Unfortunately I have solid evidence that nearly every woman that posts here is being unicorn hunted and propositioned.

There are MANY subs for that sort of thing. If women want to join some grubby couple or have threesomes, this is NOT the sub for that anymore. Reddit is littered with porn subs and poly subs and swinger subs. Most of those subs are overrun by porn bots and brainrotted men and there is good reason for that. It's because those subs are nothing but sexual ego and they quickly devolve into nothing more than paid peepshows.

Well guess what, this sub is not that. This sub is for INTENTIONAL relationships only. And no, your "biblical polygyny fantasy" is not intentional.

I know some true poly people have good healthy intentions, but those are rare to be honest and it becomes IMPOSSIBLE for a mod to distinguish.

Therefore, I am instituting a new rule. You are not welcome here. If you are caught posting or sliding into our users DMs, you will be perma-banned. That includes any flavor of poly, swinging, ENM, or just outright cheating.

Rule 9 has been amended accordingly.

Rule 9: No cheaters. No polyamory. No ENM. No hookups. No swinging. No perverts. No sexual propositions.

I am asking women members to please report people by screenshotting bad behavior and messaging the mod mail. ANY version of solicitation, not just swingers should be reported.

mods

u/sourisanon

u/just-the-teep

u/trippytab

mod mail
https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=r/ruralR4R

^((Please don't ban me if this is against the rules, I read them and it seems ok.))

I'm a homesteader myself and thought reddit needed an R4R that focused on country living and those that yearned to move out of the cities. As you all know, there are many fewer people out here and many fewer opportunities to meet folks (my local town has 1 bar and 1 coffee shop which are both closed most of the time)

So I created r/ruralR4R which I believe is still the most wholesome dating sub on Reddit.

This subreddit is not in competition with homesteading or any specific sub. It's the only one dedicated to romantic connections of people, so I hope you guys don't think I'm trying to siphon your users.

Right now, we have 3k members, up from 800 at the beginning of this year and have 1k active daily users. It's a great place to meet people who have similar homesteading dreams or are looking for the piece of land to call forever home.

I'm inviting you all to join. Also looking for additional mods. Hope to see you there

^((btw I am NOT profiting from this in any way, it's purely a labor of love on my part.))

That was always the intention of this sub. It seems in my absence a few other subreddits may have imploded (tradwife/poly/and various hookup subs) and some how all those users found this subreddit.

Whatever the reason, I have spent the last 4 hours 8 hours removing and banning people while trying to be somewhat understanding. But let me say this clearly. This Subreddit was NEVER intended to be a mindless hookup subreddit.

From now on I am going to INSTA-ban any user (male or female) who has a post history that is mostly trying to have sex, looking at porn, or similarly brain rotted. I am especially keen to ban men who are cheating on their wives and women who are seeking validation with naked pictures. It goes without saying that content makers are also insta-banned.

You are NOT welcome in this sub unless you are intentionally dating OR have a need to meet people in a rural setting. I don't give af if your wife "gave you permission",

If there are any people who want to help me mod, please let me know.

The goal is to be the MOST WHOLESOME and MOST INTENTIONAL of all the R4Rs on reddit. Real people with real goals.

finally, after seeing so many dick pics in the last few hours, I promise I am not in the mood to argue if you received a temporary ban. Don't try me.

/endpost

When I started this subreddit, the main idea was to keep it wholesome. That's the overarching rule that should guide you when participating here. ALWAYS KEEP THAT IN MIND!

Here are my notes from the cleanup I had to do.

1. Philandering, cheating on your spouse and kids IS NOT WHOLESOME (I am very concerned the marine dude openly cheating on his wife had so much engagement, like wtf ladies??)

2. Using reddit as a masturbatory aid. NOT WHOLESOME. I'm really really tired of looking at your deformed naked bodies in post histories.

3. Selling content NOT WHOLESOME

4. Baiting users for engagement (beyond the expectations of an r4r subreddit obviously) NOT WHOLESOME

5. Polyamory, polygyny, ENM, swinging etc. I'm not here to judge your lifestyle but most of the users on r/polyamory are gross. Trust me I know from experience. And most people on reddit are just fantasizing. It becomes impossible for me to make a mod distinction. For now, I'm asking people to not post these. This isn't a sex subreddit and it certainly isnt a harem building subreddit.

6. Tradwife-ism. Look it's complicated.

Every man wants a woman who wears sundresses 24/7, has perfect hair in the morning, and waits for you with an apple pie every day. And plenty of women like stability, structure and family that comes with that life. Somewhere in that overlapping universe tradwife fantasy became a thing. I won't ban you for touching this subject but please don't make this the core of your post. It makes men sound brainrotted and it makes women sound fake.

7. This is r/ruralR4R! Not houseslaveR4R,not BDSMr4r, not agegapR4R, not hornygrandpasR4R

8. Comments. FFS keep them wholesome. If you think someone is too short, old, young, fat, ugly or whatever, keep it to yourself and move on. Nobody needs to be DM'd with negativity. That will get you warned or banned.

9. PLEASE UPVOTE. UPVOTE! UPVOTE! Don't just upvote the ones you like, upvote the ones you don't like. It takes guts to post, especially with pictures. Nobody (not even me and I'm handsome af) is everyone's cup of tea. Everyone has haters. Upvote them anyways. Especially upvote the normal people. I see so many posts from people who seem genuine and don't have flashy pics or smooth words that are ignored.

10. Politics. Here's the thing, in the US, most rural/agro based communities lean conservative/republican. It's an unfortunate fact of life. Most people aren't crazy brainrotted enough to make their whole post about their political affiliations. The reality is that most rural people don't give a crap about national politics unless you really press them. I humbly suggest most of you would do better to not talk politics until after the 3rd date.

But as long as you don't start/flame a culture war in the subreddit, I won't ban your post. (Only something like claiming affiliation with a terrorist militia (ie proudboys/kkk/etc) will get you banned outright)

11. Cross Posting / Share Posting. Please dont do it. It hurts engagement for the sub. It leads people to other subs and the votes and comments dont get shared. Also if they lock or ban your post, I can't do anything with it here. Just post here first if you must.

12. Sometimes you're just horny. I get it. It's called being human. But if 99% of your reddit is porn or trying to get laid, why do you think you deserve to be on this subreddit? I'm trying really hard to keep the brainrot users to a minimum and lots of times that line isn't perfectly clear. I would tend to favor users seeking actual relationships over validation and/or reddit sex. But remember, this is a WHOLESOME sub. You can't honesty come here as if it's a thanksgiving table and not wash your jizzy hands before you dig into the meal (ok I took that analogy too far but I hope you understand). In other words, your post history matters.

13. I have instituted several new rules as part of the cleanup. Rule 9 (no cheaters, pervs, ENM) Rule 10 (no low effort posts)

Sorry there is no way to ask without sounding brainrotted. My last post was removed cause it "wasnt a question". Sorry if this sounds too sexual, I am legit trying to get female perspectives on this without inviting brain rot.

Here's the backstory that has me questioning. I've been sexually active for a long long time. So not my first rodeo. I thought I had it figured out a long time ago that bumping and pushing the cervix was not exactly a pleasureable thing for most women. Some even reported to me that it kinda hurts or feels uncomfortable.

Recently was with a woman who actively made it happen. Maybe it was the novelty for her that made it pleasureable?

My guess is it has more to do with the eroticism/pleasure of feeling "filled" than it actually feeling good.

This got me a little confounded about the topic. Figured it wouldnt hurt to ask.

Please dont say anything brain-rotted in your replies.

thanks

[46M 261lbs->229lbs]

I took a break in my body recomp routine that had me lose 32 lbs AND gain significant muscle in only 9weeks.

I had significant gains in all my lifts during this time. (Below are 3x8 rep sets)

Bench 155->205

squat 135->235

incline curls 25->35

preacher curls 20->30

and a few other classic (RDLs, skull crushers, inverted pull ups, etc)

I havent been able to do pull ups my whole adult life, even when I was around 200lbs. During this routine, I could never complete one pullup, barely even move myself up. At the end of my 9 weeks, I STILL COULD NOT DO A PULLUP. I literally tried every day.

But then I stopped it all. I stopped dieting. I stopped working out. Just took a break. About 4 weeks later I've gained back some weight (about 7 lbs of fat, lost some lifting gains)

.... and then I tried a pull-up ...... and like a miracle... it happened. Then I did another one.

Over hand, twice. Then I did a underhand chin up. So that's 3.

i tried a wide grip and failed.

I have no idea why taking a break like this worked or helped. But I think it goes to show you the power of true recovery. My body recomp worked beautifully and now I'm about to start my next routine/recomposition. AND I CAN FINALLY INCLUDE PULLUPS!!!

How different are whey protein powders anywhey?

Any decent alternatives? Looking for low cal, high protein. (I'm not bulking).

it was $60 two weeks ago.... thats 33% price increase.