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I had an awful experience meeting my friend’s girlfriend for the first time and him last night. I will give you the whole rundown.

My friend, who I have always been there for, always seems to come and go out of my life whenever it is convenient for him. I honestly probably only stick around because he was my first friend. We met in daycare and continued into elementary, middle school, and then high school.

I would say it fizzled out in high school when he got more into girls than I did and became more popular than me. He would get invited to parties and do more stuff because he was better at sports, went to prom, and all of that. I always felt weird about how close we were and how little he had to do with me in school. At some points, he would even join in on other people picking on me.

Towards senior year we kind of rekindled, and going into college we kept in touch at first, but as soon as he made new friends he disappeared again.

He got into drugs pretty heavily and then had to go completely sober from everything, including alcohol. I guess I was “good enough” again because we became friends again and started doing “sober activities” since he couldn’t hang out with the people he did before.

He lived in his parents’ house, but they moved out and bought another one because he retired and had a job close by. One day he quit that job out of nowhere and moved in with his parents a few states away, claiming he was going through stuff and hated his job.

He didn’t have a girlfriend for years, and personally I thought it was hard for him to see me in a relationship while he was sober and trying to do better in life or be “more successful.” It was out of left field when he moved and quit. We stopped hanging out and talking as much again.

My girlfriend told me from the limited interactions she had with him that he always tried to belittle me and make fun of everything I said or did. She said he never asked me questions or cared about what I had to say, but I still felt bad and would hang out with him anyway.

After he moved in with his parents 4–6 hours away, he got a new job after a few weeks. Another friend brought up how he was talking to a girl and had a girlfriend, which I found odd because I would text him asking how things were going, but he never mentioned a girlfriend at all to me. I was a little hurt, but it’s his life at the end of the day.

A month or so later I saw on Facebook where he tagged her in a post about going skiing around February, and he started posting himself at her house. I was supportive but didn’t want to be nosy if he wasn’t comfortable telling me anything, so I would just like the posts and that was it. I was happy for him because he met someone.

A few months went by and I noticed he would be at her house all the time, almost like he moved in. They got a dog within a month or two as well.

I remember in the past how he would get very obsessive with girls he was talking to or seeing, where he would cut everybody else off and make it all about her. But when they broke up, he would message everybody trying to hang out and talk about how depressed and suicidal he was.

Everybody would take him back, but the trend continued. He only had people in his life as long as they were useful or benefited him. As soon as he met a new friend or girlfriend, he would cut his old friends off, but always come back when he got himself into trouble.

On Friday night I got a message from him asking if me and my girlfriend wanted to go on a double date with him at one of my favorite spots — a place he always refused to go to with me and my girlfriend before, but now that he has one he wanted to.

This spot has multiple locations, but he told me to meet at 5:00 at a specific one. Me and my girlfriend got there at 4:50 and waited, and he was still shopping with her and said it would be a few minutes.

At 5:05 he messages me asking if we can actually go to the one closer to him instead, which was 15 minutes away for me. I said sure, even though I was already waiting at the original location he told me to go to.

So we drove to the next one. I waved when I saw them waiting in the parking lot. My girlfriend was hesitant because of past interactions where he was rude to her, but I tried telling her maybe he changed now that he was in a relationship and happier.

Let me tell you, we get out and walk over to their vehicle, and I see them get out too. I walk over to his new girlfriend right away and introduce myself and my girlfriend to her. Right away she seemed disinterested and like she didn’t really care.

We go inside and sit down, and right away the vibe was off. They just looked at each other the whole time and didn’t try to talk to us. If I asked questions about how they met or how everything was going for him, he would start telling me, and then she would interrupt the conversation to kiss him or make noises like whistling or inside jokes.

They couldn’t keep their hands off each other the whole time. If she got up to use the bathroom, he would smack her ass in front of everybody. She spilled water on herself and he started talking about how “wet” she’ll make him later.

Look, me and my girlfriend can be flirty and touchy too, but I would NEVER make somebody else feel like that. If he wanted to catch up, you would think he’d actually try talking to me instead of brushing off everything I said or asked.

I asked her questions about her life and what everything was like for her, and she would never ask anything about me or my girlfriend in return. They were not receptive to anything we said to them.

Anything he said, she would die laughing at.

I asked what work she did and what she went to college for, and she never once asked my girlfriend anything, which leads into my next point.

At one point I saw them both laughing, and I didn’t know at what. They went to the bathroom, and my girlfriend told me they were laughing at a 3-year-old mentally disabled girl sitting at the table across from us.

I thought it was disgusting and immature, but my girlfriend was especially upset. She works in special education with kids and could never imagine making fun of a harmless kid for something they were born with.

She wanted to eat and leave and thought they were rude the whole time.

The one time she did try telling me something was about some band they were going to see, and he interrupted her and said:

“BABE, HE WOULDN’T KNOW WHO THAT IS. HE DOESN’T LISTEN TO THAT MUSIC AT ALL.”

Look, I’m super open-minded. Even if I don’t know something, I can still listen and ask questions about it. I can ask what style of rock they are, where they performed, and have a conversation about music. You don’t have to have everything in common with somebody to talk to them.

He then suggested after dinner we go miniature golfing, which put me on the spot, so I agreed to it. I could tell my girlfriend was not thrilled at all.

We still went, and my girlfriend said it was weird how they acted because they live together, yet couldn’t keep their hands off each other kissing and laughing. They didn’t care to talk to us or get to know us at all. Every conversation and story was about them the whole time.

The whole time we miniature golfed they would go first, and we would cheer their shots on and try to have a good time, but she would ignore me or act like I didn’t say anything. I would describe it as snotty.

When it was me and my girlfriend’s turn, they wouldn’t pay attention at all. They would straight up walk off together, start making out, and mess around.

It was one of the least fun games of miniature golf because they didn’t care about anything besides themselves.

When we had to go to the bathroom, they just kept going and didn’t stop or wait for us.

It didn’t feel like a double date. It felt like me and my girlfriend were separate from them the whole night.

We started rushing through the courses just to get it over with, and when it was finally over they said:

“Let’s get ice cream.”

I told them, “Good game, that was fun,” even though it was miserable.

They were inconsiderate to everybody but themselves. They were rude to me and my girlfriend the whole time on every level.

I wasn’t asking them to become our best friends, just to show a little respect and be nice.

I won’t be hanging out with him again, and she seems super clingy and obsessive. If it doesn’t work out between them, I won’t even respond to his calls, messages, or guilt tripping when he inevitably comes running back this time.

I was so upset when we got to the car because I spent $70 between dinner and golfing just to feel worse afterward.

We don’t get to hang out with other couples often, so I thought it would be a good time and maybe he had grown up and changed after finding someone, but they are so similar they bring the worst out of each other.

They even stole pens from the waiter because “it was his favorite pen from high school.”

I was so mad when we got to the car I just sat there and broke down to my girlfriend. I was mad at myself for thinking it would be different and for letting him back into my life when I told myself not to.

I try to look at the best in people, and I always end up getting myself hurt, taken advantage of, or used.

She slipped up and made a comment at dinner saying that he has met all of her friends, but she hasn’t met any of his.

I asked if they planned on meeting anybody else, and he said:

“No, only me.”

Was he just using me and only wanting to hang out because she was pressuring him to show who he was before?

I had a awful experience meeting my friends girlfriend for the first time and him last night. I will give you the whole run down, my friend who i have always been there for which always seems to come and go out of my life when it is convenient for him too, I honestly probably only stick around because he was my first friend i met when we were in day care and continued into elementary middle and then highschool. I would say it fizzled out in high school when he got more into girls then i did and was more popular then me, He would get invited to parties and to do more stuff as he was better in sports and went to prom and then onwards. I always felt weird about how close we were and how he didn’t have much to do with me in school at some points he would even join in on other people picking on me, Towards senior year we kind of rekindled and going into college we kept touch at first but as soon as he made new friends he disappeared again. He got into drugs pretty heavily and then had to go completely sober from everything including alcohol and i guess i was good enough again as we would become friends again and do “sober activities” since he couldn’t hang out with the people he did before. He lived in his parents house but they moved out and bought another one because he retired and had a job close by. One day he quit that job out of nowhere and moved in with his parents some states away claiming he was going through stuff and hated his job. He didnt have a girlfriend for years and personally i thought it was hard for him to see me in a relationship when he got sober and doing good in life or “more successful”. It was out of left field when he moved and quit and we stopped hanging out and talking as much again my girlfriend told me form the limited interactions i had wit him that he always just tried to belittle me and make fun of everything that i said or did and never asked me any questions or cared about what i had to say but i felt bad and would still hang out with him. After he moved in with his parents 4-6 hours away he got a new job after a few weeks and another friend brought up how he is talking to a girl and has a girlfriend which i found odd because i would text him how things are going but he would never mention a girlfriend at all to me so i was a little hurt but it’s his life at the end of the day. A month or so later i saw on facebook where he tagged her in a post how they went skiing (around february) and he started posting himself at her house. I was supportive but didn’t want to be nosey if he wasn’t comfortable telling me anything so i would like the posts and that was it. I was happy for him because he met someone. A few months go by and i noticed he would be at her house all the time almost like he moved in, they got a dog within a month or two aswell. I remember in the past how he would get very obsessive with the girls he was talking too or seeing where he would cut everybody else off and make it all about her but when they broke up he would message everybody trying to hang out and how he was depressed and suicidal. Everybody would take him back but the trend continues as he only had them in their life as long as they are useful or benefits him as soon as he meets a new friend he will cut his old ones off or a girlfriend but always comes back when he gets himself in trouble. On friday night i got a message from him if me and my girlfriend wanted to go on a double date with him at his one spot i loved going too too (that he always refused to go to with me and my girlfriend) but now that he has one he wanted too. This spot has multiple locations but he said to meet at 5 at this specific one, mr and my girlfriend got here at 4.50 and waited and he as still shopping with her and said it would be a few minutes. It’s 5:05 and he massages me asking if we can actually go to the one that’s closer to him (15 minutes away for me) and i said sure even though i was waiting on the original one he told me to go to. So we drove to the next one and i waved when i saw them waiting in the parking lot my girlfriend kind of was hesitant because they had past interactions where he would be rude to her but i tried to tell her that maybe he changed now that he’s in a relationship and happier now. Let me tell you we get out and walk over to there vehicle and i see them get out so i walk over to his new girlfriend right away and introduce me and my friend to her and right away she seemed disinterested and didn’t overly care so we go inside and sit down and right away the vibe was off where they just looked at each other the whole time didn’t try to talk to us if i asked question on how they met or how everything is going for him he would start telling me and she would interrupt the conversation to kiss him or make “noises” like whistling or inside jokes. The couldn’t keep their hands off each other the whole time if she got up to use the bathroom he would smack her ass in front of everybody. She spilt water on herself and he would talk about how wet she we’ll make her later too. Look me and my girlfriend can be flirty and touchy but i would NEVER make someone else feel like that and if he wanted to catch up you feel like he would be trying to talk to me even a little and not just brush off everything i said or asked. I asked her questions about her life and how everything is for her and she would never ask anything about me and my girlfriend in return they were not receptive to anything we would say to them. Anything he said she would die laughing. I asked what work she did or what she went to college for she never once asked my girlfriend anything which will lead into my next point where at one point i saw them both laughing and i didn’t know at what so they went to the bathroom and my girlfriend told me they were laughing at a 3 year old mentally disabled girl sitting at the table across from us. I thought it was disgusting and immature but my girlfriend was upset, she texted special in in school with kids and could never imagine making fun of a harmless kid for something the were born with. she wanted to eat and leave and thought they were rude of me especially the whole time. Only had conversations with each other. The one time she did try to tell me something it was about some band they were going to see and he interrupted and said “BABE HE WOULDNT KNOW WHO THAT IS HE DOESNT LISTEN TO THST MUSIC AT ALL” Look i’m super open minded and eve if i don’t know i can still listen and i will ask questions about what style of rock where they performed at and i understand music enough to might not know every member but can have a conversation about music. You do t have to have everything in common with someone to understand and talk to them. He then suggested after dinner we go mini golfing which put on the spot i agreed too. I could tell my girlfriend was not thrilled at all. We still went and my girlfriend said it was weird how they acted because they live together yet couldn’t keep their hands off each other kissing and laughing and they didn’t care to try to to talk to us or get to know us at all. All the questions and stories were about them the whole time. The whole time we miniature golfed they would go first and we would cheer their shots on and try to have a good time but she would ignore me or act like i didn’t say anything. I would describe it as snotty. When it was me and my girlfriend turn they wouldn’t pay attention at all straight up walk off together, start making out messing around. It was one of the least fun games of miniature golfed as they didn’t care at all besides themselves. When we had to go to the bathroom the just kept going and didn’t stop and wait. It didn’t feel like a double date just like me and my lady where they separate. We started just rushing the courses just to get it over with and when it was finally over they said let’s get ice cream. I told them good game and that was fun even though it was miserable. They were inconsiderate to everybody but themselves. They were rude to me and my girlfriend the whole
time on every level. I wasn’t asking them to be our best friend but to just show a little respect and be nice. I wont be hanging out with him again but she seems super clingy and obsessive so if it doesn’t end up working out between then i wont even be responding to his calls or messages and his guilt tripping when he inevitably comes running back this time. I was so upset when we got to the bar because i spent $70 between dinner and golfing to feel worse after. We don’t get to hang out with other couples often so i thought it would be a good time and maybe he grew up and changed after finding someone but they are so similar they bring the worse out of each other. They stole pens from the waiter because “it was his favorite pen from highschool”. I was so mad when we got to the car i just sat there and broke down to my girlfriend i was mad at myself for thinking it would be different letting him back in my life when i told myself not too. I try to look at the best in people and i always end up getting myself hurt or taken advantage off and used. She slipped up and made a comment at dinner saying that he has met all of her friends but he hasn’t met any of his. I asked if the planned on meeting anyone else and he said no only me. Was he just using me and only wanted to hangout as she was pressuring him to want to see who he was before?

I had a awful experience meeting my friends girlfriend for the first time and him last night. I will give you the whole run down, my friend who i have always been there for which always seems to come and go out of my life when it is convenient for him too, I honestly probably only stick around because he was my first friend i met when we were in day care and continued into elementary middle and then highschool. I would say it fizzled out in high school when he got more into girls then i did and was more popular then me, He would get invited to parties and to do more stuff as he was better in sports and went to prom and then onwards. I always felt weird about how close we were and how he didn’t have much to do with me in school at some points he would even join in on other people picking on me, Towards senior year we kind of rekindled and going into college we kept touch at first but as soon as he made new friends he disappeared again. He got into drugs pretty heavily and then had to go completely sober from everything including alcohol and i guess i was good enough again as we would become friends again and do “sober activities” since he couldn’t hang out with the people he did before. He lived in his parents house but they moved out and bought another one because he retired and had a job close by. One day he quit that job out of nowhere and moved in with his parents some states away claiming he was going through stuff and hated his job. He didnt have a girlfriend for years and personally i thought it was hard for him to see me in a relationship when he got sober and doing good in life or “more successful”. It was out of left field when he moved and quit and we stopped hanging out and talking as much again my girlfriend told me form the limited interactions i had wit him that he always just tried to belittle me and make fun of everything that i said or did and never asked me any questions or cared about what i had to say but i felt bad and would still hang out with him. After he moved in with his parents 4-6 hours away he got a new job after a few weeks and another friend brought up how he is talking to a girl and has a girlfriend which i found odd because i would text him how things are going but he would never mention a girlfriend at all to me so i was a little hurt but it’s his life at the end of the day. A month or so later i saw on facebook where he tagged her in a post how they went skiing (around february) and he started posting himself at her house. I was supportive but didn’t want to be nosey if he wasn’t comfortable telling me anything so i would like the posts and that was it. I was happy for him because he met someone. A few months go by and i noticed he would be at her house all the time almost like he moved in, they got a dog within a month or two aswell. I remember in the past how he would get very obsessive with the girls he was talking too or seeing where he would cut everybody else off and make it all about her but when they broke up he would message everybody trying to hang out and how he was depressed and suicidal. Everybody would take him back but the trend continues as he only had them in their life as long as they are useful or benefits him as soon as he meets a new friend he will cut his old ones off or a girlfriend but always comes back when he gets himself in trouble. On friday night i got a message from him if me and my girlfriend wanted to go on a double date with him at his one spot i loved going too too (that he always refused to go to with me and my girlfriend) but now that he has one he wanted too. This spot has multiple locations but he said to meet at 5 at this specific one, mr and my girlfriend got here at 4.50 and waited and he as still shopping with her and said it would be a few minutes. It’s 5:05 and he massages me asking if we can actually go to the one that’s closer to him (15 minutes away for me) and i said sure even though i was waiting on the original one he told me to go to. So we drove to the next one and i waved when i saw them waiting in the parking lot my girlfriend kind of was hesitant because they had past interactions where he would be rude to her but i tried to tell her that maybe he changed now that he’s in a relationship and happier now. Let me tell you we get out and walk over to there vehicle and i see them get out so i walk over to his new girlfriend right away and introduce me and my friend to her and right away she seemed disinterested and didn’t overly care so we go inside and sit down and right away the vibe was off where they just looked at each other the whole time didn’t try to talk to us if i asked question on how they met or how everything is going for him he would start telling me and she would interrupt the conversation to kiss him or make “noises” like whistling or inside jokes. The couldn’t keep their hands off each other the whole time if she got up to use the bathroom he would smack her ass in front of everybody. She spilt water on herself and he would talk about how wet she we’ll make her later too. Look me and my girlfriend can be flirty and touchy but i would NEVER make someone else feel like that and if he wanted to catch up you feel like he would be trying to talk to me even a little and not just brush off everything i said or asked. I asked her questions about her life and how everything is for her and she would never ask anything about me and my girlfriend in return they were not receptive to anything we would say to them. Anything he said she would die laughing. I asked what work she did or what she went to college for she never once asked my girlfriend anything which will lead into my next point where at one point i saw them both laughing and i didn’t know at what so they went to the bathroom and my girlfriend told me they were laughing at a 3 year old mentally disabled girl sitting at the table across from us. I thought it was disgusting and immature but my girlfriend was upset, she texted special in in school with kids and could never imagine making fun of a harmless kid for something the were born with. she wanted to eat and leave and thought they were rude of me especially the whole time. Only had conversations with each other. The one time she did try to tell me something it was about some band they were going to see and he interrupted and said “BABE HE WOULDNT KNOW WHO THAT IS HE DOESNT LISTEN TO THST MUSIC AT ALL” Look i’m super open minded and eve if i don’t know i can still listen and i will ask questions about what style of rock where they performed at and i understand music enough to might not know every member but can have a conversation about music. You do t have to have everything in common with someone to understand and talk to them. He then suggested after dinner we go mini golfing which put on the spot i agreed too. I could tell my girlfriend was not thrilled at all. We still went and my girlfriend said it was weird how they acted because they live together yet couldn’t keep their hands off each other kissing and laughing and they didn’t care to try to to talk to us or get to know us at all. All the questions and stories were about them the whole time. The whole time we miniature golfed they would go first and we would cheer their shots on and try to have a good time but she would ignore me or act like i didn’t say anything. I would describe it as snotty. When it was me and my girlfriend turn they wouldn’t pay attention at all straight up walk off together, start making out messing around. It was one of the least fun games of miniature golfed as they didn’t care at all besides themselves. When we had to go to the bathroom the just kept going and didn’t stop and wait. It didn’t feel like a double date just like me and my lady where they separate. We started just rushing the courses just to get it over with and when it was finally over they said let’s get ice cream. I told them good game and that was fun even though it was miserable. They were inconsiderate to everybody but themselves. They were rude to me and my girlfriend the whole
time on every level. I wasn’t asking them to be our best friend but to just show a little respect and be nice. I wont be hanging out with him again but she seems super clingy and obsessive so if it doesn’t end up working out between then i wont even be responding to his calls or messages and his guilt tripping when he inevitably comes running back this time. I was so upset when we got to the bar because i spent $70 between dinner and golfing to feel worse after. We don’t get to hang out with other couples often so i thought it would be a good time and maybe he grew up and changed after finding someone but they are so similar they bring the worse out of each other. They stole pens from the waiter because “it was his favorite pen from highschool”. I was so mad when we got to the car i just sat there and broke down to my girlfriend i was mad at myself for thinking it would be different letting him back in my life when i told myself not too. I try to look at the best in people and i always end up getting myself hurt or taken advantage off and used. She slipped up and made a comment at dinner saying that he has met all of her friends but he hasn’t met any of his. I asked if the planned on meeting anyone else and he said no only me. Was he just using me and only wanted to hangout as she was pressuring him to want to see who he was before?

I think I just had the weirdest and most uncomfortable double date of my life, and it completely changed how I see one of my oldest friends.

I’ve known this dude literally since daycare. We grew up together through elementary school, middle school, all of it. Looking back now, though, our friendship has always had this weird pattern where he only really comes around when it’s convenient for him.

In high school he got popular — sports, girls, parties, prom, all that stuff. Meanwhile, I was more quiet and awkward socially. As we got older, it felt like he slowly distanced himself from me. Sometimes he’d even join in when other people picked on me just to fit in.

Toward senior year we kind of rekindled things, and after graduation we stayed in touch for a while. But the second he made new friends in college, I barely heard from him again.

Eventually he got really into drugs and partying. Then, after things got bad, he went completely sober from everything, including alcohol. Suddenly I was “good enough” again because I was someone he could do sober activities with while he couldn’t hang around his old crowd anymore.

Even then, my girlfriend always said something felt off about him. She told me every interaction she had with him felt like he was trying to belittle me, make fun of me, or dismiss everything I said. At the time I brushed it off because I felt bad for him and wanted to believe he was a good friend underneath everything.

A while later he randomly quit his job, moved several states away to live with his parents again, and claimed he hated his life and was going through stuff mentally. Around that same time, he completely disappeared from my life again.

Then one day another friend casually mentioned he had a girlfriend. I honestly found it strange because I’d text him asking how life was going and he never once mentioned dating anyone. I didn’t push it, though. It’s his life.

Eventually I saw Facebook posts of them skiing together and him constantly posting from her house. I was genuinely happy for him because he’d struggled with relationships for years.

But then I noticed something familiar happening again.

He became completely obsessed with her. They got a dog almost immediately, he was at her house constantly, and it basically looked like he moved in within a couple months. It reminded me of how he’s always been in relationships — completely disappearing into the other person and cutting everyone else off.

The pattern has always been:
New girlfriend or new friends = everyone else disappears.
Breakup or personal crisis = suddenly he’s messaging everyone again about how depressed and lonely he is.

Fast forward to Friday night.

Out of nowhere he messages me asking if me and my girlfriend want to go on a double date at one of my favorite restaurants — ironically, a place he ALWAYS refused to go to with us before he got a girlfriend.

We agreed.

He told us to meet at one location at 5 PM, so me and my girlfriend got there around 4:50. We waited, and then at 5:05 he texts asking if we can actually drive to a different location that’s closer to him… another 15 minutes away.

Annoying, but whatever.

We get there, wave at them in the parking lot, and walk over. My girlfriend was already hesitant because of past interactions she’d had with him, but I tried convincing her maybe he had changed now that he seemed happier.

Nope.

The second we met his girlfriend, the vibe felt off. She seemed completely uninterested in us from the start.

We sit down, and immediately it feels like me and my girlfriend are intruding on THEIR date. They barely tried talking to us at all. Every time I asked him a question about his life or how things were going, she would interrupt him to kiss him, make inside jokes, whistle at him, or start touching him.

And look — I’m not anti-PDA. Me and my girlfriend can be affectionate too. But this was on another level.

If she got up to use the bathroom, he’d smack her ass in front of everyone. At one point she spilled water on herself and he made some gross comment about “how wet she’ll be later.” The entire night felt like they were performing their relationship for us instead of actually hanging out with us.

Meanwhile, they barely asked me or my girlfriend a single thing about ourselves.

I’d ask her questions about work, school, hobbies — she never once returned the effort. Neither of them seemed remotely interested in anything we had to say.

Then came the moment that really pissed us off.

At one point my girlfriend noticed them quietly laughing and staring toward another table. They got up to go to the bathroom, and she told me they had been making fun of a mentally disabled little girl sitting across the restaurant.

A literal child.

My girlfriend works with special education kids and was honestly disgusted. At that point she wanted to leave.

Things somehow got even more awkward after that.

His girlfriend started talking about some band they were going to see, and before she could even finish, he interrupted her loudly with:
“BABE, he wouldn’t know who that is. He doesn’t listen to that music at all.”

Like… what?

Even if I don’t know a band, I can still have a conversation. I like music. I can ask questions. It was such a weirdly dismissive comment for no reason.

After dinner, he randomly suggested mini golf.

Honestly, me and my girlfriend already wanted to leave, but I awkwardly agreed because I didn’t know how to get out of it.

The entire mini golf experience somehow felt even worse.

Me and my girlfriend would cheer them on and try to make things fun, but when it was our turn they wouldn’t even watch. They’d walk away together, start making out, ignore us completely, and move on to the next hole without us.

At one point me and my girlfriend stopped to use the bathroom, and they just kept going ahead without waiting.

It didn’t feel like a double date at all. It felt like me and my girlfriend were third-wheeling THEIR relationship the entire night.

By the end we were rushing through the course just to get it over with.

Then they suggested ice cream.

I finally hit my limit, told them “good game,” and left.

The second we got in the car, I just sat there feeling angry and embarrassed. I spent almost $70 between dinner and golf just to feel worse afterward.

What really got to me was realizing this friendship has probably always been one-sided, and I kept ignoring it because of history and nostalgia.

The craziest part is his girlfriend accidentally slipped up during dinner and mentioned he had already met all of HER friends, but she hadn’t met any of HIS.

I asked if they planned on meeting anyone else from his life.

He literally said:
“No. Just you.”

And honestly? That’s the part I can’t stop thinking about.

Did he actually want to reconnect with me?
Or was I just the “safe” old friend he could use to show his girlfriend he has a past and people in his life?

At this point, I genuinely think I’m done.