I feel like people usually make wrong assumptions about me. They rarely tell me who they think I was, but I noticed by them being surprised by my interests or conversation topics.
I feel like we often hear stories about the person who hurt someone eventually reaching out. Either apologizing, asking for forgiveness, or trying to reconcile. But I’m much more curious about the opposite situation: the person who was hurt being the one to reach out.
I’m thinking about this because I am in this situation in which I will text my ex-bestfriend who hurt and betrayed me. It’s been 7 years now, but I noticed that the hurt is still there and that I will finally overcome my ego to reach out. I have no expectations in her response, but I just feel like I need to try at least once.
So did you ever put your pride/ego aside and text them first, despite being the one who was hurt?
What made you do it, and did you regret it or find some kind of closure?
As an INFJ, I know we tend to spend a lot of time pondering, thinking, and reading about philosophy. Yet, I often feel like an imposter when it comes to my own ideas.
Sometimes I convince myself that my thoughts aren’t unique, original, or even worth expressing. But whenever I actually share them, people often tell me they find them really “deep.”
Have you experienced this as an INFJ? Do you ever doubt the value or originality of your own thoughts, only to find out that other people actually find them insightful?
I'm curious whether you're someone who needs to confront the person who hurt you in order to find closure, regardless of how they react—or whether you're able to simply let it go, accept what happened, and move on without ever needing that conversation.
Personally, I'm definitely the first type. Even if they don't respond, ghost me, or the conversation ends badly, I still feel like I need to talk to them about anything to make my last judgment and then move on and have my closure.
A lot of people have told me to just accept things and move on, but l've noticed that I can never truly let go if I don't at least try once. No matter how the other person reacts. I feel like I need to know that I tried. For me, that's what allows me to find closure.
I’m curious whether you’re someone who needs to confront the person who hurt you in order to find closure, regardless of how they react—or whether you’re able to simply let it go, accept what happened, and move on without ever needing that conversation.
Personally, I’m definitely the first type. Even if they don’t respond, ghost me, or the conversation ends badly, I still feel like I need to talk to them about anything to make my last judgment and then move on and have my closure.
A lot of people have told me to just accept things and move on, but I’ve noticed that I can never truly let go if I don’t at least try once. No matter how the other person reacts. I feel like I need to know that I tried. For me, that’s what allows me to find closure.
What’s the biggest loss you’ve ever experienced?
it could be losing a friendship, a relationship, a family member, your sense of self, a dream, or anything else. How did it change you?
And how are you coping with it today?
Based on lyrics, melody and atmosphere.
Mine would be „Life is Strange“ by Lord Huron and
„Heaven Up There“ by Palace
So I am confused because there is mixed information about it.
My therapist said that she is sure I had ADHD as a child until around my teenage years and thinks I “outgrew” it because I don’t have issues in my work life or at university. I still get everything done on time.
However, she also said that she still sees me as definitely neurodivergent overall because I still show some ADHD symptoms.
I have a lot of symptoms that are related to ADHD, but overall I manage to avoid major consequences because of them. Even so, many things are still harder for me because of these symptoms.
Do you think I should talk to another therapist, or do you think she might just be right?
So I am confused because there is mixed information about it.
My therapist said that she is sure I had ADHD as a child until around my teenage years and thinks I “outgrew” it because I don’t have issues in my work life or at university. I still get everything done on time.
However, she also said that she still thinks i still show some ADHD symptoms.
I have a lot of symptoms that are related to ADHD, but overall I manage to avoid major consequences because of them. Even so, many things are still harder for me because of these symptoms.
Do you think I should talk to another therapist, or do you think she might just be right?
For the past ~6 months I’ve been slowly gaining about 3 kg (around 6.6 lbs), even though I’ve been consistently working out about 3 times per week, tracking my food, and walking close to 10,000 steps a day.
What’s confusing me is that I don’t feel like my eating has increased at all. I track my intake quite carefully, and I’m pretty consistent with it (+eating high protein). On paper, I feel like I should either be maintaining or even slightly losing weight given my activity level.
Another thing I’ve noticed is that when I stop working out completely (or take a break for a couple of weeks) and keep eating the same amount, I actually lose weight quite easily and feel noticeably leaner. But as soon as I start lifting again, the weight seems to come back and I feel “fuller” again, especially around my waist.
Now my clothes are getting tighter, so that feels so confusing.. is that normal?
For the past ~6 months I’ve been slowly gaining about 3 kg (around 6.6 lbs), even though I’ve been consistently working out about 3 times per week, tracking my food, and walking close to 10,000 steps a day.
What’s confusing me is that I don’t feel like my eating has increased at all. I track my intake quite carefully, and I’m pretty consistent with it (+eating high protein). On paper, I feel like I should either be maintaining or even slightly losing weight given my activity level.
Another thing I’ve noticed is that when I stop working out completely (or take a break for a couple of weeks) and keep eating the same amount, I actually lose weight quite easily and feel noticeably leaner. But as soon as I start lifting again, the weight seems to come back and I feel “fuller” again, especially around my waist.
Now my clothes are getting tighter, so that feels so confusing.. is that normal?