Shoulder pain post-op

So I’m almost a year post-op but I’ve just discovered this subreddit. Did anyone else get really intense pain in the shoulders/neck post-op? For like maybe a week after surgery my neck and shoulders were in so much pain, it literally felt like my head was going to explode. What was that?? It resolved itself throughout recovery, but I still wonder what could’ve caused that.

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u/mon0xid33 — 12 days ago

Vulva pains??? Huh??

Does anyone else’s Vulva hurt when they’re on their period?? Like… ache 😭 literally what is that it sucks so bad

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u/mon0xid33 — 18 days ago

I always get overwhelmed and pissed so quickly, and it makes me feel like shit.

I’m just starting to get tired with myself when this happens, and I feel like shit when it does. I can go from being totally normal to so pissed and overwhelmed in seconds because someone said one thing to me. Why am I like this? I’m starting to hate myself for it.

For example, my AirPods currently aren’t working, and I’m saving up for a repair, and my younger brother let me borrow his headphones today while I was doing something on my computer. It was getting late and he was heading to bed, so he asked for them back. I told him that I was still using them, and that I’d charge them overnight for him and give them back right in the morning. I thought this was a fair deal. He starts pushing, and honestly I should’ve just given them back, but for some reason he just pissed me the fuck off. We went back and forth for a few moments where I repeated that I’d charge them overnight so he’d have them fully charged in the morning, and he kept asking for them back, but eventually gave up when I just turned away from the conversation refusing to give them back. He walked away to the bathroom, and started to cry, trying to hide it. I stormed off and sat back down at my computer, and when my mom came by to put him to bed she asked why he was crying and he refused to tell her. I’m 18, he’s only 11. He’s a highly emotional kid, and I’m clearly someone he looks up to.

She pushed a bit, and eventually he said, “can you just make sure she puts my headphones back when she’s done with them?” His voice still sounding a bit shaky. My mom turned to me and asked that I’d just put them back in his room when I was done, and I doubled down saying that I’d charge them in my room when I went to bed. My brother said to just put them in his room, and I got pissed again and said something along the lines of, “here if you want them so badly then just take them,” and threw them onto the table before storming out.

The second I was alone in my room, I broke, and started crying. I felt like absolute shit, and hated myself for what just happened. I was just such a fucking bitch and I felt so overwhelmed for no apparent reason. I hate when I get like this, because I always end up getting someone upset, usually my brother. I love him so much and I never want to be the reason he cries, but it’s like I can’t control what I say when I get like that. And I always feel so shitty afterwards and just hate myself.

God what is wrong with me? I wish I was just normal.

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u/mon0xid33 — 19 days ago

What just happened with my car? Misfire??

So I own a 2016 Ford Explorer Police Interceptor, and I was leaving my house to go pick up my brother from school. Got in my car and went I start it, and it like started halfway?? Like the engine started up but before it fully started it just stopped and went quiet. Turned the key again and it started completely normally. Thought it misfired but I didn’t get a check engine light. I’ve had issues with it before, specifically with the ETC system once just deciding “hey I don’t want to work to accelerate the car anymore,” and I had to turn the car off and back on again, but this is new. Any idea of what happened? Was it a misfire or no?

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u/mon0xid33 — 19 days ago

How do I deal with anxiety about my relationship?

So my bf (18m) and me (18f) have been together for a little over a year now, and I love him so so much and I know he loves me. But, my problem is that I get anxiety about whether he does sometimes, even though I KNOW that he does. It’s like half of my brain doubts the other, and I have a panic attack if his tone seems even a bit off, or he seems a tiny bit uninterested in the conversation. In reality, this is just because he’s a kind of dry texter at times, which I have known since before we even dated and were friends, so sometimes it trips me up because I am a very expressive person even over text. But, in person it’s completely different. For example, he was leaving work about 30 minutes ago, and 10:30, and texted me that he was heading home. I said my usual thing, told him to drive safe, and to let me know when he gets home. He texts back, “Yur” instead of the usual “yes ma’am” and so my brain immediately tells me that he is annoyed with me or that he’s upset, when in reality he’s just been working all day and is likely very tired, and the added fact that he can’t text a whole lot during work because of his job. (CNC machinery). He isn’t like this in person, and I really enjoy my time spent with him because we talk and laugh and have a good time, it just the fact that over text sometimes I feel like he’s upset because of HOW he texts. But it’s usually only late in the night at times like this, when he’s tired and isn’t texting as “chatty” as normal, and more so, I’m about to start my period which only adds to the emotion and anxiety. I guess what I’m asking is how to deal with this? How to get over that anxiety and tell myself that it’s okay? Because I know that he loves me, and I know that he’s not upset. We’ve never even had an argument after a little over a year together because we just CLICK. I’m considering starting therapy to deal with my anxiety in general, but with my insurance that will take a while. Are there any tips that you guys have for me? I know that something I will be told is to talk to him about it, but that’s just so difficult because I don’t want to feel like a burden. Even with different situations, like family drama or arguments, I have a hard time talking about it because I don’t want to be a drag and bring down the mood. I just don’t know how to make this better, and I’m a terrible people pleaser so I have a hard time expressing my feelings and what I need ☹️

TLDR: How do I get over anxiety and the fear that my boyfriend is upset or hates me, and stop overthinking so much?

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u/mon0xid33 — 20 days ago

Any recommended Jason builds when he’s out?

So I was playing a lot of PTB to test Jason out, and I was messing around with different builds and just wanted some suggestions. Personally, I think a perk i definitely want to be using with him is ruin, because his power already plays a part in forcing survivors off of gens, and I feel ruin could work really well with that. Anyone else who messed around in PTB have any suggestions?

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u/mon0xid33 — 1 month ago