How does trying to be in an open relationship go?

Wife came out to me and only me about 3 years back. Wanted to make it open so that she could explore her sexuality. We've got 2 young kids and I thought that was a ticket to divorce so I've been resisting it. Now we're both miserable - though the kids are still amazing and they don't know anything... Anyway - bedroom has been dead since last September and it seems my wife would still like to open it up. I think I'm emotionally disengaged enough from her at this point to not be hurt by it... but - how has opening it up gone for others?

I would really love to keep being around my kids - younger one is about to turn 6 - and that was the age of my younger brother when our father left us... Later on my younger brother got into drugs and overdosed - and I'm convinced my father leaving the family was the original sin that led to that outcome. Feels so wrong to take actions that might lead to so a divorce - but this is so hard to endure.

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u/sergius64 — 8 days ago

Arcwalk - four solar returns in a row with partile SR South Node activations.

Hi Livvia!

As mentioned - got an interesting sequence in Solar Return here starting with the year that's coming to an end for me. The charts should all be attached in a sequence.

2025: SR South Node in partile conjunction with SR Ascendant (there was also SR Jupiter on Natal North Node). - This year has been... very bad. Though I mostly blame Uranus and Pluto.

2026: SR South Node is in partile conjunction with natal Ascendant and Mercury.

2027: SR South Node is in a partile conjunction with SR Mercury - it's also conjunct SR Venus and the Sun.

2028: SR South Node is in a partile conjunction with natal Venus. This also activates the exact natal trine between Venus and the Moon.

So... what do you think? Do you follow the "Drains energy" or "Revising the past" school of thought when it comes to the South Node?

u/sergius64 — 23 days ago

What is the meaning of South Node contacts in four Solar Returns in a row?

Could go several ways - but I'm guessing:

  1. Take time to imagine

  2. how you alone

  3. can achieve your practical goals.

u/sergius64 — 26 days ago

Question: What am I changing into after all these Astrological disruptions?

Was part of a Celtic Spread with said question. 9 of Swords was in Position 1. The Tower was near future/position 6. The World was clarifier for the Tower when asked: "What is getting destroyed by the Tower?"

u/sergius64 — 1 month ago

Experience with utilizing modern rulership with Profections?

Has anyone experimented with using modern rulers of Profected signs to predict how a year would go for a native instead of the traditional ones? Got an interesting case study here - it was an 8th House Profection year for the native - which is Pisces if using WH. Traditional ruler is Jupiter, so I looked at the state of Jupiter in the Solar Return. It was Exalted, direct, swift, oriental and free from the Sun. SR 11th, natal 12th. It was also in a conjunction with a very dignified SR Venus (triplicity, own term and own face) and in a partile conjunction to natal North Node. Naturally - I expected great 8th house things for the native.

But... this SR year is coming to a close for the native and 8th house was the most significant for them indeed - but negatively so. Fortunately - no one died. But they had extreme intimacy issues, and just learned very negative things about their exposure to other people's money. So... the opposite result. Meanwhile 5th house matters were a positive highlight for them.

What could be the cause? One theory is that Vedics have it right and North Node does have a negative effect rather than a positive one. But the other theory would be that I should have used modern rulership of Pisces instead: and it seems to fit like a glove. Neptune was retrograde - in a partile conjunction to one malefic (fallen and retrograde one at that) - and in tight opposition to another malefic (one in detriment). And in general Neptune was part of that kite formation in the SR.

Has anyone else experience such outcomes/differences when using Traditional/Modern rulership? Perhaps with opposite results? This is just one case - I don't want to take it too seriously without having some more data to back it up.

I guess there are other theories too. SR South Node contact with SR Ascendant for example, Uranian/Plutonian hits from SR to Natal, etc. But... would love to learn how to do SRs more accurately so more data is needed.

u/sergius64 — 1 month ago

Hi!

I'm ready to create that talisman that is supposed to hide me from spirits - but I have concerns:

I happen to be using several planetary talismans I've consecrated, and that I feel are actively helping me. Some of them were created during extremely rare Astrological configurations and would take years to replace (perhaps even never in one case). So - my concern is: what effect will wearing this new protection/invisibility talisman have on them? I wouldn't want it to block their powers. I would absolutely hate it if it made them worthless permanently by making spirits inside them leave or something like that.

So... Does anyone have insight on the dynamics of how these would interact with one another? I was going to do some divination on it, but it's always good to hear from those who understand the process better than I do.

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u/sergius64 — 2 months ago

Today I have two hits down to the arc minute involving Uranus: natal Uranus is at 0 degrees and 34 minutes of Sagittarius, which is exactly where my Progressed Mars finds himself this week. And the degree opposite - 0 degrees and 34 arc minutes of Gemini is the current location of transiting Uranus.

Other interesting bits - all my Progressed angles are switching signs at the same time in about two weeks. Progressed Mercury went stationary retrograde 3 arc minutes away from Saturn last Summer - it is still only 7 arc minutes away as it separates.

Anyone seen/dealt with something like this? I was honestly worried I'd have a stroke or something. But instead I just really want change and the circumstances seem to be frustrating me.

u/sergius64 — 2 months ago

Seems like a yes? Though I'm confused about unconscious and self being full steam ahead while the conscious is way more measured.

u/sergius64 — 2 months ago