u/notgonnalie116

Cleared NIMCET; will be joining NIT Trichy. Any senior to connect with and talk to? Just some basic doubts

I will be getting admission in NIT trichy. Looking forward to connecting with fellow classmates..

How many students share one hostel room?? Also how are the general conditions of the hostels. Is cooler allowed?

For context, I'm a 20-year-old guy living with my father and sister. My mother passed away in 2024, and ever since then, life has felt very different. My father is retired, healthy, and in his 60s.

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I've recently completed my undergraduate degree and will be joining a postgraduate program next month. I'm currently waiting for my entrance exam results, but I'm fairly confident I'll get into a good college. The dilemma is that most of the top colleges are located in other states, which would mean leaving home and living in a hostel for the next three years. The alternative is staying in my home state and choosing a mid-tier college.

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Since losing my mom, I've become much more sensitive and anxious. Sudden phone calls late at night, unexpected knocks on the door, or even someone not answering my calls can send my mind straight to the worst-case scenario. I've become a lot more pessimistic than I used to be.

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What makes this decision difficult is that if I move away, my father and sister will largely be on their own. My father is getting older, and as the youngest member of the family, I'm usually the one who brings a bit of fun, chaos, and energy into the house.

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I know this is ultimately my decision, but I'm genuinely torn. On one hand, a better college could have a significant impact on my future. On the other hand, the thought of being away from my family for three years fills me with guilt and worry.

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I don't feel comfortable discussing this with my family because I know they'll encourage me to choose a better college and move away.

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If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice, I'd really appreciate hearing your perspective.

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Thank you for reading.

So, I quit the gym for a while to focus on an exam, and since it ended last week, I finally rejoined. Started yesterday. Everything was going smoothly today until he walked in. About five minutes later, we spotted each other, exchanged a handshake, and had a quick two-minute chat. That's it. Two minutes.

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The problem? It took me ages to get over this guy the first time. His smile? Absolutely criminal. I used to have actual dreams about him, like every kind of dream. And now I'm genuinely worried I'm about to develop the same ridiculous crush all over again. He's just unfairly perfect—nerdy, smart, fit, and somehow effortlessly charming.

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So if anyone knows a black magic spell, ancient ritual, or scientifically proven method to stop myself from falling for him again, I'm accepting applications. 😭✋

I was confused between learning the guitar and the tabla, but I’ve finally decided to go with the tabla. I’d love some suggestions:

1. What’s a good price range for a decent tabla set?

2. Are there any good shops in Delhi where I can buy one?

3. Any recommended online or offline places in Delhi to learn?

4. Is there anything else I should know before starting out with the tabla?

Any sort of advice/suggestions will help me. Thank you 🎀

For context, I’m 20 and gay. I met someone on Reddit in October 2025. We exchanged numbers and started chatting, and it felt really nice. I used to wait all day for his messages. The only issue was that we didn’t talk much—both of us were busy preparing for competitive exams, so it averaged about 10 minutes a day. Our conversations were simple and genuine, just talking about our days. We never sexted or did anything sexual, and we weren’t officially committed, nor had we met in person. Still, we were planning our first date in February 2026.

Things took a turn because of my own actions. I posted on a gay community saying I was looking for someone to sext with, and I ended up doing it a few times with strangers. I always felt guilty afterward, but in the moment, instant gratification took over. Eventually, he found out and ended things with me in March.

I was devastated. I cried a lot because he felt perfect for me, and I was genuinely happy with him. I tried to move on, but I kept going back to our old chats, reading them and smiling. A part of me hoped we might reconcile someday. Then in April, I realized he had blocked me on Telegram too, which made it clear that we might never speak again.

Despite that, I created another Reddit account just to sext with people, partly because he knew my original account and I didn’t want him to find out. But today, I came across a post in the same community where I had met him, and something about it, its tone and content made me feel like it was him. To confirm, I messaged from my fake account. He quickly realized it was me, probably because of the similar patterns in my comments, regarding sext. We ended up talking, and he made it clear there’s zero chance of us getting back together.

The regret I’ve been carrying for the past two months has now intensified. It feels like I’ve lost my only chance to fix things. I don’t know what to do. This regret is affecting my focus, my concentration everything. I can’t seem to move on or forget him. I want to become a better person, but I feel stuck because I can’t let go.

I just needed to get this off my chest. If you’ve read this far, thank you.