u/ohstupidslowdirtypc

My brother has been in prison since 2023 and will likely never come out. He has a wife and 3 kids, and ever since then we've been paying all their necessities as his wife lost her job over a year ago.

The thing is that we are by no means rich. Me and my sister still have university tuition as we are still students, and the kids need to go to school too. The thing is that my sister in law asks for way too much money, more than what a reasonable adult and 3 kids need to live a decent life. She asks for more money a month than my dad spends on us in 2-3. He is exhausted.

A couple years ago my dad won about 400,000USD, but most of that money was spent paying off all the loans my brother had and the ones my dad had too. And all the lawyer fees too. She thinks because he won that money that we're now rich. There's only about 120,000 left of that money and if that keeps on going like that we'll run out in about 2 years since my dad and mum are old and both retired this year (both above 60) so there's no other source of income.

She keeps saying things like "you promised me a good life" despite us giving her way more than what she needs, so she lives comfortably, also she sometimes talks shit about my dad in front of me. She does not appreciate all what we've done for her. None of her family helps with anything, they tell her that we can pay everything, we told her to get a divorce and she refused. All what we do is done for the kids, not for her, yet my mum and dad treat her very well and she keeps on sucking money like that and telling them that they're not doing enough.

My parents love her, they love their grandkids, they are all very spoiled and all of what they need despite it being a necessity or not is always provided, I genuinely do not know what she wants more than that.

I started hating her and resenting the kids. I know they're not guilty of anything but when I see my parents struggling like that while she refuses to be reasonable when spending money or trying to get a job it's very hard not to.

I also resent and blame my brother for what he did to be thrown in prison like that. And I will never tell my parents since they will he heartbroken. I love him but I don't think I will ever be able to forgive him.

Ps: I do not live in the US, and I am not an American anything I just chose to post this in English (2nd language) since I do not want anyone I possibly know to come across the post.

My brother has been in prison since 2023 and will likely never come out. He has a wife and 3 kids, and ever since then we've been paying all their necessities as his wife lost her job over a year ago.

The thing is that we are by no means rich. Me and my sister still have university tuition as we are still students, and the kids need to go to school too. The thing is that my sister in law asks for way too much money, more than what a reasonable adult and 3 kids need to live a decent life. She asks for more money a month than my dad spends on us in 2-3. He is exhausted.

A couple years ago he won about 400,000USD, but most of that money was spent paying off all the loans my brother had and the ones my dad had too. And all the lawyer fees too. She thinks because he won that money that we're now rich. There's only about 120,000 left of that money and if that keeps on going like that we'll run out in about 2 years since my dad and mum are old and both retired this year (both above 60) so there's no other source of income.

She keeps saying things like "you promised me a good life" despite us giving her way more than what she needs, so she lives comfortably, also she sometimes talks shit about my dad in front of me. She does not appreciate all what we've done for her. None of her family helps with anything, they tell her that we can pay everything, we told her to get a divorce and she refused. All what we do is done for the kids, not for her, yet my mum and dad treat her very well and she keeps on sucking money like that and telling them that they're not doing enough.

My parents love her, they love their grandkids, they are all very spoiled and all of what they need despite it being a necessity or not is always provided, I genuinely do not know what she wants more than that.

I started hating her and resenting the kids. I know they're not guilty of anything but when I see my parents struggling like that while she refuses to be reasonable when spending money or trying to get a job it's very hard not to.

I also resent and blame my brother for what he did to be thrown in prison like that. And I will never tell my parents since they will he heartbroken. I love him but I don't think I will ever be able to forgive him.

Ps: I do not live in the US, and I am not an American anything I just chose to post this in English (2nd language) since I do not want anyone I possibly know to come across the post.

ليش عنا عقدة الناس بالوطن العربي؟ شوفوا الناس وليش انتوا مو زي الناس؟

انا تربيت خارج الاردن واجيت ادرس قبل كم سنة، وأهلي هون بإجازة

عيلتنا هون من جهة أبوي جداااا اجتماعية، وكتير متعودين على بعض وهيك وأنا شخصية انطوائية، بالأردن عكل كبيرة وصغيرة بعملوا حفلة (عالأقل قرايبي هيك) أنا ما بحب الحفلات وبشوف الرقص أصلا اشي غبي وبضطر غصب أروح على هاي المناسبات رغم تخصصي المتعب والشغل اللي علي ورغم انه ما بحبهم اصلا ورغم إنه ببين كتير إني مو مندمجة مع هدول الناس. هم تربوا مع بعض وكبروا مع بعض وتعودوا على هاي الأجواء وأنا شخصية انولدت وكبرت بعيد ببيئة مختلفة عنهم

وحدة من قرايبي بدها تسوي الها حفلة تخرج (يحطوا اغاني ويرقصوا) بقول لماما انا بس اتخرج ما بدي أعمل حفلة

زعلت وبتقلي "ليش انتي مو زي بنات الناس؟" وبكفي نكد وهالكلام

طيب وبعدين مع عقدة نكون زي الناس؟ ليش لازم نكون زي الناس؟ ليش أعمل شغلة أنا ما رح أنبسط فيها ورح يكون شي جدا محرج وغير مريح إلي عشان أكون زي الناس ؟ ليش بنضل نفكر الناس شو بدها تحكي؟ ما في ستين داهية الناس كلها شو خصني أنا

كتير بتضل تقلي ليش انا مو زي بنات قرايبنا

طيب أنا مو زيهم لإني أنا إنسان آخر.

بدي معهد او اكاديمية بتعطي دبلوم أسباني أونلاين سمعت انه ju gate مو مناح مع انه خلص كنت هشترك ولو إنه غالي

حدا جرب قبل هيك معهد منيح؟

انا عندي أخت واعمارنا زي بعض تقريبا. أختي هاي كتير مدلعة وأهلي مو محملينها اي مسؤولية أنا بحمل كل المسؤولية لانه ساكنين بعيد عنهم

ما بتعرف تحكي نهائي. كتير دفشة بالحكي وبتحكي مع اهلي بطريقة مو كويسة وحتى معي ودايما خيرها لغيرها. مع صاحباتها بتجنن وبتحكي وبتعمل ومعي لا مع انه كتير بعاملها كويس

دايما اهلي بس بدهم شي واقلهم يحكوا لاختي لانه عندي كتير شغل بضلوا يحكولي "اختك ما بتعرف"

طيب وانا كمان ترى ما بعرف بس بتعلم!! يعني ما انولدت معي المعرفة كلها عفكرة ما بطلبوا منها شي وحتى لو حدا بده منا اشي لانه عايشين بعيد انا وهي بيرنوا علي انا

بس طول وقتها عالتلفون والالعاب واحنا مو صغار اعمارنا بالعشرين يعني

ومو عارفة شو اعمل صراحة مستحيييييل تسمع مني مستحيل

وحكيت لأهلي قبل هيك من وقت احنا مراهقات وانا ملاحظة وحكيت انه يشدوا عليها وعالفاضي مفكرين لانه بيوم نزلت دمعتين عندهم انها رقيقة وحساسة ومسكينة وما بتعرف وما بتقدر وما بحملوها اي مسؤولية

انا عالجهة التانية برضو رقيقة وحساسة عادي 😂 بس مو لانه نزلت الدمعتين بغرفتي لحالي يعني ما بحس! كل اشي سيء بيصير انا بعرفه وكل مصيبة بدهم احلها انا بعرفه وكل مسؤولية ولا واجب لازم ينعمل انا بعرفه وانا بينحكالي وهي ولا بتعرف عن شي

واذا طلبت منها شي بتصير تتأفف وبتحكيلي ليش مو انتي تسويه وانا بعمل كل شي، حتى غراض للبيت النا ما بتجيب الا اذا حكيتلها تجيب وحكيتلها بالزبط شو تجيب وبعد ما تهاوشني طبعا

مرة كنت بتوفى بغرفتي مريضة وحكيتلها تجيبلي دوا وهي راجعة عالبيت بتقلي "ليش ما تجيبي انتي!!" وبس حكيتلها انه انا تعبانة وما عندي دوام جامعة وخلص بجيب بكرة بتقلي "انتي خليتي الموضوع بيرسونال انا ما حكيت اشي" وضليت اسبوعين ما احكي معها قد ما انا مقهورة ولا هي هون وعادي كملت حياتها طبيعي

طبعا هاد ولاشي من قديش هي شخص ما بتحمل مسؤولية ولساته طفولي وما بعرف يحكي مع الناس ولا مع أهله ولا اشي

مو عارفة شو اعمل ومستحيل تسمع لو حكيتلها ولا رح تقبل وأهلي شايفين انه ما فيها شي

وبعدين طيب؟

وبليز ما يكون اشتراكه مليون مفلسة