Does anyone else *try* to use Paddlways and just gets frustrated? There are tons of boat ramp indicators on lakes and ponds that are labeled as places to launch but 9/10 times it’s actually a private lake or doesn’t allow boats.
Maybe it’s my area but what is the point of this app if I drive out to a place on their map just to find it’s not a real place to paddle..
I have been caching for 20yrs and just discovered how to hide official caches with the app/website!
Problem is, I don’t plan to stay in this area for more than 5 years. I’ve seen “adopted” caches, how do I do that? I am not leaving any time soon, but when I do I would like to l leave the fun themes in my area. Do I have to just collect and delete my caches?
I’ve seen some TikTok’s and such of umbrella attachments, but I’ve also seen people using umbrellas as sails!
I recently acquired a 6ft umbrella on a tripod. I plan to attach it to the D rings on my board, but I’m wondering the risk of wind? First worrisome thought is that it will act as a sail and move me places I don’t want to go. Worst case is the wind takes it very strong and knocks me and any loose gear off my board.
Thoughts? Yes, I know a 6ft umbrella on a paddleboard is obnoxious, however I see this as a great use of free will given the SUPers in my area don’t seem to have any sense of personal space! Plus shade for friends!
Heyo, i want to bring my board to this park, but i only see a boat ramp below the dam into the river. I want to drop anchor on the open lake side of the dam, is there a place to park & launch without renting? I had knee surgery so walking while carrying my board, paddle, and on-water gear is extra difficult lately
I’m got a cheap $50 electric pump from Amazon and it seems fully inflated when the pump says 5 PSI… I’m so afraid of bursting my board how can it fit double 5 PSI??
What is an item you wouldn’t mind finding that someone might consider rude to leave?
I’d be okay to find a Bobby pin since I carry sanitizer and never have one when I need it, but would others think it’s gross to put hair accessories in a cache?
Oppositely, I personally don’t love finding business cards, but I respect the hustle! Does anyone actually look at the business cards left in caches?
I’m hiding some caches since my area is dry and would love ideas for items to put in the cache! (Small, like spice & pill bottle sizes)
Edit: ideas below (from comments and my ideas)
- Erasers
- Croc/Shoe charms
- keychains
-Lego Minifigs
- necklace charms
- pins
- sew-on buttons
- golf pencils
- necklace pendants
I need to have a talk with a friend (and her boyfriend, but I’m going through her cuz when I said it to him he didn’t get it) about my ex that they are still friends with and seemingly chose him, but still hit me up every few months. So we’re not super close, but close enough for this conversation I think. Idk, that’s why I’m here asking for advice.
Anyway, they know the breakup was bad, but they don’t know the extent of how he treated me. I’m not confident that they will cut him off for me, so I’m not asking them to, but I strongly feel the need to tell them about who he really is. And I know that if they do continue to hang out with him then it will hurt and I will grow resentment.
So I need to know how to do this without sounding like it’s an ultimatum, like a “if you don’t cut him off then we can’t be friends. Even if that’s the truth, I need help finding a way to say it. They already keep our hang outs separate and are delicate if they can’t avoid bringing him up, but I’ve seen photos of them inviting him to birthday parties, pool bbqs, and other larger/ important events things that they stopped inviting me to. I only hang out with them 1 on 1 now, and it hurts that even though I didn’t lose them in the “divorce” I still lost a huge part of my life. And I’m not okay with it, so I need to tell them instead of bottling it up.
How do I talk about this without making myself sound like the crazy ex trying to claim abuse and make them choose? And what does it mean that I want them to cut him off and will be devastated if they keep him in their lives?
One thing about me is that I expect my friends to choose sides in these extremely abusive situations, and if they don’t then I lose some respect for them for allowing/enabling it, or not confronting their friends about shitty behavior. This friend is the one that convinced my ex to go to therapy, so maybe they will talk, but I know my ex won’t get better and he will hurt the next girl too. And I can’t handle having friends that can stand by and watch someone wreak so much havoc on their own friend and any woman.
I had a surgery right after I left that took all my attention to recover from, it was a big surgery. As a result, I didn’t start healing from any of the emotional damage from the abuse for over a year until I bounced back from the surgery.
I destroyed a lot of friendships in that time because I was still acting as defensive and therefore toxic as I was when I was with him.
I’m now starting to mend those relationships and I can’t express how lucky I feel that some of these people are giving me another chance after I was still awful even after him.
My friends thought I was awful cuz they only saw me with him, and with him I was of course at my worst. So they had no idea that I was a good person before him. My defense mode was their normal for me.
I guess I’m venting cuz I don’t really need advice since everyone’s different. But if I want to keep these friends, and I do, then I have to completely change their minds about who I am. It just adds another layer on top of the pile shit I have to heal. I’m really tired and considering moving and starting over from scratch with people who don’t know me with him.
Dude ive never had an issue with roommates, but im losing my mind here
I (31f) live with a roommate (33m). He is gay, if that matters.
I’m up to my wits end with how loud every single bodily function is. He breathes and it sounds like he has the plague. He goes to sleep in his room with the door closed and I can still hear him snoring across the apartment through my own closed bedroom door. I turn the tv on and I can still hear him snoring or sniffing like he’s doing cocaine or something.
He’s a great roommate otherwise, but the noise pollution from a single person is starting to get to me, I can’t sleep at night anymore. How do I tell him he’s loud and ask him to be quieter (how do you make your snoring quieter??) moving out IS NOT AN OPTION