u/scubapopi

I only recently came to a conclusion that I’ve been (extremely subconsciously) pushing love interests away for 7 years. Not in the traditional sense of actually ending things myself, but i’ve been putting out extremely avoidant energy, and in turn making my partners insecure and making them feel like they’re not enough for me, and ultimately they end up leaving. I’m really glad I finally came to this conclusion, because this whole time I thought the men were the entire problem, but it’s been my fear too. My problem herein lies, since finding out this problem, i’ve been talking to a really really great guy, and although consciously i feel ready, I know my subconscious is going to flip shit at some point. With this new awareness, I’m so scared of fucking this up. Any advice?

TLDR: realized i’ve been unconsciously giving off avoidant energy for years causing love interests to walk away and Im finally interested in someone and don’t want to repeat the same cycle again. HELP!

I’m a singer/songwriter, just finished my debut album. I’m 27F and make like indie/alt music but i have always wanted to be in a band and want to make like psychedelic glitch pop music kind of like TV girl. Anyone into that or interested? comment here or PM me :)

loved them both dearly, but i fear now nothing is hitting the same. My biggest reading ick is cringe dialogue but I am open to whatever trope!! HELP A GIRL OUT

I forgot the clip on my vacation for my pump. i’m going to the beach (atlantic ocean) is it safe to swim without the plug??? i heard water shouldn’t really go through the site like the top of an insulin vial but I want to be sure. would hate to not be able to swim while im here :(

My pump must have died in my sleep and I didn’t notice. I got up and had something to do so I left the house and was starting to feel pretty horrible but didn’t think much of it. An hour of being out it got worse, i was having tachycardia, a headache and felt nauseous. I checked my app and saw that my pump died 7 HOURS AGO. i panicked and started driving home and ended up puking in the car on the way home. i charged my pump and rage bolused and felt better and was able to keep fluids down. I’m back in range now and going to check for ketones just in case but Im considering this a win. Very very scary and I will be so much more diligent in the future.

so for context i (27f) don’t do hookups, never really have. I’m a serial dater that has been trying to find something real and long term for a while. For context Ive been single for like 7 years. that’s not to say i haven’t been dating, i’ve been going on dates the entire time. I definitely have a bit of trauma around sex, which has caused me to vet a person out before i get sexual with them. I’m definitely a lover girl and like to make sure someone sees a future with me before i do that. HOWEVER. ya girl has been single and dry for so long. i’ve been talking to a guy (28m) that im really interested in. We’ve spent hours on the phone talking and have lots of similar interests. I told him I don’t date casually and it didn’t seem to deter him and he said he’s always been a lover boy at heart too. Here’s where it gets tricky for me. he’s made sexual innuendos and honestly i’m feeling it!! but i’m not sure if I should jump into anything sexual with him. the reason i say this is bc a few years ago i slept with a guy i was into and he ended up soft ghosting me after and it made me feel kind of used. not to the point where i was triggered with ptsd but it surely wasn’t a good feeling. I’m just conflicted on what to do. I’ve never done this before and I want to but I fear getting hurt in the end. Any advice?

TLDR: I don’t do hookups but am talking to a guy and want to hook up with him but am scared of doing so and ending up hurt in the end.