u/rarerednosedbaboon

Ever since this nightmare started, I notice there's a common rhetoric. "Women should talk about their miscarriages", "so many women go through this", "for a long time miscarriages were something you kept to yourself, but thankfully that's changing!"

I am fully open to talking about my miscarriages with people in my life. I need to. This is so difficult to carry all by myself. But besides a therapist, I have two friends who I feel safe talking to about how I feel. Besides them, very few people seem to want, or even be willing to tolerate, talking to me about it. And those that do just push me to the future and focus on how they're so sure I'll have a baby soon, I can always try IVF, etc. Or they say things that are just so messed up that I feel like they gave no care or thought to what they were saying. And of all the times to put thought into what you say, wouldn't now be the time?

After my first miscarriage, I felt so held. I had an outpouring of love and support from so many places. After my second and third, literally 0 people said anything to me. About 3 weeks after being discharged from the hospital for complications for my third consecutive miscarriage, I went to visit with my husband's family. My sister in law who had a then two year old, started excitedly talking about names for her next baby. Right next to me, a person who had just had her third consecutive miscarriage. My other sister in law sent me a link for a prenatal nutritionist. How could she not see that this would imply the miscarriages are my fault for having a poor diet? I lost my oldest friend because she didn't want to be "bombarded" by me talking about my miscarriages and felt I was being "so negative." My sister told me that "allowing myself to feel upset" about these types of comments was "a me problem."

My therapist told me that from these experiences, it would serve me to learn that these people aren't safe to share with. However, she did say that I need to and should talk about it. Ok, well to who??????? There isn't anyone who wants to talk about it!!

Does anyone know how strict their boundary rules are? I have a sponsor and sent my application a bit ago. I technically live a bit out of the boundary, I'm in DH south of Garrett.

Edit: my application was rejected because I'm from the wrong side of the tracks guess my money is no good

Hey yall. Sitting here with my pussy popped open waiting for my US like always. There is this ceiling tile that I find so annoying. Most of the rooms here have them. This one says:

"Reminder: you are strong. Everything that has happened in your life, you have handeled. It doesn't matter if you had tears in your eyes while doing it. You got through it. You can get through anything."

I think I may have felt inspired the first time I saw this but now that I've been in the trenches for over a year all I can say back to this is stfu.

Does anyone have any ideas for activities for middle schoolers in life skills? I am just so stuck and my therapy needs refreshed in this area. I'm at a k-8 school and I struggle with planning activities for older kids.

I've been an SLP for not quite 3 years and in the school setting less than 1 year. I have a hard time when I can't think of therapy activities and don't know where to look for ideas. So if anyone has any tips for that as well, that would be great!

I've had three miscarriages. The first a blighted ovum. The second ended at 7 weeks. The third ended at 6 weeks. Only the third one was able to be tested, trisomy 16. Unfortunately, I couldn't get a good sample from my second. My doctor said blighted ovum are nearly always chromosomal. I was 32-33 for these pregnancies.

I am wondering if anyone else has confirmed or suspects all their losses were just chromosomal? I've had all the tests and they all came back normal. So did my husband's. The one that was "abnormal" was pregmune, but I consulted with three doctors and they all basically said pregmune is BS.

I am currently freezing my eggs. Not embryos, it's a long story and I don't want to get into it. I am hoping that if I can get a PGT-A normal embryo things will work out.

I just think it's odd because 3 consecutive chromosomal miscarriages seems like a lot at my age, but I think my doctor believes that is what happened and I'm wondering if anyone else is in a similar place?

I am currently in the midst of a separation from my husband. We've been in couples therapy for quite some time. I feel like the therapist sees me as "the problem" and validates my husband's perspective far more often than mine. I don't know if this is true or just my perception.

One thing that really gets in the way of communicating with my husband is just what the title says. I didn't realize this was ADHD related till I googled it today. For example, my husband explained to me why he left but his statement used phrases like "all the time" and "always." I found these so unfair that I lost the rest of the message. The other day I was talking about difficulty with impulsive spending. I mentioned I bought something I didn't need and regretted doing so. He said something about "punishing" myself. I found this word so distressing I truly couldn't tell you the message he was trying to communicate.

I feel like my husband and therapist view this as me trying to deflect, avoid accountability, or be difficult. But it isn't true. I wish I didn't do this. I want to stop.

Does anyone else have this problem?

I am an SLP at the school district of Philadelphia. I am a relatively new SLP (finished grad school Sept 2023) and this is my first year with the district. I have two schools, one where I am three days a week, and the other 2 days a week. At my primary school I have a key and a dedicated space. Neither is true at my other school.

For a while, I was sharing a room with the school psychologist. Even though she is not at school three days out of the week (and I am not there on the same days as her), she was such a brat about me sharing the office and left post-its all over everything. Saying "dont move this" and what not. It also wasn't a good room to see kids in. It's very small and had just a desk and a teeny tiny table and two chairs. One day, my supervisor came to visit me. She emailed me that she was in a classroom on the second floor because someone told her that it was my room. It was news to me that this was my room, but I was so excited to have an appropriate space to work in!

However, this week is PSSAs (Pennsylvania state testing). With no notice, they needed my room for testing. There is another room on the third floor where I've seen kids in the past. This room is filled with random junk including tons of cardboard boxes, art projects, a pillow pet, random text books. It is the IT person's room, she is chill and sleeps at her desk a lot of the day.

This room isn't ideal for a number of reasons:

-It's on the third floor. This is an old building with very high ceilings, therefore tall staircases. I feel like it takes 5 minutes to walk a kindergartner up here from the first floor

-I keep my materials in the other room on the second floor. When I came in today, it took me at least 20 minutes just to haul my mouse, keyboard, laptop stand, etc. up to the third floor, ask people to unlock both doors for me, dig out a student desk from under a pile of cardboard boxes, and set up my computer on a stack of boxes so I have room to put my keyboard on the kid's desk.

I was also kicked out of my room for PSSAs last week. I saw one group of kids in there after testing was finished. 5 minutes before the session ended, someone came in and told me I had to leave so the security guard could use the room to detain a student.

Now, testing is over, but someone once again locked the room that had my materials in it. I don't really feel like asking to borrow someone's key for the third time today. So I decided I won't see the kids for the rest of the day. I'm here Wednesdays and Fridays only and Friday is May 1 so I guess those kids aren't meeting their minutes this month.

I just can't get over the fact that I do not have a space to work in, yet the school psychologist has an office that is her dedicated space and is vacant 3 out of 5 days a week and the teachers have their own room to put their cardboard boxes in.

Thanks for listening to my rant. I guess that's mostly what this is.

Edit: forgot to mention I have ADHD and it makes it extra difficult to deal when i cant establish a routine because i have no dedicated space. Disruptions like this are extra exhausting.