u/metro_boulot_dodo11

Is this unusual?

It's a company part of a huge international group so I would assume they have all these standard steps in place. The job offer documents I received said the offer is dependent on right to work (passport) and professional qualification (degrees). I was going to send all of this and then include my current HR department email but took it out because it didn't ask for it.

I assume referencing usually come before the offer gets released on paper, but i'm past that point now.

Side note: I might have depression, ADHD, OCD features but not formally diagnose so I will just leave it at that for context. I do know I have anxiety because it's something I feel daily.

I wonder if anyone has anxiety and whether that manifests as chronically sleepy and fatigued? I usually have 6-7 hours of sleep a day. On my commute I'd sleep on the train, throughout the work day I would yawn and have strong urge to just nap for a bit. After lunch I have a huge slump from food and need naps, on my commute home i nap again on train. Not to mention any boring things like meetings will for sure trigger this as well, so through one day there's so many little moments that make me want to nod off. my eyes are heavy, I look visibly tired to other people. Then the usual things like "social battery" draining when around people and conversation that are too much to engage with. so overall lots of things in a day can make me feel like this, and I know this surely isn't normal?

I'm otherwise healthy. I ask because I can't seem to think of anything else wrong with me apart from these mental health issues i have had for 10+ years.

Recently prescribed propanolol, I haven't taken them but will start soon.

I'm moving to Reading for a job that will be 5 days a week in office, which will be tiring but I'm determined to make it work for as long as I can

The commute that I can think of so far is Reading train station > Winnersh Triangle takes 8 min, then walk a further 10 minutes, hopefully door to door that's 25 minutes ish give or take. That's the ideal time if I'm going to commute I think so I thought I should find a flat closest to the main Reading train station.

I haven't thought about bus because I havent taken it when I was down Reading. Does anyone do commutes to Winnersh Triangle and know areas/public transport route that can squeeze the commute to 25 minutes each way?

I drive but I don't like relying on driving everyday, I also know the roads to Winnersh can clog up as I've been in taxi to the interview

edit: I can't see any comments in the thread right now (probably a bug) but I can see comments through notification. To answer some of your questions I don't know where I'll live in Reading, hopefully you guys can help with areas that have good connections to quick public transport, for example city centre for the Train. or area x is on the direct bus route to Winnersh Triangle. Thanks!!

For context I graduated 2022 and entered a job with 2 days minimum in office. Really love the flexibility but that being said it might not helped with my phone scrolling habits, it's hard to do a task start to end undisrupted because of this at home and often drags out the day past 5 for me. sometimes I would go in more than twice a week but because it's totally my decision it feels less awful.

I have a verbal offer for a job with significant pay increase, sounds intense and its 5 days a week. I'm really unhappy at my current job. This new job will give me development needed to job hop easier within this industry (accounting, I'm currently in audit and do not want to stick it out in practice) but the pain point is this demand to be in 5 days a week (flexibility if I have appointment that day to work from home but generally it is on site)

I will relocate and one of the things i'm doing to make this bearable is to choose to live close to the train station because it's only an 8 minute ride there and then 10 minute walk. How else can I change my lifestyle to accommodate this and am I making a big deal about being in office 5 days a week.

I'm single, no kids, just me.

Both the jobs are financial accountant

I have a job offer for really high salary 65k, 2 days to close month end. They said its intense, and work to USA colleagues timings so sometimes weekend work. 5 days in office too

Then I got a call for a first interview with another company which is pretty much remote with 1 or 2 days a month in office. Its 50k. Sounds chill for a first move out of audit. This is however still in interview stages and I would have to reply to the first offer this week.

It would be a gamble in my head to reject first offer. Idk what to do

I'm qualified for a year now and I may have an offer for industry role where they talk about month end, VAT/tax filings, journal processing for different areas of the business all under tight deadlines. 2 days to close because they're working to American colleague's times (it's an american company incorporated in UK). They're transparent about the intensity of it, working weekends, staff turnover. I'm no stranger to intense work but I've only ever reviewed these things, not actually done it or know how it's done.

I'm just worried I go in and they're disappointed I can't hack it. and at myself for not being able to do it.

I need industry experience to get better roles in the future and so far I can't land many interviews just because my big 4 audit background pigeon hole me into pure audit and no accounts prep exposure. My plan is to stick it out long enough to understand the industry processes and leave for something calmer. Is there anything I can do to prepare before I go into this industry role? It seems like with my calibre, and limited knowledge the only company picking me up is one who needs bodies (kind of like big 4) and as I'm writing this I'm wondering whether I've just faked it til i make it or whether I know anything at all

UK

I'm looking to move out of audit first time. I've had enough, lost my spark and any light in my eyes so i'm ready to move.

I've interviewed for this role in industry as financial accountant. It is a USA company based in UK, 5 days in office (with some flexibility for one day wfh), higher pay (currently on £45k, offer is £60k).

In the interview, they said it is an intense role, 2 days to close month end, staff turnover is high they said, working on weekends (sometimes?) because they're working to American colleague times to close books on their end, they are working on a system to close monday instead because no one wants to work weekend. So I can tell from this they're transparent, and have ideas in place to not work weekends long term.

I am concerned about going from one job that burned me out to another hell, but I'm trying to reason with myself here. I need industry experience, I've never done month end. If I stay long enough for the experience i can job hop to another industry role easier as currently there's a lot of places that don't even care for someone who started in big 4 audit (don't blame them, I dont know much about industry processes at this point in my career).

Am I maybe thinking it'll be harder than reality? Will someone who's gone through 3 busy seasons in audit be able to hack it? I'm expecting a learning curve but can't quantify it, can someone give me their experience in companies like this?

My notice period is 3 months (sooo long)

recently I have been job hunting, some final round interviews, but no offers. In the meantime my mental health has been plummeting, and I've been taking antidepressants with some horrible side effects.

I want to hand in my notice tomorrow monday citing that I've been looking for another role but ultimately I am looking to leave regardless to take care of my mental health.

This transparency is so they're aware that I might be asking for reference if my interviews are successful.

Also has anyone agreed to end notice early if they're sick? I'm not in the best state at all, the meds are impacting me physically and mentally, everything I do feels like it's going to make me pass out.

I'm qualified. Started job search in March 2026, it's been relentless (I have some sort of neurodivergent behaviour too so for example on one of my annual leave week I spent all week day, night, applying, doing my CV, non stop, it was all consuming. I literally couldn't stop and was so stressed).

I've been lucky a few times where my managers were on leave so I could go for 2nd round in person interviews but I will be out of that luck next week. Maintaining this job (my busy season rn) while interviewing in far away places too has got me so down.

To rub salt to the wound I got rejected for a role that I thought I interviewed well for today, but lacked the technical knowledge.

I have a few more final rounds interviews next week, but got my hopes up too much for this role and fell too far down mentally.

I live with my parents, got money saved up. I'm aware the job market is terrible from my job search, equally terrible mental health, I always have this anxiety buzz from the moment I wake up to bed time. I'm not even sure what I want to hear from you guys :'/

I broke up with my partner in 2025 after being together for 5 years. I was prescribed SSRI in 2022 but never took it because I was scared of side effects. I forgot about it and continued my life as normal.

Over the years I never felt sad much, just constantly stressed, felt like everyday was putting out the fires in my life trying to save the day. I expressed to my partner I was stressed multiple times over our relationship, becoming more ashamed to say it, because the word "stressed" didnt hold much weight, it felt trivial. And also because it never truly described what I was experiencing internally, but it was the best expression i could find that time. I broke up because my symptoms pushed me to isolate a lot of them times and not talking to him. Thinking alone time would fix it but it didnt.

One year on since the broke up, I introspected a lot and realised what im experiencing isnt normal. Im taking SSRI and talking to doctor about depression, anxiety and OCD. Should I let my ex know about this or no? I do want to get back together, and he never really understood why we broke up. I have reached out before but before I realised I had depression so I still didnt have answers for him then. ​but now I think I do.

But at the same time this feels like im making excuses to justify why I broke up. Sorry I just feel like I havent made good decisions in a long while and would appreciate some good strangers to bounce ideas back with me because im struggling with this news

Not diagnosed but searching up about hyperfixation a year after my long term relationship breakup of 5 years has bought me to this subreddit...and I should probably look into getting diagnosed because a lot of things point to this including loonnnng study sessions while I was in school to universities, short attention span and generally taking more time to understand something despite great academic record.

Anyway, I hyperfixate on issues a lot. When I have a problem, I stress and think about solutions until I am exhausted or see the issue through to the end. Last year I was trying to distract myself from the stress of work/exams by spending so much time on my hobbies. My ex partner and I would sit in a room and I would be focusing on something from morning to night without talking to him. This hyperfixation made me think I actually crave being by myself (red herring and I'm so stupid for thinking that way) and we broke up because I felt like I couldn't give him the affection and attention he deserves, but since the breakup I really miss him and realised I was just masking my worry with a distraction. Since then I tried to test it out more.

recently I needed a new job, and I spent all morning and night for 1 week straight applying for jobs, perfecting my interviewing skills while thinking if I was still in a relationship I would have yet again neglected my partner while I have my heads down on this task and can't share my attention to the relationship. This time the hyperfixation and stress of finding a new job was so bad I got burn out and thought a lot of bad things and cried.

I really dont want to repeat this for future relationships, anyone know how they dealt with hyperfixation on things/problems (luckily though I dont hyperfixate on people)? I have a strong urge to solve things in my life and not being able to let go a little bit once in a while has genuinely pushed people away because I am not present enough for them

I had my final interview for financial accountant looking after mainly CAPEX, and then final interview for management accountant for a SME, recently PE backed IT company.

No offers yet but the interviews so far leaves me feeling positive, which is promising because I am ready to leave audit for good, though I plan to just resign anyway next week even if I dont get offers because I am tired.

I am most worried about the learning curve at the start but honestly if I can get through audit I feel like I can get through it all.

What is it like, more interested in people's views about PE backed companies? I suppose more scrutiny over the packs to the Board, and less chill than your average management accountant role, but still better than audit?

I am about to have final round interview with PE backed company in industry, funded by BGF.

Lots of stories about relating to PE backed companies, but these are american comments mostly so I'm not sure if that's 100% reflective of UK ones. I will be making my move out of audit and really want industry experience, but also don't want to be jumping from audit to another hell

Im in big 4 audit and interviewed for a management accountant at a tech company that is small, recently PE backed and there is a finance manager who's been there for over 10 years and theyre hiring management accountant as the responsibility is growing, and will soon hire assistant accountant below the role im applying to

They also got a CFO recently. Now im sick of audit and want to do something new but in big 4 I like that theres people my age and I could talk to them about anything work or personal related, so this is a change as the only other person is the manager. In the interview she said she dont want to oversell the social aspect because its a small team. In my head I know that theres social life outside of work but we do spend so much time at work, and also its easy I guess to be like oh i'll get used to it but I dont have the benefit of hindsight yet and dont want to downplay this if it would genuinely make my life miserable.

Bright side is it is higher pay and she says the scope of work isnt much and im so ready to not experience audit anxiety again

Anyone made the move and found it fine?