How to explain burnout to father?

My dad is undiagnosed ADHD, and I went no contact with him during my autism diagnosis journey because of how he reacted and treated me during that difficult time. We reconciled this year.

I'm currently in severe burnout since at least fall of 2024. I haven't had a steady job since July last year. As I try to talk to my dad about burnout and why I can't just go get a fast food or retail job, he responds as if it's a matter of trying harder.

I tried to explain that forcing myself into even deeper stress (adding a nightmare job on top of the current work I'm trying to succeed at, financial/existential stress, etc. makes me literally pray that each day will be my last. I'm not suicidal, I just constantly wish for death.

How can I explain it in a way he might understand? Is it possible?

Providing info graphics and articles are not effective.

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u/sfw_account72 — 23 hours ago

First one

Didn't know this existed outside of the pre-made ones like Wreck This Journal. I have a lot of trouble recognizing and interpreting my emotions and have found art to be a good outlet of expression and processing.

I'm using doodled pages from different sketchbooks, paper bags, and some used printer paper for the first booklet and am scanning my bookshelves for future materials.

Loving how unconventional and free junk journaling feels.

u/sfw_account72 — 6 days ago

Pattern recognition and increase in AI generated posts and comments is making Reddit a nightmare

Not much else to say about it. I'm seeing more and more comments that are obviously copied and pasted from AI. The sycophancy pours through, it's so gross feeling. It's giving me an existential crisis kind of.

I thought most of the subs I follow were niche enough, but it's getting nuts.

Probably nothing to be done but get used to it.

Think I just needed to scream that into the void. 🫩

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u/sfw_account72 — 14 days ago

Air plant growth progress!

Y'all, I have had this air plant for a while. I didn't buy it, it just showed up one day. This morning, I was looking over my prop station and saw it has a fascinating growth habit. It seems to have sprouted two new leaves over night.

Do not comment unless it is to give me immense praise!!!!!! Y'all love to be jealous bitches 💅

u/sfw_account72 — 24 days ago

Evicting Squatters (zone 7a)

I was sweeping my porch (including behind the pots and under shelves) the first time since May. Took the door mat to the grass to shake it out and found these transient fuckers squatting on my property! These weeds refused to dislodge, even after the hardest shake.

(Before the cries of "invasive!1!1!1 😖": yes, I put mother of thousands outside during the growing season. it can't survive winter here, I tested it 😝)

u/sfw_account72 — 1 month ago

Help me save this 208 year old family heirloom!

Napoleon Bonaparte gave these plants to a Russian whore as child support for his bastard. My grandma smuggled them out of the old country in her hoohah but now it's all dying! I water every third blood moon and give it plenty of hugs and care. They direct sun for 10 minutes in the spring from a recessed skylight.

What am I doing wrong? Help me save these precious family heirlooms!

u/sfw_account72 — 1 month ago

Loving nature

It started throwing a fit (and itself) reaching for the windows inside so moved it outside a week ago. So much better :) Probably just showing off the leggy stems to show how tree like it is. Such a ham.

(uj/ still deciding whether to stake or chop.)

u/sfw_account72 — 2 months ago

Newbie collection: a Gentle Rain, Cartographers, Dune Imperium, The Anarchy, Micro Macro Crime City

Wanted to share my collection so far. Discovered the hobby 3 weeks ago.

Have tried to get into tabletop games and DnD in the past but had a lot of trouble socializing with new people and learning/paying attention to a game at the same time.

Thoughts so far:

A Gentle Rain: surprisingly relaxing and meditative. Very easy to play. The tokens and tiles are also really nice to touch.

Cartographers: favorite so far. It seems like it would get repetitive, but it hasn't felt that way. Also pretty relaxing although the deduction of points at the end for solo is pretty humbling when you think you've gotten an awesome score.

Micro Macro Crime City: Love this one a lot. The map is huge with a lot of stuff going on. The cases are fun. The only negatives are I'm worried about replay value once the cases are done although there are expansions, and it can be a bit difficult to see the line art without very bright light. Would be really fun with other people.

Dune Imperium: It's taking time to get into this one. There are a lot of pieces and a lot of things to remember to do; however, it's really fun to pull out and dig into. I've been watching play throughs on YouTube and am excited to figure this one out better.

Carcassonne: Used the solo rules available from the website. Probably better with other people. It's fun, and I like the puzzle aspect with the tiles, but I'm having a really hard time keeping track of whether or not I placed a meeple, if not which color it was supposed to be, whether or not I recorded score for a completed section, etc. Have to get better at keeping track.

The Anarchy: Just got this one yesterday. Spent an hour or two reading the rules and setting it up and a couple of hours playing through with the rules. Didn't finish a game yet, but this one is so good. When I opened it, I thought it would be like Dune. Even though it has more components and the attribute sheets are intense, the Anarchy is crazy engaging. I really love this one already.

Open to suggestions for next games. Some already on the want list are Under Falling Skies, Sprawlopolis, Warp's Edge, and Turing Machine.

u/sfw_account72 — 2 months ago

One player non-video games that scratch multiple itches?

Not sure if that's a good way to phrase it. I'm interested in finding one player games (besides solitaire card deck games lol) that can provide dopamine without being overly complicated. Feels like a new interest coming on.

I recently bought a game where you lay out lake tiles, making sure that the flowers on each side match. If you connect 4 in a square, you can put a blooming flower piece in the middle that matches one of the adjacent flower colors. The objective is to place all the blooms before you run out of tiles. It's deceptively low stress matching the flowers, but there's a puzzle element of laying them out to ensure each color flower can bloom. It's very low stakes but feels really good when I win.

Another example I remember from being a kid. It was airplane cards (9 I think) with the planes cut in half, and you had to arrange them so that all plane halves matched among all adjacent cards.

Is there a name for this? Any similar or solo non-video games y'all like to play?

Edit: idk what the title is supposed to mean

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u/sfw_account72 — 2 months ago