u/senoritagordita22

So I worked a lot through college and my parents helped with a fair chunk. I graduated with $30k left, in part because of my parents but a huge part was my work as well.

And I also fully understand that Morgan got a doctorate which is SUBSTANTIALLY more than undergrad.

But per google, a decent estimate of her income is $615,000 and $1.78 million. Meanwhile mine was $50,000 ish and through strict budgeting and living in a very cheap rundown house with multiple housemates I paid my 30k off in less than 2 years.

I dont say that to brag, I say that to say I am genuinely a normal young adult with a normal income, and I got rid of the debt very quickly.

So when shes making half a mil- a mil per year and hasnt paid it off yet?? And finds a way to mention it in numerous episodes??

It almost feels like she mentions it so often to try and be relatable. But (at least to me) it doesnt come off as relatable, it comes off as simply annoying. Because you're complaining about a normal person issue when you have a VERY ABOVE normal income, so it objectively should not be an issue for her. For example, if you care about your student loan debt so much, why did you buy a NICE house before paying the loans? (I havent seen a picture or anything of her house, just going off of how she described it.)

And she CAN and IS relatable on so many other levels. You can be wealthy and relatable, but trying to be relatable on financial areas feels borderline rude. Like there are people genuinely struggling and cutting corners to pay their debt. You DONT HAVE TO, and you havent paid it yet.

Idk if I'm just being petty or if other people have felt this way.

And also as a last note, I honestly do love the pod and overall I really like her. But this area really grinds my gears :)

Edit: just got to the part in the ep where she says she has 200k of student loans. That’s lower than my estimate in the comments. On the LOW END ESTIMATE she makes 500k. So what I’m really saying here is respectfully don’t you dare complain about your debt when you could pay it ALL OFF THIS YEAR and still have 300k to spend.

I’ll be vague for obvious reasons. But I started this job about a year ago. The people in my dept are great, and I honestly LOVE the work. The days FLY by.

Why? Because we’re all so fucking busy. Why? Because of xyz company issues and especially because we don’t have enough people.

Subsequently, I completely believe and trust that when colleagues in other departments have an ‘I don’t have time for you’ attitude they’re correct. I fully believe they don’t have time for phone calls.

But it’s not my fault we’re understaffed and my questions are 100% within their line of responsibility to assist with.

And this isn’t just one person, it’s a known company issue that interdepartmental communication is severely lacking.

I know I’m sensitive, but it is so fucking draining to get a customer service question and realize I need to call x dept/person to figure out the status of something *in their court* . And before I pick up the phone or email, I already know going to get overt or covert ‘you’re wasting my time by asking this’

To give an example-
We had meetings to learn the ins and outs of each dept. At the meeting the dept manager said ‘always feel free to reach out to me with any questions’

Then I ran into a customer service question and the notes for a potential answer was from that dept manager. So I called her to get the newest update since she was the last one working on it. After RUSHING with the answer she said ‘you can just call my team with questions like this’.

… why would I do that when you said to reach out any time, and you seem to be the one with the most recent info?? Just as a general statement, since as noted this is a PATTERN overall with many depts, why do we internally have the attitude of ‘your presence in my day for 2 minutes is a waste of my time’ LMAO.

So curious for you guys with potentially longer customer service experience than me,

1. Is this to be expected in customer service roles since we’re basically the middle man to customers? Like to be expected because we’re a jack of all trades with surface knowledge on all operations that we’ll just have to deal with potential annoyance internally when we have to reach out for more details?

2. I really do love the job and people in my dept. It’s a good commute, pay is fine, great benefits and vacation days etc. And I honestly am just too tired to go thru interview processes at other places and have to start square 1 somewhere else when I’m FINALLY confident in my work here. Is it worth sticking out if I enjoy the JOB and just hate dealing with the internal issues of this company?

Long story short, in summer of 2020 I met a guy on Tinder. I went to college in my hometown, he lived a few towns over but went to college out of state.

We were both lil hoes in college so we had sex our first date and we've been having sex ever since.

Whenever we're both single (which is most of the time) we have sex minimum once per month.

I'm not going to exaggerate the situation and act like we have profound conversations all the time, but we do have fairly deep life chats frequently after our little hang bang. At this point we've known eachother since maturity wise like teenagers to full grown adults with careers. And honestly, I feel like I open up to him about things I dont even with friends, because I know there's 0 chance what I say will get back to anyone. For example, we both gained a lot of weight post college. We were both very athletic and in extremely good shape when we met and now, objectively, we're both fat with stretch marks. (Obvs I know I should work on myself and be healthy yada yada, not the point here,) but one of the reasons I was able to stay confident and loving myself through my weight gain was realizing 'well FWB gained more weight than me, and I still find him INSANELY sexy. It doesnt change my attraction to him so why should I be worried others will find me less attractive?'

But it did. I had a BF for 5 months and I was TERRIFIED for him to see me naked. After the first time with him and seeing how much he loved my body/didnt care about my stretch marks I was fine, but in general its felt like FWB handled his weight gain/confidence a lot better. So tonight I asked him about it and we had a really meaningful talk for like 20 mins.

All this to say, I'm realizing it feels like we could theoretically make a great couple. We've been fucking for 6 years and aernt bored, we can have good conversation, we have similar life goals/philosophies/morals , and we've found eachother attractive through significant weight gain (and unfortunately per reddit i'm learning even married couples [cough usually men cough] cannot see their own WIVES attractive post weight gain.

Here's the thing though. I think it must've been 2-3 years ago, I was in a state of life where I was desperate to have a legit bf. I felt behind compared to my friends in their relationships. So I asked FWB like 'would you want to do an actual date/see if we'd work more than what we are right now?' And he basically said he's not looking for a legit relationship in the near future. And I was fine with that because in the least callous way possible, I just really appreciate having someone to have sex with whenever I'm in the mood.

So he knows at least at one point I was open to a legit relationship, so I really do not want to ask again. And I'm not going to. And I can genuinely say I dont have a crush on him; I dont get giddy etc, I'm not nervous around him, I feel like I'm at the stage of life where I'm so beyond grateful and content to not need a bf. Itll happen when it happens. But I've also learned its not necessarily about who you have butterflies around, its about who you could see long term in a happy and minimal conflict life.

Which kind of checks the boxes with FWB.

Anyway, I dont even know what I'm looking for while posting. If I get 0 comments, I wont be offended. I'm basically just talking into the void because I am too lazy to journal. But if you read something here and you had a thought on I'd love to hear it. As long as its not 'IF HE WANTED TO HE WOULD'. Because, yeah, I know. Thats why I'm not torn up about it-- I know he doesnt want to. And like I said, I'm not going to ask. 😄

TLDR: acquaintance from church hired me, we already made the time limit and quote, then while I'm already cleaning she asks me to lower my scope/payment because she got a cheaper quote/i.e insinuated I'm ripping her off

I've been housecleaning as a side hustle on weekends for 6 years now and this is the first time I've been so frustrated I felt the need to take it to reddit, so please believe I don't go out of my way trying to find a problem with my clients.

Long story short I met a girl (we'll call her Jen) a few years ago from a church group and 2/2 times we've hungout she disrespected the waiter so I soft ghosted on hangouts. But she hired me to clean once a few years ago and will occasionally reach out about me cleaning again.

I have told her at least 4x now (just standard while quoting) that for nonrecurring or a first time clean before I start regular its $50/hour. If it became regular then I could make a flat rate. I've previously quoted her flat rate 200 for her house IF it got regular.

Yesterday she reached out for cleaning. And also, the last text previous to this was me quoting 50/hour for nonrecurring and she had said 'yep thats a fair price'.

Jen: hey are you free for cleaning tomorrow?

Me: I think so, my estimate is 4-6 hours but if you have a budget you can lmk and I'll go based on your priorities

Jen: I dont want to surpass $180 but your hourly would be $200 so why dont you just do the bathrooms

Me: ok sounds good I'll plan for 4 hours and I can just charge $180, nbd 😄

so please note I'm literally undercharging her as a favor/since I dont have another job today anyway

So anyway I get to her house this morning and start cleaning.

Not sure if this is relevant, but I had told her hopefully I have time for more than just the bathrooms but I can’t promise that yet since idk how long the bathrooms will take.

The bathrooms havent been deep cleaned in a while, not like insanely bad but def requires a deep clean. So I'm maybe 45 mins in on the first bathroom, and I have 4 hours to do all 3 and this is the biggest one. So I'm making great time actually (for the level of detail I'm doing).

WHILE I'M ON MY HANDS AND KNEES SCRUBBING A PISS DROPLET BEHIND THE TOILET, MY AIRPODS SAY

Message from Jen: you can stop after that bathroom. I was only spending $100 max. But I would note I could have my entire house cleaned for $180 per other quotes I received

Me: oooo I thought you said 180 which is almost 4 hours for me, I'm happy to do all the bathrooms if youd like for 180 like I said yesterday

Jen: No they would do the entire house for 180. How much is fair for the 2 bathrooms then?

I wouldnt have agreed to clean today for just $100 tbh, I wouldve slept in. So while I'm ALREADY HERE doing the work you change the scope? I already know I'm never cleaning for her again so I'm just trying to assuage and get out.

Me: I can do the 2 bathrooms for 100

So I finish both, take EVIDENCE VIDEOS THAT I DID A TOP TO BOTTOM PERFECT JOB, and leaveeee

And I'm honestly just shook. Tell me if I'm being dramatic but like

1. If you want someone cheaper/are choosing between different companies and quotes, thats something to figure out before I'm HERE.
2. I’m gonna be pissed if she thinks ‘omg the other compay did the bathrooms in 30 mins, OP was def ripping me off’ NO BABE ITS BC I MADE THE BATHROOM SO GOOD ITS NOW ABLE TO BE CLEANED FAST
3. Most importantly, why the FAWWWK do you think its okay to quote me a cheaper price when I'm already cleaning? The insinuation is 'you're robbing me/overcharging'

ANYWAY IF YOU MADE IT TO THE END TY, I'm just appalled of the lack of respect and professionalism from a 30 year old. Would you hire a landscaping crew and change the scope upon arrival and quote them a lower price? No? Wtf.

Like if i was in the wrong please tell me, but I had been CLEAR in my prices and I cannot half ass my work to hit a time crunch I didnt know I had. I take pride in my work-- I'm not done until its spotless. I was perfectly on track for the time limit I entered with so I dont understand why she completely switched gears

So for a while I was pretty bad at interviews. I’d know WHAT to say, but I’d end up accidentally talking fast and stumbling over my words.

Then one day as a mini experiment like ‘if nothing changes, nothing changes’ mentality I softened my voice a LOT. Think steering toward asmr but not all the way, only like 60% if that makes sense?

By intentionally softening my voice, it slowed me down while I was speaking, gave me more time to think about how to wrap up the sentence, and by intentionally slowing your speaking down i literally felt less nervous, like I was explaining to friends my current job roles instead of like I was doing a ted talk in front of hundreds about my job role/experience.

Anyway, after starting this I got a second interview, then third, and I’ve had my new job for almost a year at now!

Honestly, this is probably not the best move if you’re trying to get a sales job or something where you want to look like a loud personality and extremely assertive, but for a office job etc where they want someone who seems calm/collected it could def help

I’m currently on 40 and one day I accidentally took 2 and it was great, and tbh i ‘accidentally’ took 2 again a day I knew work was gonna be crazy.

I def won’t make it a habit cause I can’t be running out early, but it had me wondering if I should increase my dosage or if it’ll just make me keep needing to increase dosage faster than I should.

TYIA!