u/purplepuppy28

So there's a LONG history of things that have happened with MIL, but to keep it concise she regularly talks about me and my SIL behind our backs (including to each other despite the fact we are close friends and obviously tell each other what is said). She has also repeatedly created stories about things that simply didn't happen to make me look bad, including crying to my husband and brother in law saying that my mom was really rude to her and upset her when we went out one day...I was there the entire time, we had a lovely day and my mom bought her coffee and cake, when I dropped her home she even said what a lovely day it had been. This is one of many examples.

Anyway....I'm now postpartum with our 1st baby (1st grandchild) and MIL has already crossed several boundaries. She now repeatedly talks about when she's going to look after the baby every time we see her, even though she knows I have anxiety about leaving my baby atm as she is only 3 months old and I don't feel ready. It's as if she's making it clear to us she will be doing it, whether we like it or not. We visit MIL and FIL a minimum of 3 times per week so that they can see the baby. My SIL has now told me that they told her and BIL that they never get to see the baby, they havent seen her for over a week etc which is simply not true. She's also been telling BIL shes so upset that our baby won't know her because I don't leave her with them, and now he's apparently annoyed at me. I can't bring it up to my husband as I don't want BIL to be angry with SIL for telling me. MIL is the type to cry whenever she is called out for anything and I just dont need the drama while I'm caring for my baby, but the lies are really annoying me now.

Sorry for the long rant and apologies if this is a little scrambled, I am just stressed about so many things she's done lately it's hard to put into words concisely.

My 4mo baby has been super chilled/smiley so far, naps well during the day and sleeps all night. Drinks ~5-6oz bottles 6-7 times a day and the Dr was really happy with her weight at her most recent check up. She's having plenty of wet nappies and also poopy ones, but these have been a bit looser/more mucus like than normal (sorry if tmi).

The past week she has suddenly started crying/whinging more than normal, her nose has been congested (she had a cold a few weeks ago and this doesnt seem to be following the same pattern with other symptoms), she is rubbing her eyes and nose constantly and very distracted during feeding. She's still taking a normal amount of milk per 24hrs, but its more difficult getting her to finish a bottle and shes getting frustrated during it.

FTM here, just wondering if others have known this to be a 4mo regression type experience or whether it could be due to teething...or if neither perhaps I need to keep an eye on her in case it's the start of her coming down with an illness of some sort? Thank you in advance for any thoughts/advice!