u/sweetone18888

I really need validation if I’m honest. And encouragement. But not toxic positivity that dismisses the emotion there…

I’m so distraught😩😩😭😭😭. I’ve always really struggled at school and my undergraduate actually got kicked out of school and I had to reapply. I always struggle to know what I wanted to do with my life and shortly towards the end of my undergraduate, I decided to pursue psychology and pursue to become a therapist. I already was a part of one masters program for counseling Capella. It just wasn’t a fit for me and now I finally found another program that I love and I started it this year. It’s a summer cohort program. It started in May and the first semester ended now in August, but I’m so behind in schoolwork. I have time to give it in until the 28th but I’m just so disappointed.

This year I got my autism diagnosis literally February 18 and from there on I didn’t know anything about autism really and from there on I unfortunately hit a really bad autistic burnout mid semester. . .

So bad I had thoughts of ending for weeks and I had developed issues, taking care of myself that I still have now too, and the worst part about it all is I didn’t know I was in autistic burnout. I blamed it on the psychiatric medication adjustment which part it was to, but I didn’t even know what a meltdown felt like or shut down even tho now in hindsight I know like I’ve had them on my life, but I didn’t know what they were so one point I started to feel really scared during those weekss where I thought about ending because I didn’t understand what was happening with me.

Finally caught up about a month before the semester ended to realize that I’m in autistic burnout and I think I had at one point gotten out of it and then falling back into it once again as a result of medication but also just not understanding myself at all and now I have to take a year off from school because if I push school again, I’ll just fall into a deeper burnout.

And I feel like my heart is breaking… because you gotta understand I’m finally pursuing something I love and once again, my mental health is causing issues 🥹😭 For a long time I didn’t know it was ADHD or autism now I do and unfortunately, there’s still a lot of undoing of self sabotage and beating myself up for not meeting Neurotypical standards but you know all of that doesn’t disappear just because you get a diagnosis or just because you’re finally pursuing your passion…

I already started building bonds with the people in my program. We were gonna be in every class together for the rest of the program. I don’t know. I just feel really distressed. Heartbroken about it and really wish things were different and confused if I can make it and become a therapist one day really with these conditions🫥😪🤕😵‍💫😓😓🫠

Feel free to message me personally, but also please just write your story below what you need help with below like it is such a corner on top of ready being in a corner having AUDHD and then on top of that having the experience of being black in America

HII NYC AUDHD PPL WHERE YALL AT? Let’s make plans to hang! 🗽

Before I start, I would like whoever responds the first validate what I’m feeling you know share what you think and then if you had advice to give then you can give it, but I am just so frustrated

I found out I had autism (Asperger’s) February 18 this year ( had adhd diagnosis since 2025) also in the beginning of year I was on guanfacine XR which took me into hypoarousal and then from there to be honest I was hopping around to different psychiatric and peas or doctors because I just felt like no one really knew how to help me and even now I’m with a psychiatric MP and she has dealt with a lot of emotional dysregulation and children and so I hope that she can help me and guide me but it’s just been such a frustrating process because now it’s been all up to me really and just researching

I’m in graduate school now. I have been since May. I only work two days a week as a clerk and a labor and delivery department, but it’s so loud and noisy and my nervous system has just been out of whack. I think I’m definitely burnt out. I am now on the guanfacine only in the evenings I take .5 2 times once early evening second late evening we are going to add in the stimulant but right now my nervous system is kind of volatile so we’re waiting, but I’m just so frustrated because now I’m burnt out

I’m also frustrated because I have no one to talk to about this. My family doesn’t understand completely. My friends don’t understand my community and church. Don’t really understand it. Very few people that do understand and they themselves are going through a lot and I also just feel like a burden when I’m talking to them and there’s very a few people that just understand experience of having autism and ADHD in my life and it’s been such a isolating experience feeling burnt out and no one to talk to you about it with really

I’m just so incredibly frustrated and exhausted and just want it all to stop. I don’t wanna have any of these conditions no more. It’s really put me in this corner where not only am I still juggling all the different demands of life but also emotionally struggling to process it cause I don’t have people where to talk to really I did find a recent AUDHD therapist. And I hope to start with her soon, but I don’t make enough money. My mental health has a bit strong enough for me to be able to work a lot especially with school too. The first fee I’ll have to pay is $130 which I plan to try my best to pay my next paycheck

My birthday is next week and I just know I’m already gonna cry that day. I’ve never felt this isolated in my life and I kind of wish I could go back to when I didn’t know even though before it wasn’t much better I was still depressed for days back to back and then I would come out of my shell and that would happen like 2 to 3 times a month in the past but I’m not depressed necessarily right now I am kind of. It’s just all the executive dysfunction the sensory sensitivities from just having audhd and shifting psych medication, making me like a Kermit in a in a shell.

I don’t know. I just need to talk to somebody and I feel like I’m not alone.

Before I start, I would like whoever responds the first validate what I’m feeling you know share what you think and then if you had advice to give then you can give it, but I am just so frustrated

I found out I had autism February 18 this year ( had adhd diagnosis since 2025) also in the beginning of year I was on guanfacine XR which took me into hypoarousal and then from there to be honest I was hopping around to different psychiatric and peas or doctors because I just felt like no one really knew how to help me and even now I’m with a psychiatric MP and she has dealt with a lot of emotional dysregulation and children and so I hope that she can help me and guide me but it’s just been such a frustrating process because now it’s been all up to me really and just researching

I’m in graduate school now. I have been since May. I only work two days a week as a clerk and a labor and delivery department, but it’s so loud and noisy and my nervous system has just been out of whack. I think I’m definitely burnt out. I am now on the guanfacine only in the evenings I take .5 2 times once early evening second late evening we are going to add in the stimulant but right now my nervous system is kind of volatile so we’re waiting, but I’m just so frustrated because now I’m burnt out

I’m also frustrated because I have no one to talk to about this. My family doesn’t understand completely. My friends don’t understand my community and church. Don’t really understand it. Very few people that do understand and they themselves are going through a lot and I also just feel like a burden when I’m talking to them and there’s very a few people that just understand experience of having autism and ADHD in my life and it’s been such a isolating experience feeling burnt out and no one to talk to you about it with really

I’m just so incredibly frustrated and exhausted and just want it all to stop. I don’t wanna have any of these conditions no more. It’s really put me in this corner where not only am I still juggling all the different demands of life but also emotionally struggling to process it cause I don’t have people where to talk to really I did find a recent AUDHD therapist. And I hope to start with her soon, but I don’t make enough money. My mental health has a bit strong enough for me to be able to work a lot especially with school too. The first fee I’ll have to pay is $130 which I plan to try my best to pay my next paycheck

My birthday is next week and I just know I’m already gonna cry that day. I’ve never felt this isolated in my life and I kind of wish I could go back to when I didn’t know even though before it wasn’t much better I was still depressed for days back to back and then I would come out of my shell and that would happen like 2 to 3 times a month in the past but I’m not depressed necessarily right now I am kind of. It’s just all the executive dysfunction the sensory sensitivities from just having audhd and shifting psych medication, making me like a Kermit in a in a shell.

I don’t know. I just need to talk to somebody and I feel like I’m not alone.

. Anyone who’s been diagnosed since they’re young with both can join too Or even anyone wanna join a WhatsApp for women with adhd and autism in nyc . We could like share encouraging content, articles, research, helpful tips, and know each other a little bit more intimately, kind of like a communal support, kind of vibe. I’m so tired of trying to find community that understands what I’m going through and then you have to pay like $200 for each group therapy session like please. Like what the hell did y’all see the price of gas?😭😭😭 mind you I’m not even looking for group therapy. That’s not what this will be. I just want genuine community lol i’m exhausted. I’d rather keep therapy as therapy and on the separate to tha crear actual intimate community. I’m not just looking for more therapy lol I already have that and a coach

Message me privately, and I’ll start creating a WhatsApp!

All right, so hear me out I’ve been learning a lot about how a lot of the burnout that we could feel is actually from the autism side all right and I would definitely encourage you to research what is autistic burnout if you don’t know anything about it. But one of the main things I’ve been learning from what they share is it’s not just taking a nap or a break. We need more moments in our day in our week scheduled unscheduled where are just BEING. We are just in our essence. Maybe we’re just walking in a park without our phones just enjoying the scenery not any demands from you. You have nothing that you need to DO. That’s the most important part. How many times do we wake up in the morning and the first thing we think about is all the things that we need to do for the day that is fine. We all have very busy liars however I’ve been learning that we need to when we wake up we need at least an hour or two of just being able to be and do things that bring you joy or just relax you that has no demand to talk to it absolutely no demand or has any end goal to it? It’s not solution focus nothing like that. It needs to be just you and a fun activity you and nature, you and God or whatever spiritual practice you do or just you staring at a blank wall if that’s what you really need with your weighted blanket you have no hobbies find one think about when you were a kid and things you enjoy doing and just go back to it even if you’re not sure that will be your hobby like that’s literally it and also to recover properly in the evening. You also need two hours prior to bed of just BEING. That no doing no don’t wake up straight up and think oh what do I have to do today? Don’t go before you go to bed. Be doing a whole bunch of stuff just BE. No demands no end goal just you’re very essence in the present moment enjoying something relaxing with something and that could very much be useful on your phone, but you gotta carry your content and give yourself a limit with that and then make sure you do things off of your phone as well. You know, cause I could tire you out as well.

I would love to know you guys thoughts. I was literally diagnosed with autism February 18, 2026. So I’m Hella new

I’ve been doing it now for like the past week and I’ve noticed a big difference for sure ..another HUGE step FOR RELIEF FROM BURNOUT BESIDES MEDICATION IS would be to super simplify your entire life which I had ChatGPT help me do and I encourage you to do the same. Just tell them diagnosis and tell it to simplify your life tell it everything and it will do it

All right, so hear me out I’ve been learning a lot about how a lot of the burnout that we could feel is actually from the autism side all right and I would definitely encourage you to research what is autistic burnout if you don’t know anything about it. But one of the main things I’ve been learning from what they share is it’s not just taking a nap or a break. We need more moments in our day in our week scheduled unscheduled where are just BEING. We are just in our essence. Maybe we’re just walking in a park without our phones just enjoying the scenery not any demands from you. You have nothing that you need to DO. That’s the most important part. How many times do we wake up in the morning and the first thing we think about is all the things that we need to do for the day that is fine. We all have very busy liars however I’ve been learning that we need to when we wake up we need at least an hour or two of just being able to be and do things that bring you joy or just relax you that has no demand to talk to it absolutely no demand or has any end goal to it? It’s not solution focus nothing like that. It needs to be just you and a fun activity you and nature, you and God or whatever spiritual practice you do or just you staring at a blank wall if that’s what you really need with your weighted blanket you have no hobbies find one think about when you were a kid and things you enjoy doing and just go back to it even if you’re not sure that will be your hobby like that’s literally it and also to recover properly in the evening. You also need two hours prior to bed of just BEING. That no doing no don’t wake up straight up and think oh what do I have to do today? Don’t go before you go to bed. Be doing a whole bunch of stuff just BE. No demands no end goal just you’re very essence in the present moment enjoying something relaxing with something and that could very much be useful on your phone, but you gotta carry your content and give yourself a limit with that and then make sure you do things off of your phone as well. You know, cause I could tire you out as well.

I would love to know you guys thoughts. I was literally diagnosed with autism February 18, 2026. So I’m Hella new

I’ve been doing it now for like the past week and I’ve noticed a big difference for sure ..another HUGE step FOR RELIEF FROM BURNOUT BESIDES MEDICATION IS would be to super simplify your entire life which I had ChatGPT help me do and I encourage you to do the same. Just tell them diagnosis and tell it to simplify your life tell it everything and it will do it