u/manic_panix

Hello I’m looking for advice for filling a missing persons report on an adult. If this is the wrong sub please let me know and I will delete this.
I’m trying to keep emotions out of this even though I am worried. But trying to be as factual with all of the info I do have.

This would be my child’s father. He is a known drug addict, his last contact info is no longer valid(home address and phone number).
He does go a while no contact. My last known contact with him was via text 1/6/2026, phone number no longer in his name (I text it today to confirm)

I’ve checked the county jail(they have an inmate look up online) and all of the city court case look ups in this county along with a few neighboring cities in other counties that he’s been known to frequent. No recent charges(nothing past court appearances for child support show cause hearing April 9th that he did not show up to, also not out of the ordinary for him)

So typically he will go dark, let his phone service lapse and live out of a car or on the streets, even sometimes attending rehab treatment centers. Typically though he stays in this county and people will just let me know if they have seen him walking around or run into him at 12 step meetings.

The last that I know that anyone has actually physically seen him was the end of February, my best friend happened to see him walking down a main road and let me know.

I am in the recovery community so I asked a few people who are in the program and past of outreach programs if they have seen or heard from him. They have asked around and kept an eye out and so far nothing.

It’s very likely that I am the only one looking for him or has any interest in his whereabouts and wellbeing. Such is the life with drug addicts. He’s burned a lot of bridges with family and friends. I just want to know if he’s alive basically.

So my question is, what is my next step? Do I start calling hospitals and coroners offices with his description? Or do I file a missing persons report and they would look into that for me? I know with his history of drug usage and disappearing that being a legitimate missing person may be harder to prove. He’s never gone more than 2 months with 0 contact. He usually has hit someone up for help or money by now.

Thank you in advance any advice would be appreciated.

Okay, so please don’t judge me, my son is 4 years old, nonverbal and not potty trained.
He’s definitely showing signs that he’s ready for it. I’m just running into a few issues.

We’ve tried the potty seat on the toilet but when he goes pee his penis doesn’t point down into the toilet so he just pees over the seat and onto the floor. He’s 4 and he’s tall enough to stand while he goes.
I just have no idea how to teach him to do this. I’m a single mom and I don’t have the equipment to show him how. Same issue on the little potty chairs of peeing over the seat onto the floor.

He doesn’t let me know when he has to go at all and I don’t know how to have him make that connection.

After we started ABA therapy he developed a fear of the bathroom so now It’s almost impossible to get him anywhere near the toilet.(This started about a month ago now)

Any advice, tips or tricks welcome!

I’ve been wondering about this since my father died. He had stage 4 lung cancer and I was his in home hospice carer.

The early morning that my Dad passed I had a really vivid nightmare that woke me. I’ve been wondering if it had anything to do with the paranormal or just a frightening coincidence?

Okay so in the dream I was sitting on my bed with my back up against the headboard. I was holding my then 2yo son and something I couldn’t see was trying to pull him from my arms. I held onto him tight though and started screaming for whatever it was to stop and leave us alone.
Then it did just stop.

After that I look up and my bedroom door is open and I can see clearly into the hallway. I notice a figure near the ceiling down at the far end of the hall just watching me. Weird thing is it looked like a spirit/ghost from anime (I don’t watch anime but I have friends who do and one has a sticker that looks like this).
It’s a black figure with a white mask face. After a few seconds of staring at it its slinks around the corner toward my kitchen.

At this point I wake up heart racing and trembling. I get freaked out by this thing in my dream and if you continue straight down the hall from my room is the livingroom. My Dad had been sleeping there because he was too weak to move at this point. We made him a bed out there. So, I go out to check on him because I don’t want this sleep demon thing to touch him. By the time I go out there a touch his head, by touch alone I could tell he was gone.

This dream has stuck with me and idk if it means anything at all even. I just thought it was weird that it woke me like that when he had just passed way.

Few things to know about my Dad, he was not religious in any way and he was not a good man. We were pretty much estranged but I was the one he was closest to in his final days.

TL;DR
Had a crazy vivid nightmare with a black figure entity with a white face in it that woke me at almost the same moment my Dad passed away.

About a month ago I stopped smoking weed. My dreams came back and I’m prone to some pretty horrific nightmares. I usually let them go after about a day but this one is sticking with me and I don’t know why.

Okay so in the dream I was kidnapped and taken to a home but I couldn’t see anything until I was sitting at a kitchen table. My abductor was sitting across from me.
He wanted me to eat this soup that he made. He was very scary vibe wise. I couldn’t really see his face (I never really notice faces in my dreams) I just knew he was angry at me and very prideful in this soup that he made. He also was just looking at me intensely the entire time.

I didn’t want to eat it, I didn’t want to do anything to please him. But I did because I wanted to survive to escape. As I was eating he started laughing and informed me that the meat was human flesh. I calmly set down my spoon and did my best to not react and to stay calm. I was very angry but I just stayed calm because I wanted to survive this situation and I knew if I reacted it was what he wanted and I would soon meet the same fate as the soup. So I did nothing, he finally stopped looking at me. Then I woke up.

Hello everyone, I (37F) have a (4M) son who was diagnosed nonverbal level 3 autism last year.

We finally got him into ABA therapy. It’s been a rough journey with wait lists and he has a huge issue with sleep. Hard for him to stay asleep. For the past month he would not go to bed until sunrise. So he was attending ABA half days in the afternoons, 3.5 hours a day.

The only thing that’s changed in his routine has been ABA therapy at a local facility.

He has started to get aggressive when it comes to food. In the last two weeks he does not like it when I eat in front of him. Even if he has food infront of him as well. He gets angry if I take a bite of food and will try relentlessly to pinch my face as hard as he can causing bruising and scratches if I cannot get him off of me in time.

Another concerning behavior that has started at the same time is that he’s become fearful of the bathroom now. He has never really been fearful of anything. He’s refusing to take baths(which he previously loved) and while he only ever sat on the potty for a few seconds, now he won’t go near the toilet. I would have to drag him kicking and screaming if I wanted to get him on the toilet. So I haven’t been pushing the issue with the potty.

As for baths, well he has to bathe, so I eventually was able to force him into the tub and he stands while pressed against me now. Me and the bathroom gets soaked but I don’t really care as long as he’s clean.

I just do not understand what is happening. Nothing has changed in his routine other than ABA?

TL;DR
My mother keeps being nude in the common areas of the house infront of my child and I. It’s very triggering, This is actually inappropriate right? Also how would you address her(via text)? Please and TIA for your help

So a little bit of backstory here. I am 37f and I live with my mother and my autistic 4yo son. I’ve been on disability since I was 25. I simply do not have the means to live on my own currently or I definitely would by now.

Okay, the thing is the females(mother, sisters,Aunt, cousins) in my family (other than myself) are very comfortable being nude in front of other family members no matter the gender or persons age.

My mother is the worst offender of this, as everyone else has seemed to grow out of this behavior as they’ve got older and started their own families but it was very prevalent while I was growing up. I have always been extremely uncomfortable with this.

Along with the touching. I have always had a significantly full chest and I have memories of my cousins always talking about it or touching me. Or like my Mom rubbing my butt as she walked by me doing dishes or something. It got to the point that as a teenager I hated being touched by anyone. Like I would flinch and shrink away from their touch. I feel like I was always expected to be okay with these behaviors. When all it did was make me feel like I have no voice over my body and have blurred boundaries that I have not and still struggle with personal boundaries and what is acceptable way to conduct myself with others. (ie I’ll caress someone’s face and in my adolescent years would touch my female friends inappropriately touching their chest or smacking their butts as a “joke”)

I used to get made fun of for it actually. I had a good friend high school who helped me navigate these behaviors and basically taught me the difference between good touch and bad touch.

So here we are today. I’m 37 and I have a 4 year old child and my mother is constantly nude in front of him again. I asked her not to do this a couple years ago and she respected my wishes then. Recently she started back up with her only wearing a T shirt and nothing else at all behaviors again. I woke up today and was just so angry by it. I just want to scream “I should not be seeing your buttcheeks and whole vagina in the fucking common areas of the house!” And to just have some respect for my innocent child. I feel like her boomer hippie brain just sees nothing wrong with this.

I do not want my son raised like I was in any way shape or form. He is level 3 Autism and he doesn’t need these behaviors to hinder him at all. He’s already got enough going on. I don’t need him being confused as what’s appropriate right?

Someone please tell me I’m not crazy and that this is actually inappropriate and I’m not like “being dramatic” or overly “sensitive.”

Also any advice on how to address this conversation because I’m so emotional and triggered by this morning that I just want to scream at her. So I’d rather send a text to get my point across. That way I don’t have to deal with how she always turns everything around onto me being the one who is in the wrong. I feel because I’m bipolar and a recovering drug addict that everyone in my family never takes my side so I am uncomfortable reaching out to my sisters for advice.

Writing this is very embarrassing and triggering. I’m being extremely vulnerable out of desperation to keep my child safe. I’m not one to typically get vulnerable at all let alone so publicly but life is no longer about me you know? I gotta keep him safe.