u/ryukiinn

My role seems needed so I don't have an issue of job security and I'm in the EU which has pretty strong employee protection laws. In this role, if I want to leave, I have to give 3 months notice. My bonus is 20% and could be more/less depending on company performance. Last year was more. BUT manager on this role has been hell and really brings down team morale and I really want to get away from him as any interaction with him just makes me hate working for this company (which has been my dream company).

I applied for an interesting role at a competing company and have the 30-min introductory recruiter call today. But I'm hesitant because my bonus payout is end of March and with 3 months notice and given the other interview rounds, earliest I would start is January 4th. This puts me 3 months short of my bonus payout and I feel I want it for enduring my manager. And the thing is, I'm not so senior (and not a manager) that I feel they would give me my bonus as a sign on bonus.

Should I be upfront about this with the recruiter or try and get the offer first and then let them know that I'd only accept with the sign on bonus matching my bonus?

My role seems needed so I don't have an issue of job security and I'm in the EU which has pretty strong employee protection laws. In this role, if I want to leave, I have to give 3 months notice. My bonus is 20% and could be more/less depending on company performance. Last year was more. BUT manager on this role has been hell and really brings down team morale and I really want to get away from him as any interaction with him just makes me hate working for this company (which has been my dream company).

I applied for an interesting role at a competing company and have the 30-min introductory recruiter call today. But I'm hesitant because my bonus payout is end of March and with 3 months notice and given the other interview rounds, earliest I would start is January 4th. This puts me 3 months short of my bonus payout and I feel I want it for enduring my manager. And the thing is, I'm not so senior (and not a manager) that I feel they would give me my bonus as a sign on bonus.

Should I be upfront about this with the recruiter or try and get the offer first and then let them know that I'd only accept with the sign on bonus matching my bonus?

A few weeks ago my bf and I went to a concert with a group of friends. I only like a few songs from this artist and other songs I just can't vibe with. I mostly went to be with my friends but also to give it a try. During the concert, I really couldn't vibe with the songs or my friends so I tried to enjoy it in my own way by listening to the beat and instruments and just nodding along. Around me people/friends were dancing together and laughing etc but I started feeling overwhelmed because strangers kept bumping into me or stepping on my shoes, which I understand happens so whatever. And I started getting conscious and nervous that someone would film me as this loser at a concert who couldn't vibe with others. Kind of like a video of a group of people partying to the fullest at a concert and then panned over to me who was just nodding along to the music. Social media has really tainted this for me. My bf tried to drag me into the group of friends to dance with them but I was so out of it that I didn't want to force myself into this situation so I said I felt overwhelmed and wanted to be enjoy it in my way. Concert ended and we all went home in good spirits, regardless of how it went.

Next day I wake up to an IG notification of my bf, having taken a candid video of me, just as I'd described above. I got slightly annoyed but I tried to see the joke in it.

Anyway, then few weeks later there was an artist coming to town so I got my own tickets knowing it's not his style. Then the day before he decides to join me. And he's the kind that can still vibe with people even if he doesn't enjoy the music so much. We had a fun night and then on the walk home, he started, what it felt like anyway, shaming me for not joining in with the dancing and fun at the original concert because he was able to do it at tonight's concert. And then he started saying I was in a bad mood that night because I was overwhelmed. And I don't agree that I was in a bad mood. I just couldn't vibe with the concert and didn't want to force it because I'm not that type. I don't get why he thinks I need to enjoy concerts and events in the same way he does? Anyway, I got so mad at him for making me feel like my way of enjoying a concert was not the correct way? AIO?

I work on a regional team and on a data transformation project so it involves a lot of data cleansing and data metric checking (dashboards) for the different offices around the world. We take initial guidelines recommended by the global office and work with individual countries based on these global guidelines but we also try to implement additional steps based on cleansing experience that we think can help make the process more efficient and of higher quality. And some countries have local requirements that don't fit the global solution.

And because the global team has been so slow to do any dashboard/metric developments we ask of them (as some of their current offerings are so bad), we had to develop our own. Countries also struggle to understand where to find their global guidelines or how to follow up. So we made our own guide that is a combination of global guidelines and experience working with different countries.

And this morning I woke up to an angry email from global asking us to shut down our dashboards and guides and use their globally provided ones.

How are we supposed to get work done and track it if their solution is slow and inadequate? How would you recommend to navigate such a situation?

I work on a regional team and on a data transformation project so it involves a lot of data cleansing and data metric checking (dashboards) for the different offices around the world. We take initial guidelines recommended by the global office and work with individual countries based on these global guidelines but we also try to implement additional steps based on cleansing experience that we think can help make the process more efficient and of higher quality. And some countries have local requirements that don't fit the global solution.

And because the global team has been so slow to do any dashboard/metric developments we ask of them (as some of their current offerings are so bad), we had to develop our own. Countries also struggle to understand where to find their global guidelines or how to follow up. So we made our own guide that is a combination of global guidelines and experience working with different countries.

And this morning I woke up to an angry email from global asking us to shut down our dashboards and guides and use their globally provided ones.

How are we supposed to get work done and track it if their solution is slow and inadequate? How would you recommend to navigate such a situation?

My bf doesn't have this same issue I have as he can pretty much sleep anywhere but for the last few years I don't recall when I've had a good night's sleep except for when I'm at my parents visiting alone.

He rolls over to my side of the bed early in the night taking up most of the bed and I feel "trapped" when I can't turn comfortably in my sleep. And he wakes up earlier and I can already feel the movements in the bed or gets up to use the bathroom and comes back.

For those who have transitioned from sharing a mattress to getting two single beds in a single frame - did it help? My bf is very hesitant to spend/split the money on a new frame and mattress so I need a good case. It took a while to convince him to get 2 separate duvets which he now enjoys.

We bought an apartment 2 years ago and have slowly renovated what we could in our free time and in the same time the apartment building has undergone some exterior renovations requiring builders to walk through our apartment and make the changes they need. These mainly resulted in them denting/cutting our newly laid floors and scuffing up some walls. But we made sure they finished this before we did the walls in our kitchen and bedrooms (required spackling, sanding, priming, painting a few coats - a 5 day job as I did this myself).

This week they came to change the radiators (every apartment had to do this) and somehow they managed to dent and make a hole in our walls. All they did was remove the radiator dials.

In the grand scheme of things this is minor and I can fix this. But I feel frustrated that these things are out of my control and with every maintenance comes new damages. And I wonder why do I put in the effort? How do you feel with this?

I understand that stocks go up, down, sideways etc and I've only been swing trading stocks for a year so my experience is somewhat limited - though have long term invested for 6 years, and the COVID dip was bad - but has the last year just been incredibly volatile globally due to the US? I.e tariffs, wars, etc

I managed to grow my account from $30,000 USD to $40,000 USD since September 2025, but this year I've struggled to grow it beyond the initial $10,000 gain. Any take profit goal post immediately gets wiped out by some headline news. And I don't want to take profit at the first high I see only to have it continue going up to my initially planned TP. Or it seems like the $10k is a mental barrier.

I'm in Vienna visiting a friend and I'd love to help her hang up some lights in her rental but we're struggling to find a really tall ladder to rent/borrow. We would need a ladder for a 2.5m height ceiling

Is there anywhere near Neubaugasse 26 that would be open this weekend?

Correction: it is 3m