I know that Quakers generally reject religious symbolism, but are Quakers (particularly Liberal Quakers) likely to object to any form of bead prayer in meetings or even just knowing that I do it? I was brought into the Church in Anglican and Anglo-Catholic circles and bead prayer like the rosary etc. has really helped my prayer life. Any advice on this? Thank you !!
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I'd heard of QPRs before but I never really understood them and I still don't fully which is why I would greatly appreciate advice for my situation.
There is a girl I have known for a few months and I had developed a crush on her in the allonormative sense that I am used to. The issue is, I am 20 and she just turned 27. Maybe I'm problematic for this or just young and dumb and can't see the perspective, but I am fine with this age gap. I haven't disclosed my feelings to her but I know for a fact she is not open to date anyone under 25.
I tried for about a month to get over her, but recently I came to the realisation that I love her. I have only ever truly loved one other person like this. It is qualitatively different from other romantic/sexual feelings I have had toward anyone else in my life.
She and I have an absurd number of things in common, most importantly that we are both Christian transfems (the progressive kind), which is a rare and complicated combination of attributes to possess. We get almost all of each other's references and share many niche interests. I was looking at her bookshelf yesterday and almost every book was something I had either already read or am keenly interested in reading.
She's a very complicated person. She appears to be nonmonogamous at the moment, but has been engaged to someone in the past and seems to have had numerous traditional relationships that ended somewhat disastrously. She may also have some trauma and disorders that I do not feel it would be appropriate to go into specifics about but I feel it's relevant to mention.
I have had one long term traditional relationship, have a body count of 2 if that's at all relevant, I have been to college, been in the workforce, and know many people with the kind of neurodivergence she seems to also possess. The only things I haven't done that she has done is move out or get engaged. All this combined with the fact that we grew up on a lot of the same media makes me feel like we're the same age. Evidently she doesn't feel that way.
While I am theoretically sexually attracted to her, I am also a sex-neutral asexual and entirely willing to forgo sex. It is secondary, trivial to me. I do very much long for physical affection with her though, like cuddling, hand-holding, kisses on the cheek, that sort of thing.
TL;DR Would it be irresponsible or otherwise problematic for me to pursue a QPR with this person who is 6 and a half years older than me? (I'm 20).