u/regular_asian_guy

Hey guys,

thinking of replacing the shocks on my 2013 JK and had a couple questions. First, should I use gas shocks or OEM shocks? It looks like gas shocks are a lot more expensive, is the performance worth it? Right now I’m running OEM shocks.

Second, can I use the spare tire jack to lift the car and perform the shocks replacement? I heard you don’t necessarily need to take the wheels out to change it but it makes your life a lot easier.

Thanks!

Hi guys,

Me (28M) and this girl (30F) have been seeing each other for about 4 months now and while we're exclusive, we still haven't become official yet (ah I know, labels) due to some issues. However I only get these feelings when we’re not together and over text, as when we’re in person it feels very special.

With that side, while she’s very introspective, witty and direct, but I feel that there are some long term incompatibilities:

\* Kids - she's leaning no and I'm leaning yes - she thinks that if the guy made twice as much money as her then she'd be open to kids (she's a soft eng. and I likely won't make that much than her lol) - she thinks having a kid will hold her back career wise and health wise (which is valid)
\* Location - being a software eng., she wants to move to the States at some point in the next few years (we both live in Canada) as salary is 3x here. While I respect that, I'm not sure if I'd be willing to uproot my life and my friends/family here
\* Finances - She thinks finances should be 70/30 in favour of the guy - as she believes the male should be the more powerful/father figure and there are invisible obstacles that women face in society

Other than that, I think we have some different personality and communication styles. She likes to feel affection and prefer the guy to the more assertive and decisive. However I'm a bit more emotional/sentimental and when we argue - I like to feel affection too and find it hard giving it to her right away (she wants to feel comforted before resolving the issue logically).

Maybe a bit nitpicky, but she doesn't think I make her feel special enough at times, for example if I share pictures I took or gossip with my friends as well, she feels I'm not really treating her any differently than my friends. She also thinks hanging out with friends are a waste of time and don't value friendship as much as I do (she has friends, she's just very private and doesn't like to share deep things with them, whereas sometimes I do). If I don't text her back after 3 hours, she'll also get very upset.

Also with dates, she doesn't like how I sometimes will go for the kiss on the second date... she thinks that's too soon and if I do that with them the same time as her it doesn't make her any more special.

Sorry - bit of a long post, not sure if anyone will read this. But she's a really sweet girl but just perhaps with different values and traits as me. I'm thinking of ending things tonight but not sure how to approach my feelings.

Hi guys,

Me (28M) and this girl (30F) have been seeing each other for about 4 months now and while we're exclusive, we still haven't become official yet (ah I know, labels) due to some issues.

She's very introspective, witty and direct, but I feel that there are some long term incompatibilities:

* Kids - she's leaning no and I'm leaning yes - she thinks that if the guy made twice as much money as her then she'd be open to kids (she's a soft eng. and I likely won't make that much than her lol) - she thinks having a kid will hold her back career wise and health wise (which is valid)
* Location - being a software eng., she wants to move to the States at some point in the next few years (we both live in Canada) as salary is 3x here. While I respect that, I'm not sure if I'd be willing to uproot my life and my friends/family here
* Finances - She thinks finances should be 70/30 in favour of the guy - as she believes the male should be the more powerful/father figure and there are invisible obstacles that women face in society

Other than that, I think we have some different personality and communication styles. She likes to feel affection and prefer the guy to the more assertive and decisive. However I'm a bit more emotional/sentimental and when we argue - I like to feel affection too and find it hard giving it to her right away (she wants to feel comforted before resolving the issue logically).

Maybe a bit nitpicky, but she doesn't think I make her feel special enough at times, for example if I share pictures I took or gossip with my friends as well, she feels I'm not really treating her any differently than my friends. She also thinks hanging out with friends are a waste of time and don't value friendship as much as I do (she has friends, she's just very private and doesn't like to share deep things with them, whereas sometimes I do). If I don't text her back after 3 hours, she'll also get very upset.

Also with dates, she doesn't like how I sometimes will go for the kiss on the second date... she thinks that's too soon and if I do that with them the same time as her it doesn't make her any more special.

Sorry - bit of a long post, not sure if anyone will read this. But she's a really sweet girl but just perhaps with different values and traits as me. I'm thinking of ending things tonight but not sure how to approach my feelings.

Just got the app!

My parents are thinking of looking into a second property in Toronto starting in October and may rent it out to me. Their budget is 700k and would be looking into a 1+1 or 2bdr. Do you guys think prices will still be falling/low by that point? I know it’s hard to predict these days.

Since this is their first time purchasing a condo, how fast is the closing process? 1 week? 1 month?

Thanks!

Hey guys,

My roommate is moving out July 15th, and I might stay for another 5-6 months or so. We live at an apartment near yonge and st clair. Some questions I had:

- I’m hoping to find another roommate to live with for the short term until I move out, if I find a replacement roommate will our new lease remain month-to-month? (Currently it is)

- some suggested that I should still give the 60 days notice in May and that way if I don’t find a roommate, I’m not stuck paying the full rent myself. But if I give the 60 days notice would this trigger a new one year lease if I do find a new roommate during that time?

- What are some good sites to find short term roommates? Fb?

Anything else I should be aware of?

Thank you!

Hey guys,

So my roommate is moving out in July as he bought his own place and I’m a bit conflicted on what to do next. Fyi I work near union station.

We currently live near yonge and st.clair and I really like the area and our apartment. My parents are also thinking of buying a condo sometime this winter for me to rent it out from them at a discounted price.

I have a couple options:

1. Ideally I would like to continue staying and find a roommate - but it would likely be short term for half a year or so until my parents find a place. I was thinking of finding a friend (but maybe a stranger would be better logistically? Ex. Exchange student for the fall semester).

2. I move back to my parent’s place in Oakville for a few months and commute to union. I’d save a lot of money on rent but my life is in Toronto and lot of my tennis league and friends are in Markham area (which would be hard to go on weekdays).

3. One of my friend lives in Markham and said I can sublet his basement for a few months if I want. I can take the GO to union (45 min) and would be a lot closer to my friends/activities.

4. I move out and rent a studio somewhere in Toronto by myself. Rent is lower now but think new leases are typically minimum 1 year?

Which option do you guys think makes most sense for me? Thank you!