u/softfallingsnow

https://x.com/ask_aubry/status/1589740607030763520

every time you need evidence as to why kink is damaging, you should bring up this case. the guy's name is Jacob Yerkes. the video went viral a while ago but its a great example of how bdsm/rape kink is actually dangerous for ALL women, and the idea that "women actually LIKE being hurt/chased/raped" is dangerous for ALL women and girls. its a video about a kinky man who was stalking and harassing an innocent woman, on top of that she was a lesbian and not even interested in him. this guy actually believed that he could "change" her and and that she actually "liked" it because "women have bdsm and rape fantasies". so he projected all of this onto an innocent uninvolved woman. that is an actual real threat to her life. thankfully the police actually took it serious for once and he was arrested, which is rare. even the police in the video said "no they don't" when he said "women actually like being chased". these ideas are actual threats to women everywhere and im tired of pretending they aren't. this guy was going to do something horrific to her. yet youll still see defenders saying "uhm statistically women ackshully like it!!"

i see a toad in the garden every now and then but i was thinking if there are ways to make it more nice for them? like a shallow pool or maybe a couple hides? i just love toads

Im wanting to make a tank with a pebble slope/beach on one side and 2 inches of water (the tank is a zoomed 25 gallon front opening)

i couldn't really find out if a zoomed front opening tank could carry all that so i emailed zoomed to ask (i know it's kind of silly lol) they said that a slope could cause uneven weight distribution but that you could use something lightweight to make the slope

so instead of just piling a bunch of pebbles should i use something else like foam or egg crate and just put the pebbles on top? would that work? i was thinking of putting a layer of egg crate in a mesh filter bag to keep the pebbles from falling through it

i'm wanting to get frogs (specifically firebelly toads) in the future, but the problem is my room has an attached bathroom and after a shower some of the steam and scent of soap comes into my room, i'm worried if this would be an issue if i kept the frogs in my room. like if they will absorb it and get harmed. if its a problem i won't get them, sorry if this is a stupid question just worrying a lot

for as long as i can remember i just never really had true faith in religion or any kind of spirituality. like i was raised Catholic (which is a whole issue in itself because i'm gay). the idea of a loving creator is a nice idea, heaven is a nice idea too, i'd like to know that my family and pets go to heaven. The idea of them just being gone forever makes me really sad and i want to believe they will be at peace somewhere. like for instance my mom has had a difficult life and if anyone deserves a heaven its her. but do i actually believe in it? I don't think i can. and then i realize wanting to be religious only for the desire for heaven to be real is probably just selfish (according to religion). obviously christianity is a lot more than sunshine and rainbows and heaven, and according to christians i wouldn't even go to heaven anyway bc i'm gay. but idk sometimes i really wish i could truly believe in this stuff. it brings peace to so many people to have faith but i just don't have faith. I'm really not a faithful person in general at all. i really wish i believed in an afterlife so i didn't have to be so scared. how do you come to terms with this stuff?

im wanting to get some firebellied toads, but they're seemingly only sold as babies, and i don't want the water level to be too high for them at that size bc i've heard they can drown. I'm having a hard time finding a filter that can run on super shallow water. does anyone know one? ive looked but it seems like most have a 2 inch minimum

i have been wanting to build a bin cage and i have a bin that is 612 square inches floorspace, how many girls could fit comfortably in that? if bigger is needed, i could definitely look for something larger

unlike small or medium breasts which are considered natural/normal anatomy of the female body, large breasts can never just exist normally

big boobs are either oversexualized, like literally just existing with large breasts is asking for sexualization and fetishization, or insulted as gross, vulgar, ugly, inappropriate, unnatural (somehow some people believe large boobs are unnatural and "inhuman"), "unrealistic", "pornographic", "gooner bait", etc.

like art for example, statues of women in a museum with small or medium breasts are elegant and beautiful, but art of large breasts is suddenly lewd and sexual??

and it seems like some people , in wanting to fight against the sexualization of women, start bashing big boobs while not understanding it's literally misogyny because we are BORN with this

like why can't it just exist as a neutral variation like anything else? it's just sad

honestly ive really been struggling with this, ive seen similar posts on this sub, i guess OCD can give some of us hyper-empathy almost?? why does this happen?

like one time i wanted to buy a cute bowl, but the one i picked up had a small chip in it, but i felt too guilty to put it back for a better one. even my friend told me to get a different one, but i literally couldn't, i was frozen. like i just felt too bad. FOR A BOWL. but the worst one is feeling bad for stuffed animals. i saw this stuffed animal with bad reviews and idk why but it literally made me cry. they were saying it didn't look like the actual animal, so it was bad. i think its cute so i ended up buying one, idk if it'll make me feel better though. i even worry about stuffed animals i had when i was really little that i dont remember where they are anymore. does anyone else relate or am i just nuts??

from what i understand lightshade is trying to replicate old character ai, a lot of people are saying it's really good, but for me it kind of gives weird replies, sometimes it makes no sense, and idk how to make it better. maybe because i'm using the free chat? because from what i understand if you use your own paid key the replies are better or something? but i'm not paying for that lol also i'm not really technically advanced to understand how it works

if you use it what are your thoughts on it?? can you train it to make better replies?