u/snootywiththebooty

Any word on anything? All of the information online is outdated! Searched this sub but nothing really mentioned either

My (30F) partner (27M) and I have been together for 4 years. He moved in with me in my home city a few months into dating, and his own home city is around an hour’s drive away.

His mum (mid 60s), dad (mid 60s), sister (30) and niece (7) live(d) in his family home, but sister has since moved out with niece. His sister immediately hated me but not relevant to this.

When I was first invited to their home, I was thrilled! I witnessed addiction and domestic violence during my own childhood, so it felt special when I realised I could join in on their family-centric activities (sit-down table dinners with conversation, board games etc).

After number of visits to their home, I thought everything was going great. Unfortunately I’m autistic and had read the whole thing wrong. They had made comments to my partner that indicated they really disliked me.

My partner distanced himself from them on account of their comments. Eventually, I confronted the situation with his parents and asked to move on. They apologised and we began to visit my partner’s home city, and his family, once again.

Long story short - they are very busy people and always out of the house. However, they have made it clear to my partner that I cannot be in the house without someone there. This means that, if my partner wants to see his friends in his city, and his parents aren’t at home (as they often aren’t), I have to leave and go somewhere until someone is home. Sometimes for 5-6 hours at a time. This wouldn’t be so much of a problem, but it’s not my city, and I have health issues that make using public restrooms very difficult.

It’s also rather strange to me, as their house is very large, and my partner’s bedroom is self-contained with an en-suite, so I have no reason, or desire to leave his room when nobody else is there. They know this, and they know I am respectful of their space, so I do find it confusing.

Today, my partner and I drove to his home city so he could attend a funeral. His parents made it known that they were leaving too, so I had to get out. It was a bit stressful as my partner had thought his mum would be home, and told me I could work from his room.

I dropped my partner off to the funeral, but didn’t have anywhere else to go while I waited, so I parked outside his house and sat in my car. His mum came home briefly, and I said “Hi, don’t worry I’m just sitting in the car while I wait to pick up partner!”, she said ok, entered and left the house within 5 minutes. At no point did she invite me to wait in the house.

I’m wondering if my partner should offer to put up a camera in their house so that I may be there when there’s no one else there? I don’t move around, am very quiet, don’t touch anything and don’t play music or anything. It’s just distressing sometimes when I’m having toilet problems and I can’t access the bathroom because nobody is at their house, and that’s where I’m staying.

Would this help or would they take offence to the suggestion? I find their behaviours very confusing, and my own parents would never make my partner leave if someone wasn’t with him in their respective houses. I’ve never experienced this before and not sure how to proceed.

Thank you!

TLDR; My boyfriend and I stay at his parents house in a different city, but they do not let me be in their house alone. This means that I have to sit in my car outside their house when my partner is busy with other commitments and his parents aren’t home. Should I offer to pay for a camera so they can see I won’t leave his room if I’m allowed to be in their house alone?

Anybody any advice for the big 30?

ETA: Thoroughly enjoying the advice, thank you. Luckily I don’t drink, and am an avid gym-goer and fitness class taker. I also eat quite well!

Long story short: F(29) based in UK. Periods of depression as a teenager and early 20s. I have bad OCD, took a tetracyclic antidepressant in 2020 and had a long period of hypomania (not recognised at the time). Took an SSRI in 2025 for OCD and had a slow-burn hypomanic episode that got me diagnosed (privately) as bipolar type II. NHS are still undertaking their assessment to clarify whether it's actually bipolar or not.

Basically, during this long-term assessment phase via NHS, I've been put on a different SSRI to treat my OCD (my main complaint). No other medication. I was fine for 2 months-ish, then started doing a tonne of tasks, took out 3 credit cards, gained £4k debt and exercised to the ends of the earth. My MH team said it seemed like hypomania but they weren't concerned about my decision-making capacity, I should continue with the medication and call them if things get worse.
That only lasted maybe 2 weeks? Then I went back to baseline. That hypomanic period was at the beginning of May (approx 1 month ago), and ceased by mid-late May.

Today I've woken up and everything is devoid of joy. I haven't experienced "depression" since my early 20s, and it was very all-encompassing for really long periods. Since this morning, everything has felt so boring and unfulfilling. I don't want to eat. I went to my favourite cafe earlier and left after 10 minutes. I don't want to do anything.

I'm concerned that I'm about to get depressed. I don't even know if I have bipolar at this stage, so any unexpected mood changes are really concerning and throwing me off. What are your signs of depression coming? I am really hoping it's just an off-day, but the difference in how I feel is SO stark that I'm really stressed about it.

Anyway, thanks in advance for any input.

Guys I feel like I’m going crazy! I’m dx Hashi’s (TPO, TgAb, ultrasound) but have never had TSH, T3 or T4 out of range.

However, I’m always absolutely FREEZING. It’s a nightmare. Brittle hair, nails that tear and rip instantly, joint pain, the works.

Doc says it’s not Hashimoto’s because my thyroid hormones are fine. Has anybody experienced this?

Long story short - I’ve tried to enquire about booking readings on multiple different occasions, with different medium and tarot providers. Each of these providers has either outright ignored (sometimes multiple) messages, or told me they’d get back in touch with availability - then ignored me when I’ve chased it up.

I’m really polite, not aggressive, not pushy and more than agreeable to all prices. I cannot see anything wrong with the way I’ve communicated. An example of a message I sent the other day to a tarot reader:

“Hey what are your prices / booking process please ? Thanks xx”

This particular message was sent as there was no available information on their social media about either answer. They’ve since posted on their Instagram stories about “dm’ing to book”, so I don’t know why my message was ignored :(

As mentioned, this has happened with 3 or 4 different providers, and all of these readers and mediums are active on social media, posting regular content about new clients.

Is this a sign from the universe or elsewhere that I shouldn’t pursue a reading?

Many thanks