u/swirly0654

Welp like the title says. My financial sponsor owns a private business and already had 4 dependents. He was to sponsor my husbands visa. Even though his income was around 100k, he was disqualified as a sponsor at the interview at the Seoul Embassy, after the officer went back and forth for some time considering. We got a blue letter 221(g), asking us to find new sponsor within 10 days. The officer mentioned ideally that this new person should be single, no dependents, make 100k to be safe and that they like lawyers or doctors lol.

We just submitted our new sponsor, a single, dependent-less nurse who makes around 85k, that’s the what we could do so let’s see what happens.

Wanted to share incase someone else may assume that based on salary alone a sponsor is automatically approved.

Honestly, the title carries about 50% of the weight when I'm deciding whether to read a fic.

I’ve seen some WILD titles and I’m like why would you even name it that 😭. It can make or break it for me. On the other side, I think the title sometimes has very little to do with the story itself or it may not be as obvious at first as to how it relates to the story. I prefer some subtleness or at least don’t give away the entire plot/ ending with just the title, but I’m curious about others thoughts?

I’m reading Détraquée now and while I’m not finished, I’m really craving a Draco that is obsessed with Hr like Hr is obsessed with Draco in this fic!!

Im thinking of this one scene from Greys Anatomy where Owen ch*ckes Cristina while they’re asleep due to a PTSD symptom from war.
Not looking for something that has exactly that (unless?) but something similar to it where D and Hr are together or at least near one another and D’s trauma and past experiences make it very hard for Hr to be around him.

This could be substance abuse, SA trauma on her end, etc etc.

I’ve really enjoyed Crumple and Aftermath as it goes through not only the healing but depicts what made them get to that point. And it was pretty heavy.

Please don’t rec Perfectly in Pieces. Although I do like the premise, the writing isn’t for me and actually triggers me.

Edit: something similar to After by Anna Todd coupled with the heavy angst of like Manacled is what I’m looking for.

**Major major spoiler coming in**

I’m currently about halfway through with this fic and it’s gotten to a point that’s given me pause as a morally inclined reader. H goes back in time to reverse D’s death and ends up as 17 year old H…she still has her same thoughts, feelings, experiences etc as a 26 year old women… now she’s with D who is a real 16? year old and I’m finding it a bit strange to get through this.

Maybe something happens later and the plot changes again but this seems like a big (moral) plot hole that the writer allowed.

Does this timeline stick, or is there a plot twist that fixes the age gap between them? Any words of comfort will do 😅

P.S. since I’m already here, Pensieve Podfics did such an amazing job narrating!! So enjoyable to listen to.

Idk why I’m suddenly thinking back on our relationship but now I feel like a total idiot bc there were so many red flags that I totally ignored. Here are a few that are funny and also weird.

- His friends would ask me if I waxed down there. Yep, read that right. We were at a cafe, my ex left to get us drinks and I was left at the table with three of his guy friends and they were sooo ‘curious’ about foreign girls, specifically American women. They had tons of weird questions like that and had no shame about asking. I giggled it off and obvs didn’t answer bc it’s one of their business but wow, thinking back im such an idiot!

- Since we lived far from each other, when I would visit him in his city for the weekend, we would rent a room for a few days and I now realize these were love motels… gross. The front desk lady even stopped us once as we’re were checking in and asked for my ID and age. My ex was a lot older than me so that makes sense.

- He loved watching videos of babies on YouTube. Like babies playing etc etc and puppies as well.. i don’t want to think too deeply abt that.

- He would always insist on bathing me, like washing my hair and feet, every time we showered. On that same note he would not let me pick up my food, preferring to share a bowl and he would feed me from his spoon/chopstick.

All this to say, he still broke up with me over text without a second thought! Totally random 😂 I learned some valuable lessons to say the least lol

Anyway this doesn’t really have much to do with the fact that he was Korean but that was a weird relationship and I’m glad to be out of there.

Edit : I’m not making a generalization! That past experience shouldn't dissuade anyone from exploring a relationship with someone from Korea; rather, it's a reminder that every person is unique, and finding the right partner often involves learning from the journey along the way :))

I like to come to my neighborhood coffee due g the morning rush hour. There are a few companies close by and the workers come to get coffee before their day, and throughout the morning. They come in groups and seem to be quite friendly with each other, having loud conversations that I wish I could be a part of. I drop off baby at daycare, and come have a few hours in the coffee shop to study, read etc. before I drop off baby I also happen to follow the same route of the workers to their office, as daycare is close by. I feel purposeful and belongingness in those few moments. Being a SAHM is a blessing and curse where life passes you by and before you know it you are yearning for simple conversations people who have similar motivations or even mundane daily chatter that we usually take for granted. Anyway I will continue to enjoy the energy these strangers bring into a few hours of my day.

He could be begging for forgiveness of anything… except real cheating, I don’t mess with that stuff. Very desperate and angsty. Extra points if he begs on his knees.

Hi I’m a 28F SAHM, I would like to speak with my baby’s teacher comfortably. I’m from the US and am an English teacher.

I can’t remember anything else about the fic besides the fact that E would refer to B as sparrow , ‘my sparrow’ etc.. I know this isn’t much to go by AT ALL but lmk if anyone ca think of anything.