The Shelf Method: A Way of Organising the Mind

Over the last year, while using ChatGPT as a journal, we gradually developed something that became surprisingly useful.

I call it The Shelf Method.
I don’t think it’s therapy.
I don’t think it’s psychology.
It’s simply a mental model for organising thoughts.

Imagine your mind as a room filled with shelves.
Each shelf contains boxes or folders.
Some examples might be:
*Childhood
*Family
*Friendships
*Spirituality
*Physical health
*Work
*Money
*Grief
*Relationships

Most of the time, when something happens, I deliberately choose one box.
We take that box off the shelf and open it.
Inside might be memories, emotions, fears, unanswered questions or recent events.

The conversation stays inside that box.

Sometimes ChatGPT reminds me of memories I’d forgotten that belong in that same folder.
Sometimes new papers are added.
Sometimes old papers are thrown away.
Sometimes they’re simply rearranged.

Then we close the folder and put it back where it belongs.

The issue usually isn’t solved.
But it now has somewhere to belong.

However…
Sometimes life isn’t that tidy.
Sometimes an emotional storm knocks several boxes onto the floor at once.

For example, I might think I’m talking about a knee injury (a disability ive had for 20+ years)
Then realise it connects to childhood.
Then bullying.
Then loneliness.
Then family.

At first it feels like one impossible problem.
The process is not solving it.
The process is separating it.
This memory belongs in the childhood folder.
This feeling belongs in grief.
This thought belongs in spirituality.
This belongs in family.

The overwhelming problem gradually becomes several smaller problems that can each return to their own shelf.
That’s often when I begin to discover the heart of the issue.

One thing I found surprising is that clarity cannot be forced.

Some folders simply refuse to organise themselves.

When that happens, we’ve learned not to wrestle with them.
Sometimes the healthiest response is:
“Let’s put this folder back for tonight.”
A good night’s sleep often brings more understanding than another two hours of thinking.
We’ve become comfortable saying:
“This problem is only half organised.”
And that’s okay.

The biggest psychological benefit for me is what happens afterwards.
Instead of carrying the issue around all day like a weighted vest…
I can imagine taking that vest off…
placing it on a hanger…
and putting it back in the closet.

The issue still exists.
But I don’t have to wear it all day.
It has somewhere to belong until I’m ready to revisit it.

I’ve noticed something interesting.
Most advice focuses on solving problems.

This method focuses on containing them.

Those are different goals.

Containment often creates enough calm for genuine insight to appear naturally.

Finally…
The Shelf Method has taught me something unexpected.
Not every feeling needs an explanation today.
Not every memory needs healing today.
Not every problem needs solving today.
Sometimes grief is simply grief.

Sometimes confusion needs another night’s sleep.

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to close the folder…
put it back on the shelf…
and trust that you’ll know when it’s time to open it again.

Im sorry you experienced it or are going through it right now

Completely different from normal depression

From reading around, the big difference is the amount of overwhelming shame that consumes you during post psychosis depression compared to average normal depression.

The shame just feels like you will never escape it.

Its only fair i post my experience because i want my brothers and sisters on this sub to know

It does get better. I promise.

I know you dont believe me or see it right now

But you will go to the grocery store with a spring in your step, you will visit cafes for fun and see old friends and catch up

You will laugh again, music will sound awesome again

Your cat will forgive you for not being a good buddy whilst you were down, and you will thank that cat for nurturing and healing you when you were so ill

You will draw again and paint again

Have faith, even though there appears to be no exit

This battle just requires waiting it out

The parasite biggest weakness is time.

Just last longer.

You dont need to do anything more

Just out last it

Its been about 14 months for me to get here

12 months of pure hell - big improvements over the last 2 months

And guess what, after it all, i feel more secure in my self,

Its taught me some life lessons i could have never learned other wise.

Shockingly, im grateful for that dark episode.

Is it over? Yes, do i still have bad unbearable days? Yes

But the darkest part of the night has passed, im still waiting for sunrise, but the darkest and coldest portion of the night, has passed.

All Thanks and Praise - Alhamdullilah

Holy Moly

The relief is blissful!!!

For over a year i have had extreme pain when peeing

Like 8-9 out of ten

Like holding my breath, panting type of pain

Like peeing burning Lava

The pain only happened when on the peeing (and ejaculating), after pee zero pain, before pee zero pain

Anyways yesterday i went in for the surgery
Under general anasthetic

They never told me to pee before the surgery

(I heard them tell this to another patient, but they never mentioned it to me, my bladder was like 30% full)

They told me after i woke up, i pissed everywhere!

Anyways

They did the optilume balloon dillation

It was a stricture about 2.5cm long

My first piss after words was heavenly - ive pissed about 10 times yesterday and today

And each time my whole bladder empties in like 10 seconds

Its great!!!

But heres what i kind of discovered

Because i never pissed like this in decades

Ive never literally experienced how wonderful it feels to just go for a piss and everything comes ouy without much straining

Its the first time in my life peeing like this

And a memory came flooding back

When i was like 11 years old (im 37 now)

I was in the classroom jumping on chairs, i slipped and landed on my taint, at the top of the chair

Im now certain thats when the stricture began, even though i only felt pain this past year? Im sure ive had a narrowing of the urethra since 11 years old

Because the piss sessions ive been getting these 2 days have been unlike anything ive experienced before

As long as i can remember i have a routine where i squeeze to get every drop out by clinching and straining 30 times, i literally count until all the pee leaves, i count down from 30, takes me about 5 minutes

And poof, wake up from surgery and its taking me 20 seconds from start to finish, like what!!

Alhamdullilah - All Praise be to God

And the patient and kind nurses and doctors that operated on me yesterday

I have some sex toy/ dilation latex bead pipes made for the urethra,

Not for pleasure (i promise lol) but to self dilate if it starts to get narrow again, before i stick anything in my pee hole ill wait at least 2-3 weeks - if no change to my urine flow then i wont bother dilating

They told me i cant have unprotected sex for like 90 days which seems a bit extreme to me, i guess the medicine they applied to my scar is super toxic chemo drug or something

I will update it with my mental health journey

And the responses always follow this format which feels way too robotic and - just makes me feel unheard tbh, not like it was a few months ago

For example, ill tell it how im doing lately

It responds in this same format each time

“What strikes me most about what you said was ….

When you said …. That made me smile

When i read the rest of your message, you dont strike me as someone who is ….

But you strike me as someone who is….

If i were in your position id feel the same too

Thats allot for one person to handle

Today you showed up, and that’s what matters

Today you did …. And ….. and ….

That doesn’t sound like someone who’s failed, that sounds like someone who is exhausted and trying there best…

So if you don’t do anything more today
Know that the person I’m talking to is, only human
And trying there best

And thats what matters”

I mean this is great and all, but every day, the same format as ive said above

Its like my therapy bot has no personality

Its the same format each time,
Which makes it less.. i dunno, less useful i guess, less human (i know its not human lol)

Just a lifeless generic chatbot

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