u/oracle_Her_07

Is there a name for the satisfying feeling when one of your trauma strategies works? Like if you learned "My performance is what makes me worthy" growing up, and you get a well-respected job and you're good at it, that will feel VERY satisfying (even though it's also causing harm). Is there a word or phrase for that? Right now, I'm just describing it as that satisfying scratch of an itch.

Also, do you think it's similar to when one of our beliefs are confirmed?Like if you have been hurt by a bully and then a bully is hurt in a movie and it's so satisfying. Is that the same as what I mentioned above? Thanks.

Hi all! I'm looking for a book or series with plenty of romance, but no SA or r*pe. I can handle a little war or murder. But I'm looking for passionate MC's where the MMC has some heroic qualities and the FMC isn't just a damsel in distress. I'd appreciate your help.

So unloaded 2 private shorts back to back bc I wanted to test the look. Well, that was enough to put me in view jail. I’ve posted 4 shorts over 2 days and none cracked 100 views and my range is between 400-1100.

I’m only 4 months into my YT journey, and I experienced something similar to this my first month when I would make most of my shorts private. Now, I post twice a day and MIGHT private one a week, and things were fine until I loaded the two private ones a few days ago. It’s also not pushing notifications to my subs.

Suggestions to get back into my usual flow? Thank you.

I’m looking for a romance book with a loving, patient, and romantic/generous het MMC. A self-respecting yearner, if you will. He gives/does/plans things to her with thought and care. So, not someone who is generous from a place of duty.

Maybe where the FMC (also het) is reasonably mature and has a stable life, but has difficulty receiving his love/generosity initially. But she learns to and they lived happily ever after. A MMC that inspired you, and maybe even built upon or restored your faith in men.

Black MCs preferred, but the healthy, MMC takes priority. Thank you!

I’m looking for a romance book with a loving, patient, and romantic/generous, het MMC. A self-respecting yearner, if you will. He gives/does/plans things to her with thought and care. So, not someone who is generous from a place of duty. Maybe where the FMC (also het) is reasonably mature and has a stable life, but has difficulty receiving his love/generosity initially. But she learns to and they lived happily ever after. A MMC that inspired you, and maybe even built upon or restored your faith in men.

Black MCs preferred, but the healthy MMC takes priority. Thank you!

When I first started in January, I could draft YouTube shorts from my iPhone. But now, the x in the top right corner has been replaced by an arrow to go to the previous screen. I've tried clicking it at every phase of the upload process to see if I'm offered the chance to save the short, and it doesn't offer. Has anyone found any workarounds?

I'm the family scapegoat and I've done a lot of work to heal that. Part of that work, however, has been seeing more and more that the work I'm on earth to do triggers the exact same things in strangers that it did in my family. So it's like I'm a double-scapegoat.

No matter what environment I was in growing up, I could where the contradictions were. School, church, work, and I faced rejection bc of it. Later in life, I found the exact same dynamics in spaces centered around my chosen lane (healing complex and developmental trauma). I was CONSTANTLY projected upon, including my teachers/mentors, and only one person had the courage to come to me years later and explain why she was unkind (bc I triggered her feelings of not being good enough).

While healing, a colleague once described it like this, "How difficult it must be to have wounding around being different and yet be called to do things that are also very different."

Part of me feels like this is extremely common, to have trauma and wounding in the areas you're "called" to live in. I'd love to hear other's experiences with this.

I'm the family scapegoat and I've done a lot of work to heal that. Part of that work, however, has been seeing more and more that the work I'm on earth to do triggers the exact same things in strangers that it did in my family. So it feels like I'm a double-scapegoat.

No matter what environment I was in growing up, I could see where the contradictions were without trying and without intending to cause offense. School, church, work, and I faced rejection bc of it. Later in life, I found the exact same dynamics in spaces centered around my chosen lane (healing complex and developmental trauma). I was CONSTANTLY projected upon, including my teachers/mentors, and only one person had the courage to come to me years later and explain why she was unkind (bc I triggered her feelings of not being good enough).

While healing, a colleague once described it like this, "How difficult it must be to have wounding around being different and yet be called to do things that are also very different."

Part of me feels like this is extremely common, to have trauma and wounding in the areas you're "called" to live in. I'd love to hear other's experiences with this.