u/lowlifescumwhocanpoo

So his family berated him when he was younger for stealing. They stole from him. Had people bully him at work so he wouldn't step out of line and know how coordinated his reputation is with those surrounding him. It led him to choose my mom who was also abusive but the "only women who would marry him". He says there's still a lot of love between them. But he used to say and I watched my mom say she doesn't love him and this and that. Just always nasty to him. I commented as a kid they never show affection and she gave him the fakest kiss after. They just fight with each other mostly. The only time they agree is when my dad is quiet and let's her talk and he asks questions. Otherwise she just puts down his conversation topics. I just feel if you are saying your wife always harassed you when we were kids, she and others got him to loose a job if he spent too much time in the bathroom. He now thinks it's fun to hurt other rule breakers. Is that not stockholm syndrome? I know half of you will say he stepped into the light from the dark side but it sounds like he didn't shed his immaturity right and it pokes through in definat ways because he wants to stick up for himself against a "bitchy woman" (she nags him a lot for not working hard enough but she doesn't do anything beyond planting in her garden. She makes him do.mist the hardgrunt work while she picks flowers). Is that normal? Is that mature? Bullying someone you don't like? Making them see your way and refusing to see others ways? I don't think they're a healthy couple but most would say they're dysfunctional and what can you do if you can't enforce something you have to live with whatever they are you so you become what they are.so they'll change. But being lazy sometimes is justified. My dad does.work.hard .I don't see why she has to nag him so much when she isnt a harder worker unless you pay her. Thoughts?

If someone isn't working hard enough we shaft them.

A lot of people don't want to have to work with anyone whose willing to bully or abuse but commonly bosses employ tactics to do so. I don't mean like with everyone, but they do it every time someone tries to step out of line while most employees choose to get in line and with the program. They do this out of necessity. For survival. To earn money to have a livelihood. Otherwise they wouldnt go through such ridiculous hoops. The hoops aren't inherently ridiculous becusse it's how you define it. But they absolutely can be.

After a little research this is part of Star King Apartments complex as far as I can tell but its listed under a fake apartment complex named king ave apartments.

I want to make users aware. The post got taken down.

Try calling the pm number listed. I called and they said they do not have any residence. It's not listed in Google. It's not on the website of any apartment buildings nearby. I am certain.

https://www.zillow.com/apartments/columbus-oh/king-ave-flats/CnSWmj/

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The scandal was some thefts in my youth. A girl stole a credit card and tried to frame it on me. I was charged as an accomplice for receiving free items but got nothing of a punishment because I had no criminal record or proof of intent .just proof I was with the girl when she stole. So someone made up a rumor I stole at a workplace so people would attack me and I'd get a "fairer" punishment befitting in their eyes. Then people in high school told my parents what a trouble maker I was. So anything that went missing they assumed I stole I guess? The kicker is they kept quiet and didn't accuse me of stealing (the workplace confronted me but believed me because there was no video evidence of what she said). They instead made fun of me for being a bit odd effeminate gay male growing up. So they kept the reputation on, made gya jokes people got wildly homophobic and I got beat up in the park where me and my scene crowd friends used to hang (this was 2012?) sticking up for others.

My family organized and orchestrated to make me miserable in multiple ways. They tried to shove me off with bad roommates in college. I'm talking partying in the middle of the night unannounced getting a 50 year old man to pose as a sugar daddy to live with us. Then becoming so hostile because she drugged me with acid to get a fake boyfriend to break up with me. I had to move out. Way before the lease ended. Old friend groups were told to pretend they are better than me and I'm a loser because after a suicide attempt at 17 I become withdrawn.

Then workplaces coordinate bullying, pretending I'm gunned for a promotion then nothing (I was in school so I didn't care). Most coworkers arbiturally hated me and would say things to pretend to he like me then if I engaged made fun of the thing. I was kind of messed up as a kid from bullying so it really hurt in the moment. Then I couldn't land a job in my field. So I was deferred to pharmacy tech work. Then I got a job in my field but only swing shift working 12hrs then coming in 8 hrs later for another 12 type of schedule. I quickly left and the next workplace created fake HR drama. staring at me. Saying in staring at others. Id go in the bathroom if I was stared at so they made up a rumor I smoke in there. Then said I put water on the floor to trip people. Then stared at me on lunch breaks. Started to call my work inspid. Saying I made mistakes where I didn't. Some girl came up to me asking to explain a process and I do and she goes "you know nothing base doff what you tell me" and I said I did it a million times, with caveats but did it and was told how to do it.

Then the next workplace I went to immediately after starting graduate school fired me after 2 months. It was pharmacy tech work that paid well and I needed a break from the drama. My boss immediately called me stupid asshole then a week in said I can't perform my job despite the job required a day of training since I had previous experience. I got fired and while I walked out a lady pointed and laughed at me. This happened for the next 8 workplaces.

During this time I was essentially estranged and not talking to my family for homophobic remarks. It turns out they started fights with this to get me upset to film me and this is how they got workplaces to believe I was bad. Because there was barely any proof I was a thief. Only one expunged record.

Anyways it had been a few years and I thought maybe they missed me (they called me the angel child compared to my bitch on wheels brother and everyone always used to call me THE nice guy sticking up for others). My dad invited me to an amusement park. We rode up in the same car together and he said he didn't want to ride anything when we got there. He ended up ditching me and I was alone. Then high schoolers were picking on me telling me to kill myself I'm so useless, an asshole, the worst guy they ever knew, a loser with no real life experiences cause they knew I didn't make a ton of friends in college (I got really quiet after a suicide attempt at 17 compared to who I was). Just showing off and following me unless I ran or went to the bathroom. After a hsitty day my dad asked me to drive visibly upset at this point. With my sister and her friend. They probed and kept trying to get out of me why I was upset and I was speeding home (goin 80 or 90 on a 70). They filmed me speeding a cryir and framed it as I recklessly endangered them. I lived with them only for a bit before this. I was in graduate school. Constantly working or applying since I only had like 2 months lapses between all my firings. I also was sewing like crazy. Made my family coats. Pillows. Like smocked pillows. Started clothing but never got around to much because what happened the next year.

They essentially tired to get another facility to create HR drama and pick on me and stare me down all day. The facility oddly worked with me but it was a black filled department. The boss was black and I kept trying to reach out to them. Had many talks to try to clear the air. I didn't know why they were upset but knew people hated me. My parents had me fired again, but my boss actually fought for me but thought I was too far gone. Everyone else in the department wanted me gone even if my direct supervisor listened to me when I talked about black struggles and how it's not much different than what I was going through. My mom admitted to my face she wanted to ruin my life cause she wasn't me to feel defeated to become "a better man" by humiliating my entire life.

Apparently they were upset they had to be nice to me after my suicide. So they acted fake nice then treated me like shit and for having to put up with a thief whose reputation was ruined (I didn't know I was this horrible thief to everyone until my mom told me). My parents let me on their phone plan, messed with my phone line when I had no job. My mom used to stare at me. Contacted me graduate school telling them to watch me harder and judge me work more. I had group projects that were semester long and the group just hounded my work. I found out this girl in ALL my groups worked for the school and wasn't actually a student but participating to watch me (she was enrolled in the same degree but hired by the school first). Because they set me up so badly to be beaten down in life, my mom admitted she wanted me to die. My mom was trying to control me as a test to see if I'd be nice to my abuser and I could get a job. Instead I broke down saying I'm tired of being stared at and said I wish she'd die (because of how she metaphorically wanted me to die). Again the recorded this and have continually found people to ruin my life and gaslight me. Online. Following me at stores mostly with retirees. Breaking into my residence to put parental controls on electronics left at home to monitor my usage as I use hotspot for Internet to avoid them tracking my cookies on home Internet devices. I've done everything in my power to avoid them but I can't truly do it because so so so many strangers say fuck him and attack me.

The scandal was some thefts in my youth. A girl stole a credit card and tried to frame it on me. I was charged as an accomplice for receiving free items but got nothing of a punishment because I had no criminal record or proof of intent .just proof I was with the girl when she stole. So someone made up a rumor I stole at a workplace so people would attack me and I'd get a "fairer" punishment befitting in their eyes. Then people in high school told my parents what a trouble maker I was. So anything that went missing they assumed I stole I guess? The kicker is they kept quiet and didn't accuse me of stealing (the workplace confronted me but believed me because there was no video evidence of what she said). They instead made fun of me for being a bit odd effeminate gay male growing up. So they kept the reputation on, made gya jokes people got wildly homophobic and I got beat up in the park where me and my scene crowd friends used to hang (this was 2012?) sticking up for others.

My family organized and orchestrated to make me miserable in multiple ways. They tried to shove me off with bad roommates in college. I'm talking partying in the middle of the night unannounced getting a 50 year old man to pose as a sugar daddy to live with us. Then becoming so hostile because she drugged me with acid to get a fake boyfriend to break up with me. I had to move out. Way before the lease ended. Old friend groups were told to pretend they are better than me and I'm a loser because after a suicide attempt at 17 I become withdrawn.

Then workplaces coordinate bullying, pretending I'm gunned for a promotion then nothing (I was in school so I didn't care). Most coworkers arbiturally hated me and would say things to pretend to he like me then if I engaged made fun of the thing. I was kind of messed up as a kid from bullying so it really hurt in the moment. Then I couldn't land a job in my field. So I was deferred to pharmacy tech work. Then I got a job in my field but only swing shift working 12hrs then coming in 8 hrs later for another 12 type of schedule. I quickly left and the next workplace created fake HR drama. staring at me. Saying in staring at others. Id go in the bathroom if I was stared at so they made up a rumor I smoke in there. Then said I put water on the floor to trip people. Then stared at me on lunch breaks. Started to call my work inspid. Saying I made mistakes where I didn't. Some girl came up to me asking to explain a process and I do and she goes "you know nothing base doff what you tell me" and I said I did it a million times, with caveats but did it and was told how to do it.

Then the next workplace I went to immediately after starting graduate school fired me after 2 months. It was pharmacy tech work that paid well and I needed a break from the drama. My boss immediately called me stupid asshole then a week in said I can't perform my job despite the job required a day of training since I had previous experience. I got fired and while I walked out a lady pointed and laughed at me. This happened for the next 8 workplaces.

During this time I was essentially estranged and not talking to my family for homophobic remarks. It turns out they started fights with this to get me upset to film me and this is how they got workplaces to believe I was bad. Because there was barely any proof I was a thief. Only one expunged record.

Anyways it had been a few years and I thought maybe they missed me (they called me the angel child compared to my bitch on wheels brother and everyone always used to call me THE nice guy sticking up for others). My dad invited me to an amusement park. We rode up in the same car together and he said he didn't want to ride anything when we got there. He ended up ditching me and I was alone. Then high schoolers were picking on me telling me to kill myself I'm so useless, an asshole, the worst guy they ever knew, a loser with no real life experiences cause they knew I didn't make a ton of friends in college (I got really quiet after a suicide attempt at 17 compared to who I was). Just showing off and following me unless I ran or went to the bathroom. After a hsitty day my dad asked me to drive visibly upset at this point. With my sister and her friend. They probed and kept trying to get out of me why I was upset and I was speeding home (goin 80 or 90 on a 70). They filmed me speeding a cryir and framed it as I recklessly endangered them. I lived with them only for a bit before this. I was in graduate school. Constantly working or applying since I only had like 2 months lapses between all my firings. I also was sewing like crazy. Made my family coats. Pillows. Like smocked pillows. Started clothing but never got around to much because what happened the next year.

They essentially tired to get another facility to create HR drama and pick on me and stare me down all day. The facility oddly worked with me but it was a black filled department. The boss was black and I kept trying to reach out to them. Had many talks to try to clear the air. I didn't know why they were upset but knew people hated me. My parents had me fired again, but my boss actually fought for me but thought I was too far gone. Everyone else in the department wanted me gone even if my direct supervisor listened to me when I talked about black struggles and how it's not much different than what I was going through. My mom admitted to my face she wanted to ruin my life cause she wasn't me to feel defeated to become "a better man" by humiliating my entire life.

Apparently they were upset they had to be nice to me after my suicide. So they acted fake nice then treated me like shit and for having to put up with a thief whose reputation was ruined (I didn't know I was this horrible thief to everyone until my mom told me). My parents let me on their phone plan, messed with my phone line when I had no job. My mom used to stare at me. Contacted me graduate school telling them to watch me harder and judge me work more. I had group projects that were semester long and the group just hounded my work. I found out this girl in ALL my groups worked for the school and wasn't actually a student but participating to watch me (she was enrolled in the same degree but hired by the school first). Because they set me up so badly to be beaten down in life, my mom admitted she wanted me to die. My mom was trying to control me as a test to see if I'd be nice to my abuser and I could get a job. Instead I broke down saying I'm tired of being stared at and said I wish she'd die (because of how she metaphorically wanted me to die). Again the recorded this and have continually found people to ruin my life and gaslight me. Online. Following me at stores mostly with retirees. Breaking into my residence to put parental controls on electronics left at home to monitor my usage as I use hotspot for Internet to avoid them tracking my cookies on home Internet devices. I've done everything in my power to avoid them but I can't truly do it because so so so many strangers say fuck him and attack me.

When you're a kid you get to relax and enjoy.on someone else's dime. When you're a senior you get to relax and enjoy on your dime. Why should I feel bad for my employees who demand more free time when they work 1/3rd of their day and the rest is free time.

Also

Why do we bully to change bad behavior when we know bullying is negative and we want a net positive so that whole point someone says to bully is to create a positive from a negative. Is that the only way to make things positive? Sometimes it feels like if there is a god he makes little children and women cry because the pain motivates better things so if you want to say we need to be negative to regain the positive well you condone injustices against others like women and children.

No one is confused by my questions but most people highly disagree and can't understand why id ask this as if it's moral to mistreat and disrespect people who do anything bad that hurts them and others.

I get wanting to change behavior. I get behavior doesn't change easy.