u/sylphofbreath12

My boy is almost one, and is eating mostly food now with some breastmilk. I do still worry that he should eat more and drink less milk, but we have made great progress the past few weeks, and are still improving.

But tonight, probably cause he missed a nap and was just cranky, he absolutely refused to eat any of his supper. He tasted it a few times and then threw everything on the floor no matter what we tried. So we finished up and got him ready for bed.

He is still nursed to sleep (I know, one thing at a time...) so he's not going to bed hungry. But as he becomes a toddler with stronger opinions, how hard do we need to try to force him to eat if he refuses? We really don't want him to be picky and get to demand a different meal than us, but we don't want to be cruel, and of course, don't want him to starve! But, as long as he's generally eating and growing as he should, is it reasonable to say "this is what we're having, take it or leave it"? Or is it more important he eats something at every meal time, even if it's not what we're having, or if it's not necessarily the healthiest?

I just realized from another Reddit thread that I'm a bit behind on weaning my almost 11 month old. Part of what was recommended for his age, along with decreasing breastmilk, is starting to offer cow's milk. Can I just skip this step, or is plant-based milk an acceptable substitute in terms of his current nutrition needs? Is there a specific type of plant milk that would be best?

EDIT: What I meant by "weaning" was really transitioning to primarily solids, I understand the benefits of extended breastfeeding and do plan to try to keep that going beyond 12 months as long as I can! And thank you to everyone who responded so far! I will continue with breastmilk and research some high calcium plant milk options!

My boy is almost 11 months old. I've heard that up to 12 months they should have milk primarily and food secondary, then switch, and I'm worried that we're getting close to then and still relying too much on milk. How gradually should the transition to a food-based diet happen in order to meet the deadline? *Or*- do they mean that 12 months is when you should *start* transitioning to more food?

I work full-time and rely on grandparents for childcare, so I leave them two thawed purees for breakfast and lunch and pumped milk for the day, then give him some of whatever we're having for dinner. Our pediatrician was pretty adamant about giving solids instead of purees, but I already don't have the time or energy to keep up with everything *without* food prepping him actual meals every single week. I am worried I'm already not giving enough solid food, and terrified about how I'm going to manage to feed him enough when it's no longer as simple as popping out a boob!

I'm trying not to feed my 8 month old to sleep anymore (I feed him right before bed but try to make sure he's awake when I put him down.) But as of a few days ago, if he's not out as soon as he goes down, no matter how sleepy he seemed, he stands up when i leave the room. We've then been going back in to feed him or rock/sing him to sleep, I just assume he's not going to just lay himself back down once he'sup and alert. But should we wait for him to tire himself out? At least he doesn't always cry the whole time...