u/magnet1122

my husband (30) and me (29) we've been married for almost a year and dating for 3. I love my husband and I love my life with him but he's super insecure in every aspect of his life. he's a very handsome men and trains regularly we have a good decent job we work together and idk how can I help him. his insecurities are usually around him doubting that I love him and or that he's not enough. Ive repeatedly told him that I love him and that I do wanna be married to him. he is jealous of every other man that talks to me or surrounds me. his family has told him before that im so pretty that he has to take care of himself or I might end up leaving which I think he actually carries himself well, but his parents maybe raised him like that?? he told me his ex girlfriend cheated on him but that was like 8 years ago idkkk he also was a chubby baby when he was a kid so idk if its that I actually don't know what to do it makes me so mad and sad at the same time that he keeps doubting me with every human being that I happen to cross words to. he needs so much reassurance that I keep or try giving him and it makes feel like nothing is enough. I swear I don't do anything crazy or too much with anyone I don't even have friends or hangout with someone that's not him or my sister and her husband bc my family is far away. he usually goes out with his friends and I have no problem with that but I feel so judged like even when I'm home alone and his working he's just calls me and if he hears a sound he's like who's there with you. silly little stuff like that but that it keeps adding up to me. at the beginning I didn't care but now is actually bothering me why do I have to or for how long should I try to prove someone that I love him and that I actually care and just wanna be with him. I told multiple times he could take some therapy to work on everything that's bothering him or doing any type of journaling literally everything that can help him but he still has done nothing. idk what else to do im sad and feel like maybe Im making a mistake by trying to prove someone everyday that im not cheating and I do wanna be with him. he's such a good guy and a loving and caring husband but if he can't trust me do we actually have a future or im just wasting my time....