u/miaaaaaa01

girlslop bowl: deconstructed chicken fajitas with a shitload of cheese and bell peppers

the dilemma: i’m 24F and i haven’t dated seriously since i broke up with my last boyfriend in September 2023. i’ve been working on myself—got to rock bottom last year and had to build myself back up. started running, changed my meds, all around a much more balanced person. but i’m lonely as fuck. having friends and hanging out with them isn’t a substitute for romantic love, no matter how hard i try and pretend it is. i said to myself at the beginning of the year that if love finds me this year then it won’t be on the apps, but i feel like that was just cope since all of my long term relationships in the past have come from fucking Tinder. i just feel shit out of luck because i can get other people partners (literally set up my older sister with this guy we met at an event in February, wham bam thank you ma’am, as of June they’re already official) but i can’t do the same thing for myself. oof. i am so tired of people saying “it’s better being single!!!!!” for me, no it’s not. i want a partner and i don’t want to feel bad about that

no wonder openai shut down 4o if this is the kind of person it was catering to. sam altman you are going to the worst part of hell but at least you did something right

For context me and my friend were chatting and he was asking me about my relationship. He asked me what my future plan is with her and what my end game is. I got the feeling he was trying to gauge how serious I am about her. He said maybe I should get her a promise ring to show her I am serious and thats when I sent the first text you can see in the screenshot.

Afterwards this was his response. I have known him for two years and I am aware that the last person he was with cheated on him with another guy and a girl so he has always kind of had a bad outlook on relationships. Even so he has never been so rude to me. It was such a quick switch up when I mentioned an engagement ring as opposed to a promise ring. As soon as I said that the whole conversation dissolved into him basically throwing virtual punches. I think maybe he was mad that I didn’t take his “advice” about getting my gf a promise ring and wanted to make me feel bad.

To be honest this kind of sudden switch up really makes me feel like I am seeing his true colors for the first time. He has always been into 9/11 conspiracies and also into the conspiracies around that one flight that disappeared but I didn’t know how out of wack he actually is with these beliefs.

I seriously wonder what else he thinks about me especially after he said “newsflash: your gf is probably just with you because she's bored and hasn't found someone better yet”

AIO if I just cut him off right now?

Edit for context: I have actually known this guy for longer than we have been friends. Our dads work together, but him and I didn’t start hanging out until about 2 years ago. I tried calling him after I sent the last text because I thought maybe he was messing with me and I wanted to see wtf was going on, but he didn’t pick up.

Update: I am going to have to make a separate post possibly in a different sub because he responded to my text telling him we are going no contact for a bit and what he said honestly changes things up. He told me he likes me and I genuinely don’t know what to do and I feel betrayed? I don’t know why feel that way, but that is just the immediate reaction.

Was gonna make an update about his confession, but decided to delete that post and just block his number.

Also yes I still have to see him because our dads still work together so this is not gonna be the last of him. I will probably unblock him later to have an actual conversation and set boundaries, but for now I don’t want to talk to him cause he is sending multiple texts like he did earlier and I am already overwhelmed. Will update this if I actually talk to him later.

EDIT: Ended up unblocking him just cause I am going to have to see him again and wanted boundaries in place. He got argumentative.

Should I tell his dad in him like he is a little boy? He is acting like one now.

EDIT 2: he is no longer acting like a little boy he has revealed himself to possibly actually be a clinical narcissist to the point where I can’t believe I let my gf be around him or bought him around at all. Sorta scary amd deffo sending his dad screenshots of the messages regardless of his age.

EDIT 3: decided against telling his father because I don’t want to necessarily out him and he apologized for now I am leaving it at that and waiting for my gf to discover the ring sizer I ordered. this is so out of the blue that I genuinely thought he was manic or something. I took screenshots in real time as he was texting me because of how surprising it was to me. He has never talked to me that way so that is why I thought I might have to tell someone close to him. Seemed like he needed help.

Edit 4: I have successfully gotten my girlfriend’s ring size and am focused back on what matters.

Edit 5: I wake up and I am genuinely surprised by the people in my inbox saying that that if I love my gf I won’t marry her. Really thought maybe my fake friend was sending ppl to say that or making alternate accounts.

Edit 6: now bro is literally begging to come over to my place to apologize “face to face” literally muted him and turned of read receipts so he gets infinitely left on delivered. Gonna use the texts for evidence of he ends up showing up unannounced.

UPDATE: today my gf put our engagement on hold. AIO to immediately suspect my “freind” has something to do with it?