This Just In: I Probably Didn't Give My Dog "Basic Needs"

This Just In: I Probably Didn't Give My Dog "Basic Needs"

Lots of discourse over on Facebook about Haz being banned... I always speak up about my success story because incompetent R+ only had basically ruined my dog before I rescued her. This person said because I didn't get a 2 year old dog a battery of medical tests I didn't meet her "basic needs."

🤔 Turns out all those behaviors that might have been "medical problems" magically disappeared after I trained her properly...

u/the_real_maddison — 5 days ago

Please Help Me Be Attracted To My Husband Again

I am trying to be. I want to be. But his touch and efforts feel fake and cloying.

I was denied so many years, we even opened the relationship and I had boyfriends for a while because he just didn't care to try. He always had something else more important.

I used to be absolutely ravenous and now I just tense up when he's around. Something within me fundamentally broke (no more crying, no more begging) after my 40th birthday so I just stopped trying. What's the point? Once he saw that, after 14 years he finally got tested for low T and is taking shots. Bought "She Comes First." Leaves it out so "I can see him reading it."

But I just feel like it's too late. He very low effort wakes up with rubs a boner on me. When I hesitate he just says "okay I'll go into the other room then" and goes and plays video games instead. He says stuff like "I'd like to eat you out" but my nervous system is just so fried with the rubber banding that it feels more comfortable when (inevitably) he gives up and leaves me alone in a room by myself. My body is just waiting for him to leave, to stop, to give up.

And he still does. Which is right because I tell him I'm not comfortable. Technically he's doing everything right I guess.

Sex therapy? What can I do? I think I have what's called "healing burnout." I have been in therapy for 8 years, trying to carry the emotional burden of the marriage myself (he is dismissive avoidant) and I'm just so tired of trying. I have written pages of letters, watched tons of self help/relationship videos, explained again and again, held his hand, over explained, basically written him a manual multiple times over.

It sucks because we are best friends and we love each other and are so wonderful together in every way but this one.

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u/the_real_maddison — 2 months ago

This isn't a horse training sub but...

"Positive reinforcement, like giving treats, is something that we never do here at Lazy Oaks. First of all, if you don't have treats, the horse is definitely not going to do what you ask him to do AND it creates a lot of disrespect and a lot of pushiness."

I thought this was interesting. For all the "scientifically all animals do best with positive reinforcement only so dogs should be trained that way too" arguments.

u/the_real_maddison — 2 months ago
▲ 138 r/YaeMiko

💜✨Updated On-Field Yae Artifact Sets?✨💜

Hello everyone! With the release of SSC, is there anything new I need to know about our girl? I am C0, R1 currently running Guilded Dreams. Thank you! 🦊

u/the_real_maddison — 3 months ago

Questions About Double Family Housing 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Newbie here again! You all have been so helpful, so I figured I'd ask another.

I know that when you do the double/triple/quad family housing it helps mostly with gardening and not necessarily animals or artisans (from what I understand it's better to have more single family houses for output on those,) but when it comes to assigning families jobs outside the home, what do the mechanics look like?

For example, if I have a additional family home with no yard, would two homes fill up the entire trade post (at two houses, four families in total?) Or one home for one stable with two assignment spots?

Can the families be split up? Or will they all just go to the assigned place you give them? Say, a sawpit? Will one family hit the sawpit and the other just be permanently unassigned?

Any other tips and tricks for the upgrading of burgages and their uses is greatly appreciated!✨

Thanks again! ◝(ᵔᗜᵔ)◜

^All ^hail ^Apple ^Lord 🍎

u/the_real_maddison — 3 months ago

Why Are The Burgage Indicators Red?

Newbie here, is red in this scenario bad? Thank you! ◝(ᵔᗜᵔ)◜

u/the_real_maddison — 3 months ago

New Player: Help With UI & Other Family Management Tips!

Hello! 🛖

New player here, and loving the game. For the life of me I couldn't find an explanation for what these symbols mean when I press the [Tab] button (just discovered that, too! 🤭)

What does the (red) market icon, (blue) exclamation point and (yellow) hammer and cog mean?

Is there any way to more efficiently see/know what all my families are doing besides hitting tab and/or clicking the burgage plot itself to see/reassign? 🤔 I know when you un-employ all your work stations and assign with E, it just takes the nearest family from the nearest burgage, correct?

Anyway, any other tips and tricks are greatly appreciated! I'm logging tons of hours on this game already. One tip I saw was using hitching posts only for oxen to keep track of them more efficiently, and keep them all kind of central in town so they're never too far away from anything they need done.

Bonus: What are your favorite starting resources?🎣🪨🫐🏹🍄‍🟫⚔️

Thank you! ◝(ᵔᗜᵔ)◜

u/the_real_maddison — 3 months ago

New Router Not Letting Old Devices Connect, WTF?!

I have a new Verizon router and it's bricked my Kindle and Nintendo Switch.

I've tried changing bandwidths to 2.4GHz, 5Ghz, both devices have the latest updates. Tried "forgetting" wifi, rebooting router...

Has anyone else encountered this problem? First generation Kindle and basically an original Switch, but weirdly my husband's Switch works just fine and it was bought a week after mine.

The router is working fine for all other devices except those two.

If anyone has encountered this problem previously and would share their dogs experience I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you.

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u/the_real_maddison — 3 months ago

All Yours Turrets Are Belong To Me

It's almost not fair because I ALSO get 4+ more extra shots before I start taking damage. Just don't clip the torb turret under a doorway, it'll get destroyed!

u/the_real_maddison — 4 months ago
▲ 2.8k r/Chihuahua

Ponyo Is Getting Old 😭

I love her so much but at 14 years old I'm dreading the inevitable 😥 Those with geriatric Chihuahua experience, can I hear your stories?

u/the_real_maddison — 4 months ago

🍲 Boneless Skinless Chicken Thighs Were On Sale ...

🍲 Give me your best recipes please! I usually only cook with breast but we're branching out because we're starting to buy in bulk and freeze. Bonus if it's a hit with kids! ✨

Thank you so much!

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u/the_real_maddison — 4 months ago

There seems to be these thoughts that come to me unbidden now that I know how I was raised. Today's thought was:

When do I remember my mother cooking a meal? 🤔

Then I look at myself and the fact that I forget to eat for days on end and have an inhuman way of ignoring hunger.

Huh. Oh that's right.

Those memories aren't there.

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u/the_real_maddison — 5 months ago