Kind of a long shot but....

Kind of a long shot but....

Does ANYONE have a box lying around of this specific Art Loft's PBN or is working on it themselves? I lost my paints and I need a good picture of the colors because I want to try to mix them myself with some acrylic paint I have.

Any help is much appreciated!

u/matchamatchbook — 1 day ago

Someone is lying about parentage and its extremely annoying

I did my ancestry test a few years ago. Didn't get too many matches from people I knew, but didn't think much of it.

Found out in 2023 that my uncle (dad's brother) took one too. He does not come up as a match. I know he has his discovery thing turned on because he's matched with people from my grandma's side that are distantly related.

When I look up my family's last names, I do get matches, some of them being familiar, but they're very distantly related. In most cases, 3rd cousins or more (ex: 32cM for the closest relative with my paternal grandmothers maiden last name, 12cM for the closest relative with my dad's last name).

Things aren't adding up. I have considered the possibility that my dad is not my biological father. But then, why would I have matches with his name and my grandma's name?

It doesn't help that I know almost nothing about my maternal side. My mom died in 2021, and we were borderline estranged for a few years leading up to her death. She would just...mention people's names and expect me to just know who they were.

My paternal side isn't any better. My paternal grandfather died when I was like 14 and he was never really in my dad or uncle's lives. I didn't even know his first name or how he and my grandma met until last year.

I honestly don't even really care if my dad isn't my bio dad. Personality wise, I'm basically his exact twin and he and my grandma raised me. He is my dad.

I guess it's just frustrating that SOMEONE AT SOME POINT fucked up and never fessed up to it and now I get to wade through the B.S.

Anyone have theories? Tips?

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u/matchamatchbook — 10 days ago

Autism is slowly but surely ruining my sex life

Feat. Sourdough breakfast sandwich from Dunkin.

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I (25f) feel like my sex life is being ruined by autism/neurodivergence. Strap in cause the diary factory exploded or whatever.

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I've always dealt with sensory issues, but they've gotten worse in the last year or two. I struggle to be in public because the world is too.....sharp. too loud, too bright, etc.. I am exhausted attempting to mask. All my clothes must be loose and baggy and soft, and I haven't been able to wear makeup or jewelry in at least a year.

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And with sex it's all just....worse, somehow.

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My partner and I have been together for almost 10 years. He's very giving, I can count on one hand how many times we've done something sexual where I wasn't physically satisfied. I'm super attracted to him, too. He's got the strong broad shoulders + soft belly thing going on and he's been in a sport for a couple years now that just makes his physique *chefs kiss*.

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And yet.

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I struggle super hard to initiate. I get anxious, no matter what, in the moments leading up to sexual stuff. I can't get out of my head. Do I look ok? Do I smell ok? He kisses my neck and part of my brain is like, okay that feels nice, but then it's overtaken by the larger, more annoying part that starts to get irritated at the sensation. I want to shrug him off.

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When he tries to switch things up, I get irritated. My brain says, why can't we just do this the regular way??

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When it's my turn iykwim, I have to focus super hard otherwise I'll lose progress (only way I can think to put it) which then means mentally I have to start over again and makes it take forever.

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I like the idea of sex. I like the idea of him. But in practice, it's just so much harder. Sometimes I'd rather deal with myself on my own rather than have sex because there's significantly less mind and body noise involved.

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I just feel so bad. He's really trying so hard. The more he wants my body, he more he touches me. The more he touches me, the worse I feel because it's like having two distinct parts of my brain fighting about it. The sane part is happy, the ND part just wants to be left alone

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The only time it doesn't feel like this is when I've been drinking. It feels like my brain has switched off. I come down to the plane that everyone else exists on.

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As it stands, we're only having sex like once a week. I'd love to do it more often. I know he would too.

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I just feel so broken.

u/matchamatchbook — 20 days ago

20 ancestral regions!!! (Chicana/Mexican-American)

Anyone else have a ton of regions? Or even more than 20?

Also, does anyone have tips for researching genealogy or finding tribal information for Native Mexicans?

u/matchamatchbook — 28 days ago
▲ 6 r/52book

24/100 Last book of May!

This book was so strange but I liked it! Originally, I heard about it from someone who DNF'ed (due in part to the stream of consciousness chapters). It was odd and all over the place but in a good way? I give it 4 stars :)

u/matchamatchbook — 1 month ago
▲ 609 r/creepcast

My Sexy Neighbor is an under hyped story

I'm catching up, Creeping my shit crazy style, and I can't believe My Sexy Neighbor isn't discussed more?? It has some genuinely creepy beats, and it isn't trying to be more than what it is. It feels almost off the cuff, you can tell the author is having fun with it, and it just....works. it feels like your friend is trauma-dumping on you but you're hooked on what they're telling you. It isn't trying to be Poe or Lovecraft or King or anything else other than what it is: a spooky little story posted to the internet. It's ridiculous, creepy, and great.

u/matchamatchbook — 1 month ago

Most ethical way to order DD to the second floor?

Hi all!

I recently moved into an apartment on the second floor and need to have groceries delivered. Nothing insane, just the basics (milk, eggs, produce, etc).

My building has a set of stairs to get to the second floor. I'd say it's 12 to 15 steps total. I know some people who DD are disabled or physically limited, so what's the best way to place my order? I'll be tipping, ofc. Should I note it in the instructions? Or am I generally fine to only mention my unit number?

Advice is appreciated!

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u/matchamatchbook — 2 months ago

So as my post history shows, my partner and I are moving out of our roommates house (roommate sucks).

We spent a week searching and found a good place for cheap. I totally expected to spend the rest of the week stressing since I'm working AND trying to move.

But my partner? He's basically gotten us fully moved in on his own.

Packing up, getting boxes up to the department, coordinating the move, getting the deposits and the utilities dealt with. I've moved maybe 4 or 5 boxes?

I've tried to get him to slow down and let me help more after work, but he's so focused on getting it done.

I am just so.........impressed with him, honestly. And proud of him. He's handled almost every aspect of our move. And his muscles are bulging because he's carrying heavy shit up stairs every day.

No complaints, not shaming me for not doing more, just a big man lifting heavy boxes for the love of the game.

I think I need to throw it back a little, girlies.

Feat. Beef and shrimp udon. 🍤

u/matchamatchbook — 2 months ago
▲ 12 r/okc

I collected squishmallows back in 2022 and now that im moving out of my current place, I want to downsize my collection by like 95%.

I don't want to sell them, I'd rather donate them. Anyone know of any charities or grass roots orgs that take toys/stuffies? Most still have tags, and this is a smoke-free home (also in an area where pets do not have access).

Thanks!!

u/matchamatchbook — 2 months ago