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I actually recently posted in here about our mismatch drives…
(Also note it wasn’t always like this, the past five months or so I’ve noticed a decrease in our frequency)
…. However

I’m really struggling right now and just need some outside perspective or advice.
My boyfriend and I have been living together for less than a year. Out of nowhere, he told me recently that he’s not satisfied with our sex life and has no motivation to have sex with me. He said that even doing it once a week takes a lot of effort for him to want to do it, and that he just doesn’t care for it anymore (though a part of him still wants to, so it's a mix of both). He used to tell me how great our sex life was, so hearing that he's already "over it" after less than a year of living together feels like a massive blow.
When he told me this, I immediately broke down. I asked him if I was doing something wrong or if he had lost attraction to me. He gave me absolutely zero reassurance. All he said was, "I don’t know, maybe it’s me." When I asked if he even enjoys it when we do have sex, he just said, "I mean, it’s fine."
While I was crying, he didn't comfort me. He just asked why I was crying and asked if I was mad. When I told him he wasn't reassuring me that I wasn't doing anything wrong, he just said, "Idk, maybe you're not doing anything wrong." His only real apology was, "I'm sorry it made you feel that way."
I feel so incredibly unattractive right now. I feel like it's completely my fault and I don't even want to show him my body anymore. I am so hurt by his lack of empathy and how dismissive he's being.
How do I navigate this? Is this a "him" problem or did moving in together kill his attraction to me? How do I deal with the complete lack of reassurance?

I’m really struggling right now and just need some outside perspective or advice.
My boyfriend and I have been living together for less than a year. Out of nowhere, he told me recently that he’s not satisfied with our sex life and has no motivation to have sex with me. He said that even doing it once a week takes a lot of effort for him to want to do it, and that he just doesn’t care for it anymore (though a part of him still wants to, so it's a mix of both). He used to tell me how great our sex life was, so hearing that he's already "over it" after less than a year of living together feels like a massive blow.
When he told me this, I immediately broke down. I asked him if I was doing something wrong or if he had lost attraction to me. He gave me absolutely zero reassurance. All he said was, "I don’t know, maybe it’s me." When I asked if he even enjoys it when we do have sex, he just said, "I mean, it’s fine."
While I was crying, he didn't comfort me. He just asked why I was crying and asked if I was mad. When I told him he wasn't reassuring me that I wasn't doing anything wrong, he just said, "Idk, maybe you're not doing anything wrong." His only real apology was, "I'm sorry it made you feel that way."
I feel so incredibly unattractive right now. I feel like it's completely my fault and I don't even want to show him my body anymore. I am so hurt by his lack of empathy and how dismissive he's being.

How do I navigate this?

I’ve had mine for 5 years, I can kinda feel where I am in my cycle by paying attention to when I cramp and my discharge
I don’t have periods except maybe once a year and it’s light spotting for 3 days.
Here lately I’ve been really digging on the side affects
And I’m 24… I rarely ever have a drive like that and now I’m wondering if any other women have noticed a decrease in desire with their iud..

I got mine when I was in absent from sex and in an abusive relationship so here lately I’ve really been paying more attention to the side effects I may be experiencing

TW for physical assault./ DV

Tonight, I was in the bathtub because it’s where I feel safe due to an anxiety attack that prolonged for hours from a previous text message conversation with my partner about how I want to talk about the weird tension from last night yet he rejected it completely telling me we’re not talking about it, and my partner told me to get out and When I said no, this is where I feel safe he called me ridiculous and inconsiderate. I explained that I didn't want to leave because I felt safe there. He threatened that he was "about to get mad," and when I told him to go regulate himself, he said "I'm not playing with you." He then grabbed all of my pillows and blankets, threw them into the hallway, and explicitly told me he was going to "put his hands on me." But before he did so he counted down and said “ this is going to break my heart” but He grabbed me forcibly out of the tub, causing me to hit the bathroom floor. I was able to video record when he began threatening me too, I’m considering going to the station tomorrow to file a report.. but I feel guilty and dramatic if I took it that far. When I got up from the floor he asked “ why are you being like this” and began running the bath for himself. I managed to leave the house. I walked a mile down the road, got a drink, and am currently sitting outside a closed convention center about a 10-minute walk from home. I am in absolute shock. My car is in a tow yard as I was recently in an accident (not at fault if that matters) so I am also out of work temporarily which means my finances are fucked. I’m leaving tomorrow morning and staying with my best friend. I came home and he was already asleep but saw my stuff on the bed as if I was gonna sleep next to him like everything is okay and normal.

Throw away. Truly I’m at a loss.
I understand today is Father’s Day but Im really hurting over this.
I recently lost my previous job, and my boyfriend’s mom kindly mentioned an opportunity for me to apply as a substitute teacher or teacher's assistant where she works. I'm really eager to get back to working with kids, and the pay and schedule look great. However, when I brought it up to my boyfriend, his reaction felt incredibly discouraging. At first, he questioned if I was even qualified or prepared for it, despite me having relevant experience. Then, he shifted to telling me I shouldn't put myself in that position because of "how his mom is," mentioning she has embedded expectations and that he's just "trying to save us both stress." When I tried to press him to elaborate or clarify whether he's worried about my capability or his mom's involvement, he completely shut down the conversation, saying he didn't want to explain because he just "wanted peace."
To make matters worse, his family came over today, and his mom completely overstepped. While his sister was out at the store, his mom cornered me and started asking pointed questions about how I felt being with him with a newborn in the picture. She went on about how she told him it’s important "not to allow people to just be around" because she became hyper-protective after her own divorce, essentially implying I am a stranger or an outsider around his daughter. When I texted him about this uncomfortable interaction, his immediate response was to minimize it and make excuses. He claimed she "didn't mean anything by it," that she just "likes to repeat stuff as an affirmation for herself," and told me not to sweat it because "it's hard for her to just trust someone with her granddaughter."
After his sister and his mom finally left, I was left dealing with an immense amount of anxiety and honestly felt like a stranger in my own house. I get his text explanations, but it doesn't erase how hurtful the interaction was. When he later asked me what was going on, I tried to open up about how I was feeling, but his response was a dismissive, "Oh, that was all?" He then immediately announced he was going to go play video games. Because he had drummed it into me all day that he just "wanted peace," I told him everything was okay and kept my remaining questions and concerns to myself just to avoid rocking the boat.
While he was gaming, I went upstairs to paint for a bit and eventually decided to clear my head by going for a walk. When I went to tell him I was leaving, his behavior shifted again. He seemed completely hesitant to kiss me goodbye. When I asked him what was wrong, he brushed me off, saying, "Don't worry about it, go on your walk," and then claimed it was "weird" of me to ask that right as I was about to leave. I told him that if something was actually wrong, I wouldn't just walk out the door—I would stay and talk through it. He just repeated, "Just go on your walk." I asked if he wanted to talk about it when I got back, and he said, "There's nothing to talk about." When I told him it really didn't seem that way, he just said, "Just go on your walk love, we're good."
It completely threw me off, so I just walked out without saying another word. I feel like I'm getting absolutely zero emotional support and being made to feel like I'm just "taking things personally" or reacting wrong again. How can someone tell me everything is "good" while simultaneously acting distant, telling me not to worry about it, and refusing to communicate… i mean i came home from my walk feeling better but walked in and heard the bath draining and we always shower together. I told him I wish he had texted me to let me know since we always bathe together and he laughed and said “I can’t win, I just want one day without stress” I said okay and walked away and I just kept hearing him scoff laugh and sigh downstairs while I cried in the bathroom for an hour before I was able to take a shower. (When a bath is ran it uses all the hot water in the tank)

Am I losing my mind, or is this a massive pattern of red flags?

TLDR:
After I lost my job, my boyfriend's mom offered me a great substitute teaching/assistant role at her school, but my boyfriend immediately discouraged me, questioned my abilities, and claimed his mom has "embedded expectations" that would cause stress. He completely shut down when I asked him to elaborate.
Later today, his mom came over and cornered me, making passive-aggressive comments about how I’m basically a stranger around his daughter. When I told my boyfriend, he dismissed my feelings and made excuses for her. When I tried to open up about my anxiety afterward, he minimized it with a dismissive "Oh, that was all?" and went to play video games. When I later tried to go for a walk to clear my head, he acted incredibly distant and cold, yet insisted "we're good" while repeatedly pushing me out the door and refusing to communicate. I feel completely emotionally abandoned and im so tired of feeling like I'm the problem.