u/melikebiscuit

I hate running. I've always hated running.

I was very fit in my 20s and early 30s (until I had a work accident) but even at my fittest, running was a chore and I couldn't understand why people did it for fun. I turned 40 last year and have been working hard to make sure I'm physically in good health. I started running a couple of months ago (triggered by yet another weight loss plateau). The first few runs were awful, thought I might die, hated every second, ached for almost a week after, regretted all of my life choices etc, etc.

I was speaking to a friend at work, and he said 'you're trying to run too fast. Slow it down so it's almost painfully slow, keep your heartrate in zone 2/3 and see how you feel then'.

Well. It turns out I have been wrong about running for the past 25 years of my life. I don't hate running, I actually really enjoy it, I've just been trying to run too hard/fast too soon, and then giving up because it's hard and it hurts.

I'm not fast, but I've comfortably ran 10k twice now (and shorter distances several times a week, with one treadmill interval training session a week), sang along to my music the whole way (well, mimed), and got home a little tired but not out of breath even after an hour plus of running.

Apparently I never hated running, I just didn't understand what I was doing 😂

Morning all,

For background; I work in a small clinical setting, in a team of 7. Of that 7, 2 of us are nurses.

For the last 3 years another member of staff has been constantly making small remarks and belittling my recommendations for the clinical space and procedures (despite it being my job role). That has since also been aimed at my other nursing colleague (who started 18 months ago).

It has got to the point now that we are not included in team/clinical emails from this individual.

Unfortunately my line manager (head of department) and his manager are friends with this individual socially, so very little has been done about this individuals behaviour when I've previously raised it.

Now, descsions have been made regarding the clinic, that will have a significant impact on the nurses workload, without discussing it with the nursing team. When it was first mentioned I raised my concerns regarding the extra workload and the appropriateness of what they wanted to do. Further discussions have clearly occurred without us and the head has agreed it will happen.

I feel like I have nowhere to turn. We don't have a direct HR department - it's online advice only.

I feel like we are looked down upon, belittled and purposely excluded - the latest email did not include us. One of the doctors cc'd us in to his response as he believed we needed to be aware also, and when this individual replied to his email they removed the nurses from the reply (I know this because he spoke to me about her response and I said I hadn't received it, at which point he showed me the email and I noticed we'd been removed). I can only see that this was purposely done, as usually you just click 'reply all'.

All of the interactions with this individual have been relatively minor, however I have started to log them and have 6 pages of comments and incidents over the last 3 years.

I have taken this to my line manager on several occasions and he says he'll 'speak to her', but nothing ever seems to improve.

I genuinely enjoy the actual job, but the cobstant animosity and lack of reproach for this individual is starting to affect my mental health and that of the other nurse (who I am line manager for).

I really need advice on where I should turn. Should I be looking at this as a bullying case (purposeful exclusion of the nursing team). I don't have a union and the onsite union rep is this individuals best friend, so not someone I could approach.

The individual has been in this role for 20+ years, and although it is widely known they have made several individuals quit their jobs in that time, nothing seems to be done about their behaviour.

I've been practicing yoga across the last 12 years or so through various classes, YouTube tutorials etc. I practice 2-4 times a week (I try to squeeze 20 minutes in to my lunch break at work). I have good balance, good flexibility and a good amount of strength.

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I'd really like to start advancing my practice but no idea where or how to start! After as many tips and pointers on how to advance. Did you start with a specific pose? Did you go to advanced lessons?

We're quite a way in to buying and selling properties (short chain; ftb's buying ours, us buying an empty property as sellers had cash for their next property so have already completed that). We have to complete before the end of July for various reasons.

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We've been waiting to responses to all enquiries for several weeks now. The last enquiry that's outstanding is regarding access to the property. It appears the end of the cul-de-sac where the house (and 4 others) is (18 year old estate) is an unadopted road. The sellers don't seem to have any paperwork regarding access/right if way etc so our solicitors have asked them for an indemnity policy.

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Looking at that, it seems pretty straight forward, but it has raised some concerns for me.

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Does this mean we'd be liable for repairs to this shared area? It's access to a total of 5 houses and 6 garages. Will we need extra public liability insurance incase somebody hurts themselves in this shared space?

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Is there anything else you'd be concerned about? Would this put you off the purchase?

Hi all, we're about to move in to an end terrace house with an attached garage. A previous owner has converted part of the back of it in to a utility space. I'd like to add an external door so we can use this entrance and have it as a utility/mud room (young kids and dog). The front door/hall is quite narrow so not much space for shoe storage.

There is a path round the side of the garage that is shared between us and the middle terrace for garden access.

Would this need planning permission/building regs? Is there anything I have to consider? (I'm assuming it'll need a steel lintel adding).

Anyone have an idea roughly of the cost? (Excluding the door as I know my choice will affect the cost 😂).

Thanks.

We've just had our survey report for the house we're buying. Nothing very exciting overall (bit of moss on the roof and a couple of blown panes in the conservatory). But the below has been flagged because the path to the property rises up and clearly goes to the same level of the dpc (bottom of the front door).

"The damp-proof course (DPC) to the external walls has been bridged. There should be at

least two clear courses of brickwork (150mm) between the DPC and the ground. Remedial

work is required to cut back the overlying render to provide the required clearance. Where it

is not possible to provide this clearance, other remedial treatment may be possible, for

example installing a vertical DPC. You should obtain the advice of a competent contractor

prior to exchange of contracts in order that you can budget for this work."

Anyone know if this is likely to be a real issue? Other than removing the path up and stepping up in to the house I can't see a resolution. There were no signs/smells of damp in the property, and I'm assuming if water can run up hill, up the path there are probably bigger issues, but want to know if anyone else has had this and if you did anything about it! Thanks :)

Hi all, we're in the process of selling/buying. We have first time buyers buying our current property and have had no end of issues with the house we're purchasing and further up the chain - changing their minds on properties and generally being VERY slow. Sale was agreed early February and we've only just received the draft contract pack!

After yet another week of delays (searches done and no replies to enquiries for two weeks despite chasing) and further up the chain flaking on a second property, we decided to view another house with the bonus of having no chain. Thankfully it's suitable so we've made an offer and had it accepted and our buyer has thankfully not been scared off by this (they have kids and so do we - we need to move before September).

I'm trying to get a rough idea of what additional costs we'll have incurred with our solicitors.

We're anticipating new survey (£660), and the upfront £500 for new searches, but has anyone done this and know roughly how much it added to legal fees? If it's only a grand I'm not too concerned, but if it's 5k we need to have an idea of that.

Also, the new property is two roads over from the one we were buying - anyone know if they'll be able to use some of the searches from the last property? (Oil drilling/solar farms etc) or will it need a complete new set?

This will only be our second house purchase and we were first time buyers buying an empty property with no time constraints last time so it's a whole different ball game!