u/lotuslover777

Not sure if my spidey senses are overreacting here, I've been in the market for a new gravel bike for quite some time now and have been pretty active on Facebook marketplace.

I contacted the seller who seemed legit but then referred me to message someone else on iMessage. The guy selling on Facebook is not the same as the original owner, claiming is selling for a friend. When I asked for the serial number and or proof of purchase, the seller told me the bike was given to him by his uncle and that the serial number is obstructed by the custom paint job. It's giving me red flags so thought I'd start posting around. Not sure if there is a dedicated better place to post this, but this was the closest sub I could find. If there is a better place to post/repost please let me know!!

https://www.facebook.com/share/18h3ZYekRS/

My husband (married for one year) and I are child free by choice. We are in our mid 30s and are deeply happy with our lives as they are and have no interest in having children.

I travel for work often and this is the second time in one month this has happened with a colleague.

When I choose not to drink in group settings (yes, sometimes I just don’t feel like drinking) a man will IMMEDIATELY be like “oh, are you pregnant? You must be pregnant!”

The first time was with a German colleague about my age, so I blamed it on cultural differences as having kids is way more common there so I think they genuinely find it strange when American women don’t want kids. Ok, fine, whatever.

However last night I was with another colleague, older married man in mid-late 40s (we’ll call him Dave). Met at hotel bar with other male colleague, Dave asked if I want a drink. Me, wanting to make sure I have a restful night sleep for work meeting tomorrow, I politely decline. “oooooo, you MUST BE PREGNANT, you been having morning sickness?!?!?” (It was 6pm) my jaw quite literally dropped to the floor. I found this MUCH creepier for some reason, provided he is just generally kinda creepy, and older, and also like - who the fuck says that? The were literally the first words out of his mouth to me.

I let him know I was in fact not pregnant and said something along the lines of “can a girl just choose to not drink one night and not immediately be accused of being pregnant” because truthfully I am so fucking fed up of this happening so often!

Just needed to rant/vent about how annoying this is for me. Does this happen to others too? How do you handle it? Would love a witty sassy reply I can use for the future to really knock them off their feet and teach them a lesson! 😈