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I have nothing snarky to say. I love bakeries!

Like the title says.

Should I just leave it out and hope they get it tomorrow? Or do I have to report it as a missed collection online?

Keep in mind it's not just my house. The general waste bins opposite me and to the left and right of me are full as well, so can only assume whole road has been skipped.

Maybe I'm just being dumb and there's an obvious reason for this.

TIA.

At my most recent visit to the GP I went into detail about my experiences trying every OTC and prescribed product (bar accutane) and about how after doing my own research I am pretty sure that my cyclical acne is down to a hormonal imbalance. When I left I was told I'd be referred to a dermatologist finally. I uploaded photos of my acne, both at its absolute worst (too many to count covering my whole face, red and painful) and in a more mild state (up to 10 in particularly oily areas). Waited a month or so and then... Dermatologist rejected me. GP said to continue using BP/adapalene, which I've been doing every evening for the past 5 years and which I made clear would never help me get to the root of my issue. I can't afford to go private and I'm not a woman so I can't try birth control or spiro.

So, in conclusion, thanks for nothing, NHS. Anyone else who has had to deal with this, my heart goes out to you.

P.S. I intend to go back and ask for a referral to an endocrinologist instead, however my point still stands firm that us acne-sufferers are continually failed and sadly our disease may not ever be taken seriously.

Sorry for the old person post but god just the faint scent in the air is putting me on edge now and making me anxious, for obvious reasons.

Was it just accepted that their bulge was right there, visible, like at least half the time? And this ain't just coming from me wearing high-waist jeans now, this is also from looking at photos of people back then and how they were dressing - just seems like guys were okay with their outline showing out and everyone else was too?

Asking half-joking but also half-serious, in anticipation of the next couple months of summer.

I feel so uncomfortable and lethargic in the heat, my face gets super shiny with SPF on it, I'll probably smell at some point even with deodorant, I get vexed at public transport being inevitably delayed because the track has melted somewhere. I just find the heat stressful all around, and I know many people feel similarly.

What are your experiences of dating in the past few years as the summers have gotten more overbearing? Do you find it a hindrance?

I remember when I was about 8, at school I found a book that I really enjoyed, it was a collection of black and white comic strips about a cowboy, possibly a horse and a native american character too (could be misremembering). Quite a 'cartoony' art style. I get the feeling that it wasn't that obscure, however Google is not helping me find it at all.

Any ideas? TIA.

EDIT: Mystery Solved! The strip was called 'A Man Called Horace' (later just 'Horace').

If something is meant to be returned (IE physically sent and had its return code scanned) by, for example, the 1st of June, does that mean the item can still be returned on the actual day of the 1st of June or does it mean that as soon as it hits the 1st of June (midnight or some other arbitrary time) the cut-off has been applied?

TIA.

M, 28. Will try to keep this brief.

Since my early twenties til now I've had acne. Through a lot of trial and error and a lot of research, I am at the point where I'm 95% sure that the cause of my acne is my messed up hormones. This became clear to me over the past couple of years when I would start having what I call 'meriods' (man periods) where something in my body would suddenly go into some sort of flux; my sleep, appetite, mood, energy levels, and of course acne would all go crazy. This meriod used to be an occurrence every 9-6 months, until the past year where it now crops up every 1-2 months. That means I pretty much live in constant fear that at some point this thing (a random surge in androgens I can only imagine) will rear it's ugly head and basically mess up my life for a couple of weeks.

Lifestyle changes don't seem to matter. I've cut down processed sugar to almost nothing. I barely eat dairy. I change my pillow cases every night. Eat veggies. Drink water. Take supplements. Simple, stripped back AM/PM routine. Nothing seems to have an effect (although that's not entirely true; I'm pretty sure if I stopped doing all these things then my skin would be worse in periods where my hormones are more balanced. It's during the 'meriods' where nothing I do really matters, acne is just gonna do whatever it wants).

My skincare routine is purely reactive, trying desperately to put out fires that I can't predict or control. It's exhausting. The whole thing has changed me, it's made me obsessive about washing my hands, about touching anything dirty, touching my face, about what I eat and drink, about going out. Despite trying to keep a clear head and love myself regardless, it's so hard sometimes and on many occasions I've despaired and had a mini meltdown at the fact that my own body is working against me, limiting my enjoyment of my life.

When the flux is at its height and I wake up with two or three new spots every morning, I find myself just wanting to call in sick every day to work and not go anywhere. Then when it finally dies down and I feel a bit more normal, I have the joy of dealing with PIH for ages. And then once I finally feel fine, maybe even good, my skin starts to calm down etcetera, it's simply a false sense of security for a few weeks before it all happens again.

I've made an appointment with my GP for a couple of weeks from now and I'm going to write a letter to articulate exactly what I want to say and present them with dates and photos to back this all up. I am going to request a referral to a hormone specialist to get a panel done -- I am predicting that they will only allow me to do bloods at this stage but if that's the case then I am going to plead with them to reconsider.

If anyone has any advice or maybe any of this sounds like something you've experienced then please let me know. I'd be quite interested to hear from men if possible(?) because when I research this kind of thing it's mostly about PCOS and how I should consider taking the pill or spiro(!).

Vent over. Thanks in advance.

Eighth date today, we're not official or anything yet but obvs really like each other. I'm just wondering if mentioning that I want/need therapy (been dealing with anxiety and depression etcetera for a long time) and have recently been starting to get the ball rolling on it is something to not bring up until we are proper bf and gf? I've told her bits and pieces about how I feel sometimes but nothing in-depth at all.

Like if she asks me 'how has your week been' then I want to be honest, and I'm all for being transparent on these matters in non-dating contexts, but yeah I'm just not sure here...

I think it's also the kind of thing where if I start talking about it then I'd want to make sure I explain myself in a succinct way that isn't too detailed but also doesn't leave anything up to misinterpretation.

In the Ghostbusters re:view, Mike says that for a long time he couldn't understand what Dan Akroyd said when he spoke the line 'Hey Dean Yeager!' in a very odd way.

Mine is reaaalllyy specific. In Step Brothers when Mary Steenburgen is chastising Will Ferrell and John C. Reilly, her line is 'It goes in Robert's wall safe, and it's gonna stay there'. I had no idea what the hell she said for years. I heard 'Thoseinrubbertwollsay... And it's gonna stay there.' Then one day it was knocking around in my head and it finally clicked.

What's yours?

I said something today over dinner (7th date) whilst tipsy off of wine about how I get a bit spacey when I drink too much and anxious about my conversational skills, but idk I just feel like I didn't articulate what I was trying to say very well at all and it came off weird and it's making me feel all ughhhh. Was a great date besides that though.

Thing is I know it's not very attractive to ramble and come off overly neurotic, but if I just shoot a text over to explain what I meant in a short and light-hearted way, would that be alright?

I know I'm overthinking, I'm working on it. TIA.

Been going out with a north londoner, I want to show her the tram on our next date as she's never been on it and quite wants to. Thing is I also want something decent to actually take her to via the tram. Maybe a nice pub or pubs, an interesting place to visit, etcetera.

I'm thinking we could either start off in East Croydon (close to my gaff) or Wimbledon (she can get the northern line there).

TIA.

Hi all,

I'm curating my first museum exhibition, it's for our costume gallery (not my forte tbh) and basically I was wondering what the precedent is for putting together different objects to form a period-specific outfit -- of course they would have to be in contact with each other (E.G. a shirt, trousers, blazer, all from different acquisitions), so I'm thinking of if there are any conservation considerations here?

Different but similar example: I had an idea for crafting a scene portraying domestic life, c. mid-late 19th century, and had in my mind a table with a sewing machine, sewing materials, etcetera, perhaps an oil lamp and drinking vessel etcetera to really evoke the time - if the table itself is a museum object then will placing other objects on it be alright?

This exhibition will be up indefinitely so everything will stay in place for a good long while.

T.I.A.

Hi all, I'll try to keep this succinct.

So last night myself (M late 20s) and this girl (F early 30s) tried to have sex twice and her vagina was too tight; she told me that this has always been the case and that as a result she's never had full penetrative sex. That's fine by me, I was nice about it ofc and we did other things instead.

What I'm wondering is, as she's tried with other partners before and never succeeded, is this not simply something that we can try work on until it changes? Like in my first relationship with my ex, years ago, we were both virgins and it took a few tries and getting through some pain before everything felt good and normal -- Could that be the case here (worth noting that this girl has never had a long-term relationship, so it could just be a matter of circumstance as to why she's not been able to continually try with someone before).

^ That's the physical aspect but also if there's a psychological element then I definitely want her to feel as comfortable as possible, and I hope us carrying on dating each other and having a nice time will help with that. I'd never try to pressure her or anything.

I don't know, just wanted to hear if others have had similar experiences. Through initial research I've become aware of 'vaginismus' and kegel exercises etc, although not sure if she is -- I think she said she spoke to a doctor about this issue at one point in the past, so it's possible.

TIA.