my life will be ending around January 5th 2027. it’s true!
before that happens i want to know what are the most life-altering, amazing books (i don’t have genre prefaces) that are out there? a top 5 list?
i want to read them all this year before i go!
simply because i know i’ll never have children, even though i desperately want them. so it hurts to see children being so cute and adorable and not immediately imagining my kid potentially being that way then the realization hitting my like a brick wall — i will literally never have children. lmao.
Hello, I’m Norah.
I am seeking what the title says — love!
About me:
I’m a 23-year-old NEET/homebody living in North Carolina. I’m black, around 5’5, and overweight (technically obese). so, I’m not conventionally attractive.
i’m also FA (foreveralone) / a KHHV which is short for ‘kissless, hugless, handholdlsss, virgin’ - i’ve never done anything remotely romantic or sexual with another person.
I’ve spent most of my life severely sheltered, so I have very little real-world experience; I’ve never drink, smoked anything, or anything adjacent!
I’m agnostic, so not super religious. I’m a left-leaning feminist and a bit outspoken. I also have Aspergers (high functioning autism).
I think I have a decent personality, a bit reserved at first but once comfortable i’m open!
I also love love love film, reading, and music of all kinds.
What I’m looking for:
Someone older than 23. An intellect / fellow cinephile who genuinely loves film
Looks and race don’t matter to me. What matters is connection and shared interests.
Distance is important: I’d heavily prefer you live somewhere between South Carolina and New Jersey (give or take), close enough that meeting up could actually happen one day. Same time zone too, so no non-Americans please.
Please open your dms about yourself — who you are, where you’re from, what you do for work (if you have a job) or with your time, your interests, and what you look like. You don’t have to send a photo right away if you’re shy. I totally understand, because I’m shy about that too, but just describe.
men who’re average (or slightly below) looks, job, everything, are usually more interesting when they don’t call themselves incels. i see it when i post on any adjacent incel/FA subreddit. the guys who message me are regular enough, nothing special, but there is nothing else there either. no favorite movies, no books, no real thoughts on anything outside their own loneliness. their only interest/hobby is unironically finding a woman. that is the whole shape of it. if a guy is willing to rush things with someone he already knows is femcel, if he is ready to settle for an ugly girl just to stop being alone, then he probably does not have much going on inside. the average men who don’t label themselves losers have the same tastes as me. they are funnier, sharper, and easier to talk to. they just would never date me because they inherently have ‘better’ taste. it’s exhausting talking to someone whose entire personality is being alone or playing video games. they don’t know about art or books or what is happening in the world. nothing. when you talk to a guy who is exactly as attractive as the incel one (not very) but doesn’t see himself that way, he usually is simply more interesting. the difference is he dates prettier girls.
that is the main gap between femcel spaces and incel spaces to me. the women in femcel spaces still have interests. when girls dm me it is rarely just about how lonely she is or her dream of a husband and kids. we actually talk about other things. the conversation exists outside femcel stuff or it exists within it then swiftly changes. the men are NOT like that. their interest starts and ends with making you their girlfriend as fast as possible, before they even know who you are. ask what their hobbies are and it circles right back to you.
i want a guy with real interests, but they don’t exist in my realm. the normal ones with actual tastes are busy with beautiful girls, or at least girls prettier than me. the paradox sits there and makes me worry i will actually be alone forever.
i am a neet with a terrible home life. most of my day is just maladaptive daydreaming to escape it all. still, i can tell you my favorite director, my favorite book that i’ve read this year, what i think about whatever political mess is going on. the self-proclaimed incel guys have almost nothing. maybe they will mirror your opinions back if they think it will get them closer to having you, but that’s it.
i don’t know. it just sucks that i can’t find a guy who even knows who todd solondz is, and who is also attracted to me. most of them only seem to care about video games or whatever.
these girls are so beautiful to me and they usually have kind of deepish voices which adds to their mousy cute features. it’s like idk. it’s perfect.
i literally fantasize looking like this, or some version of it, and posting selfies and tiktoks all day. i kind of feel like so intense about it that it’s almost like a “transness” of some sort. like, if there was a surgery where i could go in and come out looking like that (and sounding like that) i’d get it almost immediately, no matter the cost, and then i’d truly be living life.
but alas, i’m a fat ugly black girl with a gross voice so that obviously won’t be possible. lol
they’re inherently settling. knowing that there’s always prettier, more fit, more mentally sound, happier women. knowing i’m their last choice.
i probably will never have the guy, the marriage, and the baby but even if i do somehow get a guy, he’s settling. and that hurts me. i would love if i was someones first-choice but i know i’m not.
it’s truely lose-lose when you’re an ugly POS. lol
anyone feel the same?
Hello, I’m Norah.
[PLEASE READ ENTIRE POST BEFORE PRIVATE MESSAGING]
I’m a Black girl, around 5’5, overweight, autistic, and living in North Carolina. I’m not conventionally attractive, and I’m not going to pretend I am.
I’ve spent most of my life pretty sheltered, so I’m a NEET with very little real-world experience. I’d like to change that, slowly, with someone who understands where I’m coming from.
Looks and race don’t matter much to me but i’m only open to anyone older than 23.
What does matter is that you’re into similar things. I’ve been really into film, music, and books for all of my life basically because that’s what I had growing up, and I’d love to talk about interesting, offbeat stuff.
You absolutely must love films or read consistently, this is a REQUIREMENT!
My favorites include the film Welcome to the Dollhouse (My fav director is Todd Solondz), the book Blood Meridian, and authors like Bret Easton Ellis and Ottessa Moshfegh.
Distance is important. I’d heavily prefer if you lived somewhere between South Carolina and New Jersey, give or take, close enough that meeting up could actually happen one day. Same time zone just makes sense. (unless you’re a woman)
THAT MEANS NO NON-AMERICANS!
(unless you’re a woman)
I think I have a decent personality once you get to know me, even if I can come off a little quiet or grumpy at first. If you’re someone who actually thinks about the media you consume and wants to share that with another media nerd, I’d love to hear from you. :)
Please OPEN with telling me a bit about yourself; NAME, AGE, LOCATION — what you do for work or with your time, your interests, what you look like, etc. You don’t have to send a photo right away if you’re shy. Just describe what you look like for now. I totally understand because I’m shy about that too.
I’m least likely to not reply to random “hey’s” and “hi’s” or any other one word or two word replies!