r/bigboobproblems

For extra context, I live in a major US city in a blue area. I'm not white, I'm plus sized, and I'm masc presenting (nonbinary but girlmoding).

I'm wondering if this is a generation gap issue between me (millennial) and my older relatives (gen x and boomer).

I was raised with the idea that I need to wear a bra when I go outside. Need to. It was not an option. Anything less would get me scolded.

As a teen, I once went outside in a hoodie with no bra on. It was just a quick errand in the summer so I didn't wanna pull on a bra. I figured if the issue was people looking at my chest, then the hoodie was baggy enough that no one would care. When I came home, my mom and a visiting aunt gave me a lecture. My aunt started crying iirc. She was upset and told me people would stare at me and gossip about me.

I don't get it.

Lately, I've been taking the plunge and going outside in just a t-shirt.

In all honesty, I hate bras. I want top surgery but I need to lower my BMI first. My chest is too busty that binders don't bind, trans tape/KT tape doesn't work, and sports bras are just bras. So I've given up on the idea of hiding my chest. No matter what I do, people can tell I have breasts. There's nothing I can do about it so... ̄_(ツ)_/ ̄

It doesn't matter if I go outside in a bra or in a binder. It looks the same. So, to save myself pain and heat, I'll opt to just wear a t-shirt and maybe an undershirt under it. No bra.

I can't tell if people are judging me or ogling me. No one's insulted me, that's for sure. I'm not understanding what the heck my family's problem is.

I know in the 2000s, gossip rags used to freak out whenever even a small chested celeb went braless. But is this an issue nowadays? The only thing I'm embarrassed about is nipples poking through material, and that occurs even when I wear a bra.

I imagine it's gotta be a choice between being comfortable or having support in case you have to gore a wild bore or something. I'm writing a character in a similar situation and I'd like to see what the consensus is on this among the boob-havers

EDIT:

Okay the hypothetical seems like an ultimatum, my bad, you can choose to have a bra but you'd have to make one out of the materials on-hand like a T-shirt, pants, jungle-stuff and wreckage of a vehicle. what are the considerations into making something comfortable for yourself?

I ll start, sleeveless dress one of the girlies popped out

Hey everyone! I just found this sub and I’m so thankful it exists.

I was wondering if anyone else experiences chest pain related to boobs 😭. Over the last year, I’ve noticed that around my period and ovulation, when my breasts become swollen and even heavier, I get pretty significant chest pain, especially when I’m lying down. It feels like a pulling or tugging sensation.

It first started on my left side, but over the past few months my breasts have gotten larger and heavier (without any weight gain if that info helps), and now I’m feeling the exact same pain on my right side too.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Also to add: I’ve booked an appointment with my doctor but he’s on vacation and I have to wait until the end of the month 🙃

I'm 19, and my bra size is 38DD. I've noticed that my breasts don't sit up or stand the way they seem to for a lot of other people. Is that normal, and what causes that?

I've also noticed some women with larger breasts whose breasts sit up more than mine, so I'm trying to understand what affects that. Is it mainly genetics, support, or something else?

I always thought this was something that mostly changed with age, so I'm a bit confused about what's typical.

My mother likes to look my body up and down as if she's a man, ever since my body started growing into one that didn't look like hers. She's always seen me as her mini-me, her dolly to dress up and scream at. So how dare her dolly have big ugly saggy boobs? She thinks cutting me down will make it easier to mould me nto her. And she insults me using insecurities that are actually hers. She's called me saggy and fat and old and ruined ever since puberty. Yes those exact words. Imagine calling anyone that, let alone a growing child. As well as insulting, it also doesn't make sense because apart from pedos who thinks a tween is ruined and old? Because she sees herself this way.

*But why is that my fault?????????*

I'm in my 20s now, becoming more comfortable in my skin, finding clothes that suit me, and in the summer when I am at home I wear a tank top without a bra because fuck boob sweat. It was in that outfit I drank water in the kitchen just now, and she just... watched me. And she said "you know, you shouldn't wear that maxi dress anymore (I'd just worn it to eat with her + family) because it looks childish on you while your chest looks saggy like an old lady's." I said that I'll wear what I want, and just left the room. But I wish I'd crashed out. It brought me back to every time she'd ever said that about my body.

Don't give me that "it's her first time living too 🤪🤪🤪" when she's had decades more practice than me at it. This is a grown ass woman picking on her offspring like Regina george. Pushing all her fears onto me like her little Pandora's box. Well I want to open Pandora's box. She gets to act like this and everyone excuses her in my family, and in high school even people like volunteer helplines and school counselors told me she's just blowing off steam, just ignore her, just be the bigger (boobed) person. But when I get angry and depressed about this, I'm "crazy."

And don't tell me it's gonna get better. Even though I wish it would, and have tried in various ways (but why doesn't she ever have to try, why is it me?). Cos when I'm actually older, when I'm her age and she becomes elderly, what do you imagine she'll do? Become a saint all of a sudden?

I can't believe this person is supposed to be my role model.

I wish my mother loved me for more than my body.

I want to be a nicely dressed lady at church but dresses either make me look like a huge box or like I’m a porn star, no in between.
I'd like it to be natural fibers, like cotton or linen.

Did you ever wanted to cut them with a knife so they don’t bother you anymore ? Like I prefer to not have ANY boobs than having big ones

I have a DD chest and like to sleep in sports bras for support because without it I feel very uncomfortable. The bra I currently sleep in isn’t supportive at all unfortunately. My underboob even comes out the bottom of the bra 😭I can never seem to find a well fitting sports bra to sleep in that is supportive.

Any advice is greatly appreciated

Hi- I feel kind of out of place here and I probably am- but my band is 28 inches and my bust is 34- which makes me a 28 E in UK size. How the fuck am i meant to find a bra in that size- I already struggled to find a 28 D, then a 28 DD. I don't want to have to compromise on band size just to get one that fits my cup. They also keep growing and I'm not happy about it- I had B cups for most of my teens that suddenly exploded when I was 17 and a year later and they havent stopped. I dont want to have to be paying tons of money just for a bra that fits me but I fear I might have to. Other than M&S who i am a frequenter of- any good places? Do I have any hope of finding anything pretty and not just flesh coloured?

Hi fellow big chested folks. I'm going to Europe in a few days and am a bit perplexed about my wardrobe. Since I was in elementary my chest has unfortunately been quite disproportionate to my body. However I have always refused to cover up, because regardless they're going to be there and I get attention no matter what. I also hate wearing something baggy just for the sake of modesty. And I've made peace for the most part about people being annoying.

I like to wear alot of cute classic style dresses that show off my curves, simillar to how Marilyn Monroe or Sophia Loren or Dita Von Teese would dress, however I'm concerned that as a female solo traveler it's going to be difficult or unsafe. I just wanted to hear some personal experiences or advice. Its super hot there right now and I would really really hate to wear something frumpy on the trip of my dreams just cause men and sometimes women can't act normal. I'm going to Italy, France, and England if that helps give some context.

I’ve always heard that wearing a bra does not prevent your breasts from sagging but also that working out without a supportive sports bra will damage the Cooper’s ligaments and lead to sagging. So which is it?

Pls help

Am I just gonna have to buy bigger bras and get them altered or what?

I’ve just been and tried about 10 bras all in different styles and shapes. None of them fit properly. It’s hard enough being small band big cup and struggling to find bras with these sizes anyway, but I don’t even actually fit in them. One of my boobs is bigger than the other by, clearly, quite a bit.

The comfiest bra that we tried was a 30G (UK). Previously I’ve been wearing 30F and 30FF bras. Even the 30G I had issues with, the centre gore doesn’t sit flush against my sternum, it sits against the bigger breast and rubs uncomfortably, and it always creates pain for me. Going up to GG or up the band size causes gaping.

What am I even supposed to do at this point other than get a reduction 😕 I had to leave the bra shop because I was getting upset, and I’ve been crying ever since. I just hate my body. I’m sick of being told by others they wish they had this problem. Nothing is comfortable and I feel so ugly.

10 weeks pp and breastfeeding here. I'm a GG cup and honestly every nursing bra I've tried has been a letdown - either the cups don't go big enough, there's zero support, or it's just uncomfortable within an hour of wearing it.

is this just me or is this a universal nursing bra problem for anyone busty? starting to feel like I'm asking for too much lol

if anyone's found something that actually works I would love to know. also curious what people wish existed but doesn't

thanks in advance, feeling a bit over bra shopping at this point 😩