u/luthiel-the-elf

Hello, I am hesitating to bring my journal (that little yellow notebook I sometimes share the content here) for a month long visit to my parents' house and I need some advice please.

Lately the entries are regarding a certain person I am close with and all the very private things he is going through, my feelings toward him etc and some of the things happening to him is quite dark. And this is someone my parents would never accept to be anywhere near me.

While I love my parents, my mother had repeatedly demonstrate during my teenage years that she fully and openly disregard my privacy and consider that her children's privacy is below her prerogative right as a parent and routinely read my diary and letters, even sharing the embarassing content of my diary on her blog once because she thinks my writing is interesting until my father put a stop on it. I never had real privacy growing up, my mother went through my letters and writings systematically and so on and she made me know openly that it is her right and I have no right to protest about it. I ended up not writing much until I left home. That is 20 years ago.
Now I don't know what she will do and if she still thinks like that as I left the country years ago.

I want to bring my journal so badly because I want to write and I need someone to talk to (my journal) but at the same time I am not sure how my mother will see it and if she will simply disregard my privacy once again.

This isn't a visit I can cancel because my grandma is very unwell and I want to spend time with my father without causing family drama.

Thoughts? Advices?

Hello everyone, I need some advice please. I decided I want to bike to work (3 km one way) and I have a small but good folding bike (need to be able to carry it to the apartment on 2nd floor with no lift). It's not much distance in itself and there is excellent bike lane available but I was very sick last march from pneumonia and was on sick leave for over a month.

Right now it's beautiful summer days and I want to go back to biking to work, but if I bike more than two days in a row I have this exhaustion built up that cause I can't even stay awake through the day. It's not the 3 km in itself which is fine but the accumulated exhaustion. Even biking to work will make my concentration lower significantly in the afternoon.

Doctors say I can exercise as much as I can tolerate and I can always push through to do it but somehow it's as if I do bike to work more than two days in a row I will wake up more and more tired. It's not that I get breathless (at least not anymore) but the exhaustion feels like it is killing me.

Waiting for this to get solved doesn't feel like changing much these last month or so and I am not sure if it's a good idea to wait longer before I go back on the bike to work. Should I just soldier it and push through? Or should I just wait longer and avoid biking for now? What I am afraid of is that if I don't push myself I'll stay on this level of unfitness forever.

What would you guys do in my place? Any advice please?

PS: I'm 37 and was in good health generally before march but yeah that episode changed a lot of thing sadly.