u/jmslvrs

I’m 21F and a full-time student athlete, so holding down a job during the school year is pretty much impossible for me. My mom helps support me right now, but she constantly drops comments about being tired of paying for me. It honestly makes me feel incredibly guilty and I just want to stop leaning on her so much.

I recently got pre-approved for a Discover IT student card and I’m planning to keep it a total secret from my parents to avoid family drama.

My plan is to use it strictly for basic food and transit during a 2-week out-of-state internship I have coming up in June. That way, I won't have to ask her for a single dime while I'm away.

As soon as I get back, I start a summer job working 35-40 hours a week ($12/hour) I plan to use my check to pay the card back to $0 immediately then just freeze the card and hide it in a drawer for the school year.

I feel like this is a super responsible way to get some independence and give her the financial break she's literally asking for, but I still have this lingering guilt about hiding it.

Am I doing the right thing for my own peace of mind, or is this a bad idea that's gonna backfire? Has anyone else had to do something similar?

My mom just started a GLP-1 and constantly talks about how she can't eat, missed a meal, or lost her appetite. I honestly do not care, and I barely respond, but it’s constant and everyday.

I’m recovered, but this lowkey makes me want to relapse just to one-up her. This has been a thing since I was growing up, but now it’s triggering me even more. I can't even talk about dinner without her mentioning weight loss and how little she ate.

How do you stop yourself from being triggered when hints aren't working? I'm exhausted.

I have a genuine question because looking at the math is pretty crazy. I recently found out about a medical school graduate who is sitting on over $500k in student loan debt. Looking at a typical resident salary, I honestly do not understand how you handle that without the interest completely swallowing you alive. How are y'all navigating paying off that level of debt during residency?

Also, what happens if you don’t match?

The thought of facing $500k in debt without a guaranteed resident income sounds like a total nightmare.

For anyone who didn't match or knows someone who went through it, what do people actually do? Do you scramble for industry jobs or consulting just to keep your head above water while trying to reapply?

Would love to hear some real strategies from anyone navigating this right now or in the future .

I’m looking for some insight, advice, or just comfort from anyone who has dealt with the long-term physical damage of an eating disorder.

I struggled with an ED from the ages of 13 to 17—mainly severe binging and purging, with some restriction. I officially "stopped" at 18 because the physical warning signs got terrifying; I was having severe heart palpitations and nearly fainting everywhere I went.

I’m 21 now, and while my mindset is different, I feel like my body never truly recovered. The physical habit of purging is so deeply wired into my system that sometimes I can’t even keep food down involuntarily. Every time I eat, I get this intense, congested feeling in my chest that forces a purge reflex, followed by sharp chest pain.

On top of that, I was recently diagnosed with ulcerative colitis, and I can’t help but blame myself and wonder if my past bulimia caused it. I feel so stuck and full of regret for what I did to myself.
Whenever people talk about recovery, they focus 99% on the mindset and the relationship with food. Nobody ever talks about the physical toll and the strains your body is left with even after you stop the behaviors.

For those who are recovering or fully recovered, how did you heal your physical body? Did the involuntary reflux and chest pain ever go away? I feel hopeless, like this is going to follow me forever.

Has anyone successfully worked as a dental assistant with no prior experience? I’ve recently applied as a dental assistant through indigo dental staffing.

I am unsure if this is just a pipeline towards paying for their tuition. The job was posted on ZipRecuiter and labeled as Dental Assistant (No experience needed, Training available). I’ve also read that it does not have proper accreditation.

Currently, I cannot afford to pay for tuition for dental assistant school and was hoping this was a legit way to work as one with on the job training until I can afford it.

So is Indigo Dental Staffing legit? Or is there a catch?

Back on Feb 13th, my roommate (22f) filed a report claiming she smelled "gas" coming through the vents and that it was messing with her "life threatening asthma and allergies." I (21f) had to go to the housing director the next day to represent myself. I was literally threatened with being kicked out of school if any contraband was found. I denied everything because it was a lie, but nobody believed me until a staff member who actually knows me had to speak up for me.

On 4/20, I was in my room drinking with my friends and listening to old songs before heading to a party. T literally opened the apartment door for my friends, so she knew I was right there. Instead of walking two steps to my door like a normal person, she calls the RA on me again. When I confronted her, she yells and were arguing back n forth. She says that its my fault her asthma is getting worse.

Last night, T has several of her friends over. They’re in the living room right outside my door, drinking and straight up smoking. I realized the hypocrisy was wild. you have "life-threatening asthma" when you’re tryna get me kicked out, but now you’re blowing clouds in the living room?

I walked out and asked her why she was smoking when she claimed it messed with her health. It turned into a massive screaming match. She had the nerve to say that if I were to smoke it would go through her vents, but when she does it in the living room, it’s fine. It got very heated and rowdy fast. She became extremely aggressive and was getting in my face, and my friend had to step between us to keep us apart. I called the authorities because the situation was escalating and I didn't want it to get out of hand. (This was never my plan, I only wanted to file a housing report)

We had a meeting this morning with the housing director. Since I actually had the photo and she had zero proof for any of her past claims, the director told her that because she broke the no smoking rule and made claims that contradicted itself, she might not even get to walk at graduation this Friday. Even the RA backed me up, saying they never found anything in my room or smelled anything suspicious.

I’m cleared, but my mom is telling me I should be the "bigger person" and tell housing to let her walk. But honestly? I have zero sympathy. She didn't care about my life when she was tryna get me kicked out of school in February, and she even tried to bring me down with her in the meeting today. I have no control over her walking anyway, and I feel like she started this mess and needs to face the consequences.

TL;DR: My roommate spent the whole semester tryna get me kicked out of school by lying about me smoking and claiming she has asthma. I caught her smoking in our living room with people, took a photo, and reported her. Now she’s has to move out and might not walk at graduation, and I refuse to help her. AITA?