u/stelliarsheep

i've been on effexor for about 3 months now and before starting, i was warned by doctor to absolutely not drink or smoke weed in ANY amount, otherwise there will be consequences. however, i went to a party more recently, snuck in four shots of a buzzball, and smoked a little weed, and was perfectly fine. no hangover, just a little buzzed for an hour or two...

i know effexor and other anti-depressants affect people differently, and everyone will have different side effects, but in my case would y'all say it's safe to drink/smoke occasionally and recreationally with friends or should i avoid it entirely because it might hurt my body or something? i've always been extremely heavyweight and rarely get hangovers or even super tipsy easily, so i feel safe to have a little bit of something to drink without getting totally wasted or hurt... I just want to be sure and know if it is actually dangerous and I should stop,

i just feel bad disobeying my doctor, even though i feel perfectly fine. i just know doctors tend to suggest not doing anything of the sort because they're legally required to give warnings, even if side effects don't affect everyone who takes a prescribed medication. i'm on 225mg and am still a bit weary about things.

EDIT: thanks for the tips and information. i will speak to my doctor before smoking or drinking again, and will be careful when i do.

my boyfriend and i have been together in a long distance relationship for about 7 months now, and the first few months were wonderful. we met online, and fell in love rather quickly. but my boyfriend has been struggling with his mental health, and he's experienced a lot of horrible, traumatic things recently. he used to be easy to talk to, and we used to have conversations for hours, and call every day, often non-stop. but the past few weeks, things have changed.

he's a lot more dejected and quiet, whiny when he does talk and doesn't really seem to respond to messages like he used to. he used to comment on every little thing i sent him, like videos that made me think of him or things i've been up to, but now every time we talk, it's just to ask me to call for comfort, brushing anything i said aside. and these calls are exhausting. i'm usually the only one talking, and he barely says a thing. i make all the decisions, i do everything just to make him feel less alone. but i have mental health struggles like he does too, and doing this every time we call is just so incredibly draining for me. it's just led to me feeling alone instead, despite someone being on the other end.

any time i accidentally break a promise or make a mistake, he completely shuts down and loses trust in me for a bit. i have been making efforts to get out of the house despite disability and depression that pulls me into a pit of despair so often, so i haven't always been able to fulfill everything he wants, and every time i say or do even some little thing that makes him uncomfortable or upset, he recoils and i don't know what to do.

i understand that he is going through a horrible time in his life, but i don't know if i'm happy in this relationship anymore. i want to have a future with him, i still love him very dearly and hope to meet him someday, but i can't keep being the only thing to cheer him up. my cheering up doesn't even work anymore. i feel such a heavy weight on my shoulders to be positive around him, and he is just so stubborn about everything and shuts down anything positive or uplifting i say and i can't take it anymore. i don't know what i would do without him, but sometimes i feel like i'm talking to a brick wall instead of my own partner. he used to draw things for me, say romantic and flirty gestures, send me funny memes or cute cat videos in my sleep for me to wake up to, crack corny jokes that would make me laugh and comment on how pretty my laugh is, and say how much he loved me, but he hasn't drawn anything for me in months (yet drew things for his friends) and just says he relies on me for basically everything because i'm the only person in his life that seems to love him in his eyes. he rarely says anything to me anymore.

i don't want to break up with him, he is a wonderful person who is just going through a lot and can't get help due to personal reasons, but i can't do this anymore. i used to look forward to calling him, i used to feel comfortable and safe going to him about my troubles, i used go go to him when i was sad and imagine us curled up together and he would comfort me while i cried, but now i dread talking to him at all :(

i don't know what to do ...

i had to shave my head a few months ago because of how bad my hair pulling was becoming, since i had a huge bald spot on the back of my head. my scalp is still healing, so i need to keep my hair short, not only so i don't pull it out, but also so all my hair grows back evenly. shaving my head has made me a lot more insecure than i thought it would, and i often feel ugly because of it. i've started to think about styling and wearing wigs while my hair grows back, but i feel almost tacky for doing so.

i have a lot of cosplay wigs, and it'd be fun to style a blonde wig i have and dye raccoon stripes in it (since i'm scene and loveeee raccoon stripes).. but i wanted to know if anyone here has done the same thing? just wearing a wig in general, doesn't have to be a crazy wig like me. i just want to feel pretty again :')

i'm a 21 year old person with a vagina who struggles to pleasure themself. i feel so embarrassed just talking about this but it makes me so frustrated that i can't masturbate without my hands getting tired so quickly or my bottom bits getting sore for a long while after, even when i barely did much to myself. i can't use just my fingers because it puts a lot of strain on my wrist and arm, so i absolutely have to use toys. but after about 5-10 minutes of use, especially when i'm about to climax, that arousal turns into frustration, because my hand hurts too much to go further.

i am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, and when we were intimate together in call once, i started to struggle to do so and had to embarrassingly tell him i was out of it and couldn't do more. he was really understanding about it but it still bothers me. what will happen when we eventually have sex? what if i get so tired from barely doing anything and ruin the moment?

being a sexually curious adult with fibromyalgia is just a fucking nightmare. i just want to feel good, but how can i do that when it hurts so bad :( i can barely do anything with my hands for almost an hour after 10 minutes of masturbating...

i am currently trying to play a game (specifically a friday night funkin' mod update that released a while ago), and while all other older versions of this game seemed to work, this update doesn't, and the game crashes whenever i load it through wine and gives an error. i've used whisky (as that is what i've used in the past) and tested it through playonmac and sikarugir and the same crash occurs. is there a way to get this shader to work or to bypass the error to turn off shaders in the settings of the game itself (which is an option) or is this just a lost cause?

i'm using an M1 macbook air, but others I know trying to play this update have reported the same crash on their mac devices as well.

https://preview.redd.it/8m72it5adsxg1.png?width=2076&format=png&auto=webp&s=23e1784c76348042eee94403dfaf297b8d7e56f5

i am currently trying to play a game (specifically a friday night funkin' mod update that released yesterday), and while all other older versions of this game seemed to work, this update doesn't, and the game crashes whenever i load it through wine and gives an error. i've used whisky (as that is what i've used in the past) and tested it through playonmac and crossover (using a free trial as i don't have the money to buy it right now) and the same crash occurs. is there a way to get this shader to work or to bypass the error to turn off shaders in the settings of the game itself (which is an option) or is this just a lost cause?

i'm using an M1 macbook air, but others I know trying to play this update have reported the same crash on their mac devices as well.

https://preview.redd.it/8m72it5adsxg1.png?width=2076&format=png&auto=webp&s=23e1784c76348042eee94403dfaf297b8d7e56f5