u/thecaptain_command

I’m 28. I’ve dated women before but I still have no confidence or self esteem. Not sure if it’s wrong for me to ask out women at their job. I feel like if someone else did it, I wouldn’t judge them or feel negative about it. But me doing it, makes me feel like I’m going to make the woman feel unsafe.

I literally feel like the HR meme.

Some women I’ve met have seemed really nice and I find them pretty. But also maybe they just have good customer service and I’m autistic.

I feel so depressed because I don’t know where I stand and I’d rather play it safe than be seen as a stalker

Vent: I’m a driver so I understand why but I need to vent.

My mom is old and doesn’t have a car. Sometimes I drive her when I have time, but I prioritize earning money on the weekends because it’s just a prime time for me.

I knew she wanted to go to the YMCA today, so I sent her some money to order a ride (driving back and forth for this just wastes my gas). I ended up earning my daily goal early and made it home at the same time she was waiting for her ride. She told me she had been waiting for 20 minutes and that no driver had come to get her.

Well that’s because the trip costs her $10, which means the driver is only get like $5 AT BEST. So, duh, no one will move their car for that.

It’s not the hypothetical drivers fault, but god I cried that day thinking about how my mom struggles to get transportation. And my mom is someone who tips with cash because she knows people work hard and she’s grateful.

Sorry I just wanted to vent.

I see so many people complain about having a degree, or even multiple degrees, and still working dead end jobs.

Yes, the job market is bad right now, but a lot of the people making these posts have had their degrees for years and are still saying they can’t find a job. I think a big part of the problem is that many people choose majors based on their interests instead of industries that are actually hiring.

The worst part is that some of them blame everyone but themselves. If you get a master’s degree without ever working a professional job first, you’re often going to look overqualified for entry level positions. On top of that, a lot of these degrees are in fields that employers aren’t actively looking for.

What you should do is look at career starting salaries in your area or areas you’re willing to commute to, and look at what they require. If the job states a specific degree, that’s the degree you need. If it doesn’t state specifically, choose a major that aligns the closest.

If you’re at UMPI and planning to finish your degree as quickly as possible, prioritize getting an internship before you graduate. I completed all 120 credits in about two semesters and graduated with a 3.46 GPA, but not having an internship made finding my first job much more difficult.

Get enough credits to qualify for internships, start applying, and slow down your degree if necessary.

I applied to over 500 jobs, had about 20 interviews, and received one job offer. During many of those interviews, my lack of an internship came up.

I didn’t know this going in, and I honestly wish I had known because this would’ve also allowed me to gain experience while earning money before even finishing my degree which would’ve been nice.