u/moldyskeleton

wondering if drivers are supposed to work July 3rd, they have me scheduled but most shops i go to are closing that day.

to set things up, i'm in the middle of a chronic stomach illness, it's been going on for 6 months. i lost my medicaid and have been unable to see my new specialist for the past month. every day feels miserable. so much more has happened. we're living in our house as we're building it, so we haven't had running water or sewer. it's been an adjustment but we're close to having the essentials now.

i come from a family where every day was exhausting to just be alive. constant fights and drama over nothing. my dad abused me as a kid. the pain never goes away even though i think i've fully forgiven him. my husband is my hero as i feel like he saved me from this life, he is my dream.

i lost my job recent, but started a new one this past week. i have never worked full time (i'm 21 and made good money off of painting for years) so this is an adjustment for me. i have severe anxiety. therapy and medication have never helped. i ended up having a breakdown when my husband told me on my first day that they were making him work evenings all week and hadn't let him know. this meant that i would get off work and have to be home alone til bedtime and wouldn't get to relax with my husband at all. i need his help to relax, i know i rely on him too much. i ended up self harming again.

he helped me calm down once he got home. i felt so much better and was able to stop crying. he eventually asked me if i thought i loved him more than God, and i didn't know how to answer. like it shocked me. i have always been set on loving God more, cos i remember the Bible saying something about you must hate your father and mother in comparison to how much you love Jesus.

i just don't know what to do now, cos i feel like my husband is right. i don't want God to take him away from me for loving him too much. how do i love God more?? i really try my best to pray every day, do devotionals, just talk to God throughout my whole day. i just feel like it's not enough and i don't want to lose my husband or my salvation because of it. please help me

let me start off by saying i have it good compared to most people with "daddy issues". my parents are still married, my dad still talks to me, there's just deep wounds from him cheating on my mom and physically abusing me when i was little.

something about what he did is what i'm assuming caused this problem for me. i guess it's less of a problem and more of an observation. i never trusted any man enough to get close, i was very avoidant in dating. then i met my husband and it's completely opposite. i'm extremely anxiously attached to him and find myself looking to him as a father figure even though we're the same age.

when we started dating, i noticed immediately that he had a maturity to him that i was attracted to in older men. the closer we got, i noticed that i tend to act childish around him, especially in situations where i'm scared of something. i eventually realized i only hold one of his fingers instead of holding his entire hand. this is just one small way i noticed myself acting childlike with him, but it also comes up like i said when i'm scared, if i've had a nightmare, heard a noise, etc. and he handles it exactly how it was in my dreams, i can't believe i got the full package without having to marry an old man even though that's what i thought i wanted. he just embodies that safety i needed my whole life. i remember being in awe when we first started dating, that he was so strong and had such big muscles, but uses them to keep me safe and not to hurt me.

i just wondered if anyone else has experienced anything like this and if it can affect anything down the line. to me, it feels good now, but i'm curious if this will help heal me or make me worse over time to indulge in these behaviors.

i feel my uti coming back, the culture has come back clear twice but i have all the symptoms and several things including white blood cells were elevated. the problem is i can't afford to pee in a cup again. i just got kicked off medicaid without much warning and now i won't have insurance until July. i have NO money. i don't know what to do, im more stressed out than anyone can understand

my husband has always loved to play video games with his friends on occasion. he gets upset whenever i ask him to stop for the day. i just need advice and help understanding his side and if anyone can understand mine.

i met my husband and we started dating a year ago, got married 6 months in. i have no regrets at all, he's my best friend and doesn't really have any major flaws especially in comparison to me (severe ocd, really sensitive, etc). i wouldn't have done it any other way. this is just the thing that we fight about like once a month.

i have been sick since we got married, a couple days after the wedding i came down with covid and it has wrecked my gut. i have been to several doctors and we can't figure out anything. everything i eat makes me feel sick and tired. i also lost my job and my insurance. so i have been home most days, trying to do anything i can to make money and keep the house clean. i just miss my husband all day long and can't wait til he's home so we can hang out.

he has this one friend though, where when they have plans, nothing else matters. there were times we were dating and my now husband was supposed to come over, and ended up putting it off so he could spend 6+ more hours with his friend. so i just sit there waiting legitimately all day. if I don't say anything, he will never leave his friend's house. it's like nothing else exists when he's with his friend. time doesn't exist, i don't exist, etc. even now when we're married, he will walk in, already on the phone with his friend, say nothing to me, and play games for hours. eventually i get so sad and start crying because i feel ignored and abandoned. all I want is to do stuff together. if he wants to play games, that's fine too just please not every day and please not for hours and hours.

last night we got into it again. the 2 previous nights, he played about 5 hours in total. last night, it was 11:30 before we got into the house (had to spray for bugs and visited his family). we have a little fun ourselves or at least for him, because by the time he's finished, he's on the phone with his friend and i am just left there. this isn't like him, except when his friend is involved. i slept 5 hours the past several nights, and i just wanted to spend some time chatting with him and hanging out before bed. i give it 30 minutes before i ask if we can hang out soon. he ignores me. i lay there for 30 more minutes and then tears start falling. he hears me, gets mad and shuts down the game and then starts telling me i never let him have any fun, he never gets to play his game, and that 5 hours isn't enough. and i'm like i sat there for 5 hours the past 2 nights and didn't say anything, but now that i'm upset he acts like it just erases all the time where i sat patiently. he just kept saying well ill just delete the game then. i just won't play anything anymore or have any fun anymore. and i'm like that's not what i want i just want to have time with him as well. that's all he will say and leaves the rest of the talking up to me, it's like i'm talking to a wall.

we argued til 2 in the morning before he got too tired and said he was over it. we went to sleep, both apologized in the morning, he left for work, and i'm here just feeling crushed. i don't want to fight, i just want to spend time with my husband. it also doesn't help that he could be spending this time working on our house. we are living in an unfinished shed with no water, no sewer, and only a few outlets hooked up. we have insulation and an AC unit in our bedroom, but the living room thermostat read 110° the past 3 days. i'm really struggling living like this for almost 6 months and i feel like he could at least be working on that instead of wasting so many hours on video games.

i don't know anymore, i'm just at a loss. i struggle with the way he fights. he won't come out of this attitude he gets in and have a genuine conversation with me. it just hurts more than anything has ever hurt in my life. i just don't know what to do.

my husband has always loved to play video games with his friends on occasion. he gets upset whenever i ask him to stop for the day. i just need advice and help understanding his side and if anyone can understand mine.

i met my husband and we started dating a year ago, got married 6 months in. i have no regrets at all, he's my best friend and doesn't really have any major flaws especially in comparison to me (severe ocd, really sensitive, etc). i wouldn't have done it any other way. this is just the thing that we fight about like once a month.

i have been sick since we got married, a couple days after the wedding i came down with covid and it has wrecked my gut. i have been to several doctors and we can't figure out anything. everything i eat makes me feel sick and tired. i also lost my job and my insurance. so i have been home most days, trying to do anything i can to make money and keep the house clean. i just miss my husband all day long and can't wait til he's home so we can hang out.

he has this one friend though, where when they have plans, nothing else matters. there were times we were dating and my now husband was supposed to come over, and ended up putting it off so he could spend 6+ more hours with his friend. so i just sit there waiting legitimately all day. if I don't say anything, he will never leave his friend's house. it's like nothing else exists when he's with his friend. time doesn't exist, i don't exist, etc. even now when we're married, he will walk in, already on the phone with his friend, say nothing to me, and play games for hours. eventually i get so sad and start crying because i feel ignored and abandoned. all I want is to do stuff together. if he wants to play games, that's fine too just please not every day and please not for hours and hours.

last night we got into it again. the 2 previous nights, he played about 5 hours in total. last night, it was 11:30 before we got into the house (had to spray for bugs and visited his family). we have a little fun ourselves or at least for him, because by the time he's finished, he's on the phone with his friend and i am just left there. this isn't like him, except when his friend is involved. i slept 5 hours the past several nights, and i just wanted to spend some time chatting with him and hanging out before bed. i give it 30 minutes before i ask if we can hang out soon. he ignores me. i lay there for 30 more minutes and then tears start falling. he hears me, gets mad and shuts down the game and then starts telling me i never let him have any fun, he never gets to play his game, and that 5 hours isn't enough. and i'm like i sat there for 5 hours the past 2 nights and didn't say anything, but now that i'm upset he acts like it just erases all the time where i sat patiently. he just kept saying well ill just delete the game then. i just won't play anything anymore or have any fun anymore. and i'm like that's not what i want i just want to have time with him as well. that's all he will say and leaves the rest of the talking up to me, it's like i'm talking to a wall.

we argued til 2 in the morning before he got too tired and said he was over it. we went to sleep, both apologized in the morning, he left for work, and i'm here just feeling crushed. i don't want to fight, i just want to spend time with my husband. it also doesn't help that he could be spending this time working on our house. we are living in an unfinished shed with no water, no sewer, and only a few outlets hooked up. we have insulation and an AC unit in our bedroom, but the living room thermostat read 110° the past 3 days. i'm really struggling living like this for almost 6 months and i feel like he could at least be working on that instead of wasting so many hours on video games.

i don't know anymore, i'm just at a loss. i struggle with the way he fights. he won't come out of this attitude he gets in and have a genuine conversation with me. it just hurts more than anything has ever hurt in my life. i just don't know what to do.

for example, rice crispy treats and skittles are 2 things i've found that for sure don't make me feel sick. still, i'm wondering if they're bad enough that they're hindering my progress. things that really bother me include fried chicken, slushies, pizza, anything too sweet, acidic, or oily. but then again i can eat anything with a buffer, like burgers since the bun soaks up the grease. or one chicken strip with mashed potatoes beforehand. i'm just wondering if the occasional bad food is stopping me from getting better. this has been going on for 5 months, 3 months in i realized food was triggering it and started trying to eat better but just now fully understanding what i can and can't eat