u/nandiz

Is it too strict, or laid back ? For CSE and related branches.

[TLDR in the end] I don't even know why I'm writing this honestly. We will both be 18 this year. I commented under his post 16 months ago, and since then we started talking everyday. We would talk for hours at a time, a lot of times past midnight. We grew close and became really good friends. He was very empathetic but that's not the only thing i liked about him. Yes, I started liking him a few months in, after ~7 months i really couldn't hold it in. So, 8 months in, I confessed that I liked him. He liked me too. It was an angry confession lol, i was pissed at him. The same day, we got into a relationship-long distance. We dated for 6 months.

Those 6 months, he barely treated me like a girlfriend. He would not initiate calls/videocalls with me consistently, which was very important because that was the only meaningful way we could spend time. He wasn't affectionate nor did he really reassure me. He said the reason for his behavior was that he felt "guilty" for having "fun" with me while most of his family was suffering in a way or another. But the point was never having fun, it was about making the ldr work. Whenever we would have an argument over this, he would accept that he's being shitty, apologize, tell me he's gonna try harder. But he kept repeating his patterns. Those 6 months, he never once said that he loved me, because he probably didn't. I kept giving him so much, i really loved him, I still do. But I got drained because I was giving him so much while barely getting anything back, so i broke up with him. That night was horrible. I felt like i couldn't breathe and I cried myself to sleep. The next few days were horrible too. I had decided to never contact him after the breakup because it was the most logical thing to do, but i caved in and texted him just 2 days later. We talked for a few days after that and i kept hoping he would fix things. That eventually ended up in me begging him to take me back, but I'm glad he didn't, i would have suffered more. The most thoughtful thing he has ever done for me, if not only -- is that he didn't take me back because he knew he wouldn't change. We did talk after that. But right now, it has been 27 days since we last talked and i feel it's gonna be like that forever.

He didn't do a lot of things for me, but he was a good friend. He listened to me, calmed me down when i was stressed, he was a person i could tell a lot of things to, small or big. But telling him the small things was fun so i stuck to that. He would check in on me, he would try to spend time texting me (but he wouldn't initiate calls). He would compliment me often. Around the time we got together, stuff started going down for him i guess. He had some family issues that i cannot disclose here, which made him feel guilty. Whatever the reason was though, it was no excuse for him to treat me the way he did. The reason we didn't workout was not because of his family issues or my family issues or that he just didn't like or care about me. It was only, and only because of his mindset. He knew it was wrong yet he couldn't let go of it. He was more attached to his mindset than he was to me, which, to me was very hurtful and in a way disrespectful too. He just didn't prioritize me enough. I have very serious family issues as well (in short- very abusive household), my life was already hell and the way he treated me made things worse for me. The way he acted makes me question a lot of things, maybe he didn't even feel anything close to love for me and was just attracted to me. That makes me feel kinda disgusted honestly, i did all of that for a guy who didn't even love me at the very least.

I still miss him, a lot. I cry very often because of that too. I really wished we worked out, from the bottom of my heart. I want him back but at the same time I don't, because I don't know if i can trust him again, and he has shown me time and again that he doesn't have the kind of intensity and commitment to make an ldr work.

TLDR- We were close friends for 8 months before dating long-distance for 6 months. I loved him deeply, but the relationship was emotionally one-sided—he rarely initiated calls, wasn't very affectionate, and kept promising to change without following through. I broke up because I was exhausted from giving so much while receiving so little. I still miss him and wish things had worked out, but I know I can't trust him to prioritize me the way I needed.

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is there any hope ? VIT bhopal integrated mtech courses btw

Im thinking about taking admission here, and considering the scandals in parul university, is it really safe right now ?

Girl students of parul please give me insights into this matter.

I have a mains rank of 604k (F) and have registered for a buncha other entrances, but mai ch×tiya hun mujhe nahi lagta mujhse kuch hoga atp.

Please tell me some private unis that give direct admissions in/or under management quota or whatever. My budget for 4 years is \~20 Lakhs (ideally including hostel). Reviews about college life etc would be appreciated.

last mein thoda rr sunlo please, gharwale abusive hain i really need to get out of mumbai. I couldn't study for 2 years because i was depressed and have adhd (both diagnosed). Ghar mein rehke online padhai kari thi. So y'all know how that turns out usually. I really really want to study cse and its my only area of interest, i used to code back when i was 12, and had picked up some AI/ML concepts, so i REALLY like it. Please please please ek bacchi ki madad kardo aapka bhala hoga 🙏

I have a mains rank of 604k (F) and have registered for a buncha other entrances, but mai ch×tiya hun mujhe nahi lagta mujhse kuch hoga atp.

Please tell me some private unis that give direct admissions in/or under management quota or whatever. My budget for 4 years is ~20 Lakhs (ideally including hostel). Reviews about college life etc would be appreciated.

last mein thoda rr sunlo please, gharwale abusive hain i really need to get out of mumbai. I couldn't study for 2 years because i was depressed and have adhd (both diagnosed). Ghar mein rehke online padhai kari thi. So y'all know how that turns out usually. I really really want to study cse and its my only area of interest, i used to code back when i was 12, and had picked up some AI/ML concepts, so i REALLY like it. Please please please ek bacchi ki madad kardo aapka bhala hoga 🙏

I have a mains rank of 604k (F) and have registered for a buncha other entrances, but mai ch×tiya hun mujhe nahi lagta mujhse kuch hoga atp.

Please tell me some private unis that give direct admissions in/or under management quota or whatever. My budget for 4 years is ~20 Lakhs (ideally including hostel). Reviews about college life etc would be appreciated.

last mein thoda rr sunlo please, gharwale abusive hain i really need to get out of mumbai. I couldn't study for 2 years because i was depressed and have adhd (both diagnosed). Ghar mein rehke online padhai kari thi. So y'all know how that turns out usually. I really really want to study cse and its my only area of interest, i used to code back when i was 12, and had picked up some AI/ML concepts, so i REALLY like it. Please please please ek bacchi ki madad kardo aapka bhala hoga 🙏

This doesn't even bother me THAT much. We've been friends for 8 months, I'm talking about talking everyday for hours. Then i confessed to him and we got together. He is a really nice guy, respectful and cares about me (at least seems like it). But the problem is, he is not affectionate, almost never flirts with me and has never told me that he loves me. He has never made me feel special in a romantic way. He also rarely initiates asking if we could video call, and when i do (which is often) delays it.

His reasoning for that is that he doesn't deserve having fun since when we do call its very fun (1-2x a month AT MAX). For context, we're in an ldr and that's the only time i get to see him. Mind you, this guy doesn't have the 'family around' constraint a lot of times. So he could call me very frequently if he wanted to. While in my case, my family is around the whole time and when they go out, i jump to ask him to call, literally every chance i get. Which makes me feel even more not-special. I have tried to make him understand how this mentality of feeling undeserving and guilty is dumb and what he should think instead. We've had a lot of arguments over the above stuff and each time he accepts that he is being shitty and that I don't deserve any of this. He tells me the reason he is unable to treat me the way he wants is family pressure, exams and weight of *future* responsibilities.

But fuck man, i have a fucking abusive household and im chronically depressed since i was a kid and i still treat him so sweetly. To the point i make agreements with myself that I shouldn't be so romantic and nice considering how he is to me. But i fail each time, and give in. All I want back is at least half of it. I want to be loved tenderly and desired passionately. But apparently this guy doesn't even love me. And he is not a bad person, he is a really good person. I blame the immense exam pressure we're going through for his behavior (we're 17 and prepping for college entrances). And hope that once this is done he finally starts treating me right. But I don't know anymore man. He only tells me he likes me when I'm upset over the above stuff, I never wake up to sweet texts or get random texts that make me feel special. I am so so hurt.

The only near-romantic thing he does is that he calls me pretty, "extremely pretty" quite often. He's even said how'd he even bag me and similar stuff a couple times. So attraction is really not the issue here.