u/lukewarmtrifle

Hi all!

I did the first .25 dose on Sunday evening and by the next afternoon I wasn't really that fussed about snacks.

Can it work this quickly or is a placebo effect? No side effects apart from a bit of heartburn.

Also, why do people call this a quick fix? Seems like you still need to work hard and eat high protein and calorie count?

I just had a fitting there and I am just amazed! She did it completely by eye, picked the most comfortable size first time and there was no pressure to buy but also helped me decide how many I needed while I lose weight. I wanted to hug her 😭😂

I have tortured myself with supermarket cheap moulded bras in the wrong size for years so I finally took the plunge and I was actually excited to put on a bra this morning.

I know they are expensive to a lot of us but if anyone has been putting a fitting off and avoiding buying the "nicer" bras because of money I can't recommend it enough. I feel like buying cheap bras is in the same vein as buying cheap shoes - you spend more money in the long run. Yiu can also buy out of season bras and colours out outlets once you know the type that fit best.

I spent £110 on three bras but I seriously feel so excited to wear clothes now because I avoided certain ones because the moulded bras either gaped or gave me four boobs depending on how I stood. I will never go back 😂

Just wanted to post something positive, I don't work for them I swear. 😂

Hello!

I am looking at options for universal sun shaders for a buggy. Its hood is UPF 50+ but it doesn't cover his legs or probably even part of his body! I do not want to drape a Muslin or blanket? Money is tight but for the right that will protect him I would pay out.

I have seen snoozeshades recommended but wouldnt black attract the heat? I've also seen bebetrek mentioned.

Is there any issue with sun creams on babies 6 months plus?

Thanks!

Hello!

My 9 and a bit month old currently likes to scritchy scratch everything.

Can anyone recommend any toys?

I have seen the busy books but I'm not sure if they are rated as safe?

Many thanks

A bit of a vent really. I absolutely love my baby, but I’m really struggling with the monotony of maternity leave.

I live a bit further from family, so getting out isn’t always easy with bottle feeding and weaning, and the family members who said they couldn’t wait to babysit haven’t really followed through.

Most days feel like the same cycle of feed, wash bottles, change, tidy up, get toys out, put toys away, repeat.

My partner is great and does his bit, but I don’t think he fully gets the mental load. He recently suggested I do the food shop on my own “for a break” which… isn’t quite the break he thinks it is. He works away sometimes, so while that has its own downsides, he still gets evenings or chunks of time completely to himself. I don’t really get that.

I have a job but not a career, and I know I want to change that at some point. Right now I think I’m struggling with feeling like I’ve lost myself a bit. I need something that’s just for me, whether that’s for fun, growth, or just to feel like a person outside of being “mum”.

I feel guilty even saying it because I know maternity leave is precious and I’m grateful for this time with my baby. But I also feel a bit lost in it. And when I try to talk about it, hearing “just wait until they’re older” or “try having two/three” honestly just makes me feel worse.

I think I’m mostly looking for solidarity — did anyone else feel like this? Like you adored your baby but still felt a bit trapped by the sameness of every day?

What the title says really.

My partner left to work away for nearly a week on the Sunday. He did try and gave me a card and cheesy present. I told him I was disappointed he hadn't planned something for when he got back and he told me already had another day planned out. It never happened and I brought it up so many times.

He is a very good dad and does as much as he can after work etc but even after I explained that it's been tough with him working away and I was excited about my first Mother's Day, he just kept making excuses.

I've done exactly what I planned to do for his Father's Day gifts but I'm still quite resentful about Mother's Day and I don't know how to be gracious about it.

I know I chose to have a baby and he is the best decision I ever made. I truly feel that everything bad that's happened to me in life happened so i would delay having children and conceive this exact baby. He is the happiest, cheekiest little thing.

That being said, the mental load is exhausting and I need my partner to try and anticipate things more.

He works away and he always said he would stop if it didn't work. The last stint of him being away I had to ask him to come home early. I very clearly told him I was overwhelmed but I still had to ask, he didn't ask me if I was coping or if he needed to come home. He also casually told me he will be working away when I return to work and I had to tell him no, he cannot be Ina different country when I return to work and our son starts childcare. Also, we have pets that get separation anxiety with him away for more than a few days and I had to tell him he can't be gone for more than this. I also have to leave the room if I want to relax because he doesn't try to do anything on his own, it's always "can you pass me this, can you make the bottle". The morning after he last came home I said I just wanted to drink a coffee properly without having to get up, he got up before I was half way through it and left me with the baby.

He also promised he had something extra planned for me on Mother's Day as he was working away so I spent my day looking after our son and watching my mum get spoiled and coming home to put the baby straight to bed and spend the evening alone watching the monitor. Nothing has transpired. I brought it up more than once and got told "soon". How I'm reading all the Mother's Day posts from Americans and it's brought it up again for me.

He is a very good dad and works hard and does as much as he can, mornings feeds cleaning etc.

I feel awful because he really does try but I am finding that having to point out quite big things, organise my own breaks and just generally plan everything out is starting to make me resentful.

That's it really. Thanks for reading, if you did!