd his mom hates the dad with passion. But his dad did leave them when he was a 14. He did eventually come back like a few months later but ever since then he would only occassionally come back and still live seperately.

This is more like a rant. I dont know how I missed so many details. I failed my health history competency again. I get another attempt but if I fail, ill get kicked out of the program.

I feel more embarrassed than upset to be honest... i missed the small details. Im honestly the type of personal that forget things easily. I have to write what I need to do to so I wont forget. ill have to do that. But im just devastated that I failed something so easy. Now im worried.